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Well, I'm definitely attracted to cocky guys to a point. Maybe "very confident" is a better way to put it. But there are different kinds of confidence. I'm not that into jerks or bad-asses. I like guys with a quiet, strong confidence, like they know something I don't. Guys who seem really sure of themselves but don't have to posture or act all macho. In response to what someone else said, if you've convinced yourself you're shy and can't meet women, you'll be shy and you won't meet women. You don't have to be in-your-face to have success. Just be willing to approach women, and be confident that if you let your personality out some of them will find you appealing.
 

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I've asked this question before to some of my friends, and the most interesting reply is one that hasn't been mentioned here, so I thought I'd add it.

My friend said that it's because they have been raised to like them, and it's a societal construct. He said that men were raised to be this way in America, I can't vouche for elsewhere, and that because this was seen as masculine in the eyes of american women, it is desireable to them.
 

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"Well, I'm definitely attracted to cocky guys to a point. Maybe "very confident" is a better way to put it. But there are different kinds of confidence. I'm not that into jerks or bad-asses."

Sorry, but you are into bad asses / jerks. That's the whole point of the post :smile:
 

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I don't know about the mess invisible man nad nick got into. But I think it's pretty simple. You just try. If you fail, it just means you either had a bad technique, both of you weren't a good match, or it was just the wrong time. The more you do that, the more of the factors you begin to eliminate, and eventually you become confident of your chances, and start approaching women you almost know will say yes.

I think for those that are shy, and I used to be very shy a long long time ago, it's mainly because they haven't jumped through enough hoops to realize that's all it's about. Jump, Jump again, and Jump some more and soon you realize, there's not much to be scared of, you'll most likely fall exactly where you thought you would.

That brings up something else. If you aim for something great, you might not get it, but you'll get close. Better that than aiming for something much closer to home and possibly missing that target too.
 

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I think the reason you dont get anyone is in your screen name. SHY. Everyone likes an outgoing confident person.

Not me:tongue: ..Ive always liked the shy, nerdy guy standing in the corner quitely. He'll treat me will and most probably goes off in bed like a fire cracker where as his 'outgoing' friends have been the life of the party, had a few drinks and are suffering from brewers droop
 

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Why do jerks and bad asses get all the woman? Im a nice guy so I never get any women. I hear about guys hitting there there wifes and wonder what Im doing wrong :( women most like that sines no women want a nice guy.

Well, nice guys don't hit on women since they think it's rude (and they're pretty much right, too). If they try striking up a conversation, they still feel like they're treading into rudeness, and will be too nervous to be comfortable and act like themselves. Maybe, when I go out, I should wear a sign that says, "I'm not like the assholes who are hitting on you tonight."

One more thing...

Feel content that the women who fall for jerks and assholes deserve what they get.
 

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Invisibleman - You are now my hero, your first post was amazing !!!

I think a lot of guys whinge about not getting women, but are unwilling to put much effort into getting one.

I like bad arse jerk men to fuck, the more time they have done and the more tattoos they have the better visual for me it is. I would not spend 5 mins with them outside a sexual enviroment ( and cause they are bad arse jerks, they are fine with that :biggrin1: ) .I find them the ultimate in masculine appeal.

I married a man who is the total opposite of that .......:smile: and he is the love of my life.

Honey
 

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C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-E.

Some girls truly do like badasses (like my mother), but most gravitate towards men who are sure of themselves and a little assertive.

There's a difference between a nice guy and a shy guy. Nice guys get laid, shy ones very rarely so (unless they're exceptionally good-looking and no girl can resist them, which is practically no one).
 

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i'm not sure they get ALL the women, i've got my wife and ask anyone around, she's the schiznit fer sure and no one i know would describe me as a jerk or bad ass. if you're too busy overthinking things, you might be missing some of the great women out there for you
 

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It took me a while to figure this out, too.

It's not that women don't like nice guys or like assholes - the deal is that women like confident guys, and don't like guys who aren't confident.

Doesn't matter so much if he turns out to be an asshole later - the confidence gets his foot in the door.


Too true, girls like a confident guy, who is a good bloke (nice guy). Confidence is what enables u to pick girls up.. but it won't enable u to keep the fit ones.. they know they can easlily get a better man else where.
 

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Here's the thing, though...

The guys who women perceive to be "confident" are often also the same ones that us guys know better; and we know that they're jerks when they're talking to anyone else.

Those guys are the ones who talk down about women behind their backs. That's why we nice guys say that the jerks are the ones who get laid.
 

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I'm a pretty nice guy usually but I have a darker side, like everyone. I think a bit of an edge is kinda cool.

I think some of the best sex I've ever had was after working a 26 hour shift during a power outage. I was so exhausted I literally was crude, hard and demanding. I was uncaring about her, I just used her however I pleased and as long as I felt like. It wasn't angry, it was just raw animal, with no human higher elements really functioning any longer. I wanted her body for my pleasure and Ihad the strength to take it and I took it and took it hard. On more than one occasion that was a nice mix into our usual routine.

So, the "bad boy" sex is really fucking good. It's not my main thing, but when it's honest like that and raw, it's really intense.

I have gotten forgiven for horrible crimes by getting her off really, really well and fucking her brains out.

So, any dude with half a fucking brain learns to fuck her brains out as a matter of self survival. Fucking a womans brains out makes her pleasant, pliable, sleepy and quiet. Unfortunately, it makes us sleep for 12 hrs straight....