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nick22ca said:
I think it's the opposite of smart (take a guess). Self-indulgence at its best, to be sure. But the detail that went into it...knowing that there are people out there who have become the bottom line on such details, amid other problems in the world. Frightening.

HMM I guess I never thought of it that way.
I would fall for all that...but I *think* if it were really just a ploy I'd figure it out in short order.
 

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The worse kind of jerks & bad asses for me are the bitter ones...man, is so annoying a man that is sticked in bitter waters and spills it wherever they go...they have to get over it soon because is not pleasant at all....

All of us at some point get hurt be we have to heal at somepoint...


:rolleyes:
 

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there a lotta bullshit here, i think gg42 is the closest one here to be right...
look to nature, ur not gonna see a female of any species, that has a choice of picking out who she wants to f*ck, picking out the dude in the corner with his dick tucked between his legs..she's gonna go for the one wavin his dick in her face(the one thats puttin the vibe out). i think this is the greatest benefit of having an above average penis, is that it distracts people...and gets them thinking about what u have and how u use it...ur "hung," just try waving ur dick around a little, i promise some dumb bitch will approach u. unlike nature the real alpha male wont kick ur ass, so u can be as sexual as u want with whoever u want...when she does approach, smile, lock eyes with her, be cordial and lewd(get close) at the same time, dont look desperate, and let her know what u have to offer. im young...so this is all i can say, but it works better than it sounds. -good luck...

* i think i used too many ...'s
 

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Erica Jong wrote in "Every Woman's Blues" that a man who is not confident about his cock will never be confident about himself in general, any girl friend he has, or pretty much anything else. Makes more sense than not. If you read some of the false assertions here with regard to capacity, etc... you can get an inferiority complex, and perhaps that's why some folks come here. I had a negative self image for years, and it never ever completely goes away. Part of having such feelings is that it serves some inner purpose of wanting to feel inferior, thereby negating the possibility of superior performance at anything or in achieving goals. You can't fail if you can't perform. Woman pick up on this kind of personality. Most women don't want to have to coddle or continually boost the ego of their man like he was their son, although there are those few which do. I'm afraid your session is now up....
 

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In my personal life, I've never been big on being an arrogant jerk as it's not my nature. I used it as a tool in specific situations when I was younger but I have no need for that shit anymore. During the brief period when I hustled, I discovered my money tree: the worse I treated guys, the harder they chased and the more money I made. I was speaking to another member on the phone a couple nights ago and they hit it on the head; we found out what they wanted, made them chase it and never gave it to them. My point is, people (women as well as men) like a challenge. Generally (with exception), we are rather egotistical in the fact that we think we can "change" a person for the better as they get little glimmers of the stellar human being the jerk can become. The pursuit of this has had people chasing assholes for eons.
 

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:smile: Look a t what a bad ass or jerk did for whitney houston!I feel so sorry for her.I think who we keep company with says a lot about who we are. I dont think bad asses or jerks get all the women!
 

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Naww, your not Brad Pit....one better, cause you are just as sexy AND have a great big sexy cock...... :flirt: celebrites are so over rated!

BTW - good answer!

BigPoppaFury said:
I don't think I'm a jerk or a badass. I'm pretty quiet too and can sometimes find myself uncomfortable in certain everyday social situations. I'm no Brad Pitt either. However I do have confidence, I do accept my faults and I've learned not to pick holes in myself because of them. It's amazing how easy it is to just accept the things that make you the person you are and realise that it really isn't all that bad. Doesn't mean I don't try and change those things still, just that while they're there I don't beat myself up about it.

As soon as you realise you're really not so bad, it doesn't matter if you're quiet, shy, mild mannered. Because when a girl talks to you she'll see the natural confidence of someone who is happy with themself. From then on it gets easier and easier. Good luck!
 

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This has alredy been pointed out, but I second the notion that alot of guys mistake men that are confident for men that are bad asses. Women are not attracted to jerks, or at least respectable women aren't. Basically, if you act like an ass hole, your going to attract a woman that likes drama. You might get laid...but be prepared for the dramatics.

I also want to point out that "shy" (for lack of a better term) guys can be very appealing, as long as it's not overwhelming and relentless. I've dated shy guys, and a big part of the attraction was thinking "Hmmm, I bet I can get him to come outta his shell"... etc. I would venture to guess that the more confident men pull women easier because the women they are pulling aren't up for a challenge. I don't know, this is an iffy topic, just can't make the assumption that "confidence" gets you women. It's an entire package, and quite frankly it boils down to attraction and chemistry. Of course, this is just my opinion.....and we all know what there like.....:rolleyes:
 

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In one sentence: I like confidence, but I dislike egomaniacs/assholes and guys who are so aloof and smug they think nobody can keep up with them.

I love the quiet, determined confidence. Guys bearing it attract me almost magically, I think it's wonderful to see someone so rested and settled. Definitely it's more attractive than the drama kings who cause a big racket around themselves wherever they go. My experience is that behind their masquerade, they aren't half the man they pretend to be, and there's definitely a lot of man needed to attract me. Not only between the legs.

However, the dislike comes again if the "quiet confidence" turns into this semi-autistic form, where guys become indifferent towards their surrounding.
 

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I agree with a lot of what's been said. In addition, if you're a person who has self-esteem issues, you might subconsciously look for someone who treats you like you believe you deserve to be treated (badly). In that scenario, a guy who's nice, attentive and trying to win your favor seems unappealing. After all, the subconscious thinking goes, if he likes someone like me, there must be something wrong with him!
 

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ClaireTalon said:
In one sentence: I like confidence, but I dislike egomaniacs/assholes and guys who are so aloof and smug they think nobody can keep up with them.

I love the quiet, determined confidence. Guys bearing it attract me almost magically, I think it's wonderful to see someone so rested and settled. Definitely it's more attractive than the drama kings who cause a big racket around themselves wherever they go. My experience is that behind their masquerade, they aren't half the man they pretend to be, and there's definitely a lot of man needed to attract me. Not only between the legs.

However, the dislike comes again if the "quiet confidence" turns into this semi-autistic form, where guys become indifferent towards their surrounding.

Wow. Conversely, there are those that are humble and don't give themselves the right to be as choosy as this. Someone like this, in my mind, would most likely be the common denominator in failed relationships. It's too bad more people don't boil down their preferences to a select, and important, few.
 

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ClaireTalon said:
In one sentence: I like confidence, but I dislike egomaniacs/assholes and guys who are so aloof and smug they think nobody can keep up with them.

I love the quiet, determined confidence. Guys bearing it attract me almost magically, I think it's wonderful to see someone so rested and settled. Definitely it's more attractive than the drama kings who cause a big racket around themselves wherever they go. My experience is that behind their masquerade, they aren't half the man they pretend to be, and there's definitely a lot of man needed to attract me. Not only between the legs.

However, the dislike comes again if the "quiet confidence" turns into this semi-autistic form, where guys become indifferent towards their surrounding.

Drawing on my fine command of the language, I said nothing.

But I did smile and give my hips a shake.
 

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nick22ca said:
I think it's the opposite of smart (take a guess). Self-indulgence at its best, to be sure. But the detail that went into it...knowing that there are people out there who have become the bottom line on such details, amid other problems in the world. Frightening.

I think that I was trying to help the guy out. Yeah, there are major problems out there. Invisibleman didn't create those problems either. Besides, I didn't see any advice from you. Yeah, we have a big war. We have a escalating deficit. We have a lot of apathy. Yeah, if we think about it a little more we can find MORE problems. What's wrong with helping the guy get a true love?
 

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invisibleman said:
I think that I was trying to help the guy out. Yeah, there are major problems out there. Invisibleman didn't create those problems either. Besides, I didn't see any advice from you. Yeah, we have a big war. We have a escalating deficit. We have a lot of apathy. Yeah, if we think about it a little more we can find MORE problems. What's wrong with helping the guy get a true love?

Because it's pretentious to think that your advice applies to him, or that such advice even works in finding 'true love'. I didn't give advice because I try to limit the amount of bullshit I spew. If we think about it a little more, we are more likely to find solutions, not more problems.
 

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SXIGRL said:
HMM I guess I never thought of it that way.
I would fall for all that...but I *think* if it were really just a ploy I'd figure it out in short order.

I am glad that you didn't think that I was being "self indulgent". I was being honest in what I was saying regarding HungShyMan's dilemma. I didn't have any ulterior motives. I was trying to help the guy out. If I went into detail, it was for clarification. Sometimes I have to write in detail so people can really understand where I am coming from. :smile:
 

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nick22ca said:
Because it's pretentious to think that your advice applies to him, or that such advice even works in finding 'true love'. I didn't give advice because I try to limit the amount of bullshit I spew. If we think about it a little more, we are more likely to find solutions, not more problems.

If you have a problem with me and with what I've said, that's your problem. That problem isn't the topic of this thread.
 

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nick22ca said:
Because it's pretentious to think that your advice applies to him, or that such advice even works in finding 'true love'. I didn't give advice because I try to limit the amount of bullshit I spew. If we think about it a little more, we are more likely to find solutions, not more problems.

Yeah in life there aren't any guarantees for anything. You always have to be optimistic and positive. In intention and in actions. Nick--So you're pissed off because you refrained from giving HungShyMan advice. When I gave him some advice, you thought that I shouldn't give it because you couldn't. (Grow up, man.) And you are calling me "the opposite of smart". Keep on believing that I'm not, Nick.
 

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invisibleman said:
Yeah in life there aren't any guarantees for anything. You always have to be optimistic and positive. In intention and in actions. Nick--So you're pissed off because you refrained from giving HungShyMan advice. When I gave him some advice, you thought that I shouldn't give it because you couldn't. (Grow up, man.) And you are calling me "the opposite of smart". Keep on believing that I'm not, Nick.
That is the kind of thinking that leads to the most misguided of advice. "You always have to optimistic and positive"? And you became the bottom line on how to approach life, when? I'm sure different situations require different approaches. Do you now understand what I meant by pretense?

You don't need to tell me what I thought. I didn't give any advice precisely for the reasons stated above. I think that you shouldn't give advice because, as you proved to me and others, it is inflated, absolute, and wrong.

Of course I think you're not intelligent, but it should make you feel better that neither is anyone else. Both in relative and absolute terms, no human is intelligent.

That is the limit of the personal attacks I'm going to do on this thread. If you want to continue being a spaz, be my guest. You could also PM me.
 

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Lordpendragon said:
I'm beginning to think that the sexual liberation of the 60's 70's and 80's bypassed large parts of the U.S.

What sexual revolution was that? Did I miss something?