I have a friend who is supposedly one of thoge guys. He never strung me along though. We had sex when I was single, and stopped when I found someone I wanted to be serious with. He never made any promises to me at all. I remember the first night I spent with him he held me and told me a lot of secrets. I felt really close to him. But then he made it clear:
"I'm not the one you fall in love with becasue I'm too young to get married. I already told you I have two sons, and their mothers get child-support straight from my check. The courts can only take so much from me, so if a girl is looking for the dude with the good job to attach a kid to, I'm not the one. She can't get much from me, and she'd only be taking away from my existing children and their mothers. Fuck shit up for everybody. So don't get this twisted. I really like you, I want to fuck you for a long time. I do not want to be your man."
Now he's charming as hell, and fun to be with (and good in bed) so naturally I developed a crush on him. But he continued to make it clear: "I do not want to be your man." The crush subsided as crushes do, and we still talk on the phone from time to time. He's a real friend, not just a fuck buddy, which is what we both wanted. But there's always drama in his life. There's always some crazy woman or other who is losing her shit over him. I asked him if he gives every woman the same speech. He says he does. I can't swear he does, but I can't see any reason to lie either.
Women buy him all sorts of things to try to win his affection: Cars, jewels, furs you name it! I mean the man is fine as hell, but DAMN"! A car? With a $10,000 entertainment system? And spinners? Come on. But women give him things like that all the time.
I asked him how he inspired this, and why there was so much drama. He said,
"I say, 'I don't love you. I don't want to be with you forever.' but some women hear 'I love you very much. I want to be with you forever.' and go crazy when faced with the truth. They feel like they've been wasting their time. And the truth is, maybe they are."