Why do some guys rub the clit like it's a damn button? It hurts god damnit! This is something you tend to see very often in pornflicks :S
Why do guys rub the clit like it's a damn button in pornmovies?
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Not me! I'm careful, gentle, consistent and steady. Soft touch or tongue only. I like to suck my wife's clit and she loves my "blowjobs." I also like to gently pinch it and jerk it off, she LOVES my "handjobs." But sometimes she wants me to rub it harder and faster, but that's because she's ready for the big one before we commence with the hot sex 
I agree though, those porno dudes are doing it for the cliches, not the real deal!
I agree though, those porno dudes are doing it for the cliches, not the real deal!
From time to time I do enjoy rough clit-play... but not very often. Usually just if I'm buzzed from a few drinks.
If a guy is doing something me lady-bits don't like I just gently inform them and show them what I do like. I like to play teacher sometimes... (don't get to do that much anymore, probably the only bad thing about knowing your partner like the back of your hand.)
If a guy is doing something me lady-bits don't like I just gently inform them and show them what I do like. I like to play teacher sometimes... (don't get to do that much anymore, probably the only bad thing about knowing your partner like the back of your hand.)
Fun to hear your opinions about this because this is something i have really thought about, i just had this conversation with my man earlier today, he was as confused as I xD
Sometimes when he fingers me, he's sooo gentle, and knows just how to drive me up the wall and make me cum like a maniac. Other times he rubs hard and fast and it makes my body clench up in a fit of pre-orgasmic chaos... which makes me cum like a maniac.
Can't always do the same old thing... shit gets boring. Gotta get feisty once in awhile
By the way, welcum to the site... enjoy!
Can't always do the same old thing... shit gets boring. Gotta get feisty once in awhile
By the way, welcum to the site... enjoy!
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I've been with women who enjoyed that kind of thing a lot, and then with other women who would find such a thing quite painful. Different people are different. I'm not sure why it's so common in porno, though.
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I dunno, maybe the porn people have to make it look more obvious for the camera or something?
Sadly, it took me a while to figure out that the density of nerve endings is much greater in a clit than a penis, and thus must be treated more gently.
Sadly, it took me a while to figure out that the density of nerve endings is much greater in a clit than a penis, and thus must be treated more gently.
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Because porn is not equal to real life?
Porn aside, I can think of three reasons that play/have played a part in my not being gentle enough that I imagine have influenced other guys:
1. Men's genitals work very differently: Penises respond to/need a rough kind of treatment, and mostly we need that sort of intense, "manhandling" stimulation to get off. Successful handjobs (male version) are not delicate matters. With that as my model in mind, I analogized that to the clit thinking that's what also works for a woman. Even after learning that manual clit stimulation works best, most often, with the more gentle/delicate touch, when doing it that way with a woman, I tend to match her enthusiasm for what's going on--that is, as she gets more turned on and into it, I get more turned on and am more into it, and as she's more excited, so am I and I get more energetic, lose myself in the moment, and start working to push her over the edge. So, I can get overzealous because I'm responding in a primal, more emotive and non-thinking way--which is cool psychologically and emotionally for both of us because we feel so connected, and as she nears orgasm getting very focused on the outcome rather than the process (yes major pun). Despite knowing this, it's still a problem sometimes as I want to and do participate emotionally and get caught up in the moment so much and lose sight of what I'm doing and what she needs/wants. It can be difficult sometimes to balance the intellectual and emotional in the moment and give her what she needs/wants, but I'm aware of this problem and talk to my women about it to find ways to stay in the moment but not get over-zealous.
2. It's not easy to observe what really goes on with a woman self-stimulating (true way, not porn way) in photos/videos because the perspective of the lens isn't as easily and usually up-close enough to show specific details of skin on skin. With handjobs, it's easier to capture the process in images or to infer what's going on even if it's not directly shown. E.g., seeing handjobs in mainstream movie where they just show the woman's arm moving up and down vs. trying to interpret seeing a woman being manually stimulated--which isn't depicted as much in film, etc.
3. When I've seen girlfriends masturbate--sometimes after asking them so I can see what works for them, and watching women doing true, non-porn-style masturbating, they seem to rub themselves very fast and rough--at least when they're closing in on orgasm. That was misleading at first--and maybe still influences me despite knowing better now--when I didn't know they were really rubbing like that on the skin just above the clit rather than on the clit itself.
I really want a woman to explain to me what works for her--and to show me, esp. how to bring her to orgasm using my hand with her clit. I think guys in general need to have it explained given the reasons making it easy for us to misunderstand how it works for most women.
1. Men's genitals work very differently: Penises respond to/need a rough kind of treatment, and mostly we need that sort of intense, "manhandling" stimulation to get off. Successful handjobs (male version) are not delicate matters. With that as my model in mind, I analogized that to the clit thinking that's what also works for a woman. Even after learning that manual clit stimulation works best, most often, with the more gentle/delicate touch, when doing it that way with a woman, I tend to match her enthusiasm for what's going on--that is, as she gets more turned on and into it, I get more turned on and am more into it, and as she's more excited, so am I and I get more energetic, lose myself in the moment, and start working to push her over the edge. So, I can get overzealous because I'm responding in a primal, more emotive and non-thinking way--which is cool psychologically and emotionally for both of us because we feel so connected, and as she nears orgasm getting very focused on the outcome rather than the process (yes major pun). Despite knowing this, it's still a problem sometimes as I want to and do participate emotionally and get caught up in the moment so much and lose sight of what I'm doing and what she needs/wants. It can be difficult sometimes to balance the intellectual and emotional in the moment and give her what she needs/wants, but I'm aware of this problem and talk to my women about it to find ways to stay in the moment but not get over-zealous.
2. It's not easy to observe what really goes on with a woman self-stimulating (true way, not porn way) in photos/videos because the perspective of the lens isn't as easily and usually up-close enough to show specific details of skin on skin. With handjobs, it's easier to capture the process in images or to infer what's going on even if it's not directly shown. E.g., seeing handjobs in mainstream movie where they just show the woman's arm moving up and down vs. trying to interpret seeing a woman being manually stimulated--which isn't depicted as much in film, etc.
3. When I've seen girlfriends masturbate--sometimes after asking them so I can see what works for them, and watching women doing true, non-porn-style masturbating, they seem to rub themselves very fast and rough--at least when they're closing in on orgasm. That was misleading at first--and maybe still influences me despite knowing better now--when I didn't know they were really rubbing like that on the skin just above the clit rather than on the clit itself.
I really want a woman to explain to me what works for her--and to show me, esp. how to bring her to orgasm using my hand with her clit. I think guys in general need to have it explained given the reasons making it easy for us to misunderstand how it works for most women.
Clits are like wits: They perform best with subtlety and indirection.
Never like the vet tip of the clit.
Approach it from the side, below or, if your woman has a generous hood, from above, while covered by a labial flap.
Lube generously and constantly with saliva.
Only push hard when her legs are quivering and clenching and she's begun to reach escape velocity.
Never like the vet tip of the clit.
Approach it from the side, below or, if your woman has a generous hood, from above, while covered by a labial flap.
Lube generously and constantly with saliva.
Only push hard when her legs are quivering and clenching and she's begun to reach escape velocity.
Why do guys rub the clit like it's a damn button in pornmovies?
Is this a Riddle from the Riddler to the Batman question????????
Cause they thought it was the remote for the sports channel?
Is this a Riddle from the Riddler to the Batman question????????
Cause they thought it was the remote for the sports channel?
I've been with women that like it a bit rougher than I would think to deliver, and I've been with women that want it very soft, slow and loving, like you are gently licking a very sensitive raw nerve, because in most cases, you are. There are way more nerve endings in a clitoris than there are on a penis. You have to treat the clit with kit gloves!
But if a woman needs it a little more intense, then I'm happy to deliver. If the body is not responding, then I know I'm doing something wrong. Worst case senario, I ask what they like. Everyone is different. You have to to read the clit and the body language and adjust your stimulation accordingly.
But if a woman needs it a little more intense, then I'm happy to deliver. If the body is not responding, then I know I'm doing something wrong. Worst case senario, I ask what they like. Everyone is different. You have to to read the clit and the body language and adjust your stimulation accordingly.
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To be consistent with all of the other unrealistic porn clichés?
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