Maybe you are looking for the women who are looking for those types of guys. You are attracted to those type of who like fucked up men. Be yourself and look for a woman who will like you for you. Don't ever feel that rejection is a curse...more than often those rejections are blessings in disguise. Clean your place (your crib). Fresh bed linens. Clean your bathroom--big time. Wash those dishes. Aromatherapy candles and incense. Invest in some nice instrumental music (Antonio Carlos Jobim not Yma Sumac unless you want Yetis humping your lawn furniture.) Clean yourself up. Bath and Body Works for Men (Woodland). Slap on some really nice smelling cologne (but not too much). I don't mean Brut 33 by Faberge (You aren't going for the Sasquaches and Wookies now). Fine Department Store-type spritzers, we're talkin' about here. Buy some Armani Black Code. Or Spark for Men by Liz Claiborne. These colognes are great. Remember not too much...
Dress in some nice clean clothes for your body type. Comfort and Color coordination.
Go to clubs and talk with women as friends. Be friends. Ask questions. Be sincere. (Don't ever talk about anything about their personal relationships (the ex's) or finances or jobs. If they want to ask you about your personal relationships, finances, and/or job situation, STOP talking, RUN, don't walk. If these women want these things from you, they should be dating accountants, bankers, financiers, and joint-venture capitalists not you.) Ask them about their favorite things. Hobbies.
Something fun.
If you want love, talk with women as friends first. Tread slowly. If you want sex, ask her about it. Be man enough for any answer you get from her. There are other avenues for sex anyway. I think that you use your imagination for that. What you think is sexy may not be sexy to her. You both should really be talking awhile if you've ready to talk about sex. Hollywood makes things simple. Real people. Real love. Real sex. Takes time. Sorry. If you rush through, you will miss a lot. When people force things, "fight or flight"--most of the time flight. So tread slowly.
Allow each other to be yourselves. Nobody is perfect. If she don't like you, fine--there's some other girl out there wanting you and waiting for you.