Why Do Men Hide Their Penis?

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Because in order to institute patriarchy, it was necessary for men to do everything they could to keep women from thinking about penis size and from including the varying desirability of different penises as a main variable in determining the man's overall worth. Doing this also desexualizes the male in terms of primary sexual characteristics (penis size, testicle size, semen productivity, etc.), and shifts all the attention to secondary sexual characteristics (deep voice, overall body size, muscle, etc.). Most importantly, it shifts attention from what he was born with to what he can accomplish, putting him in the role of objectifier rather than objectified. What he is born with implicitly is a function of the mother, in the context of societal mythology throughout much of history. By creating a culture where the male more often objectifies women rather than vice versa, patriarchy is easier to impose upon the population. Some of what is happening these days is challenging patriarchy, but I don't think it will really be "overthrown" without unveiling the male genitalia much more, including erections. I suspect this will happen, possibly in my lifetime, and created a group here based on it. (Future Big Dick World)
 

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I used to be really insecure about all aspects of my dick. I literally didn't know what size a soft was was supposed to be, and thought they were all like 7 itches all the time or something. So I put it in my head that I was tiny, when really I wasn't. I would assume most people "hide" it due to insecurity. Who wants to find out that they're smaller then someone? And then there's just the idea of keeping yourself intimate for the right person, and someone seeing you almost like an assault on that.
 

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As a straight man...not enough of a clamoring audience. I wish women had the same open visual attraction and public adoration for all penises as we do for all the varieties breasts and the like, because Id be spandexing, codpiecing, and gray sweatpanting on a semi regular basis. But reality is such things are only going to draw the oberwhelming attention from gay men and enforcers of public decency laws.
 

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Because in order to institute patriarchy, it was necessary for men to do everything they could to keep women from thinking about penis size and from including the varying desirability of different penises as a main variable in determining the man's overall worth. Doing this also desexualizes the male in terms of primary sexual characteristics (penis size, testicle size, semen productivity, etc.), and shifts all the attention to secondary sexual characteristics (deep voice, overall body size, muscle, etc.). Most importantly, it shifts attention from what he was born with to what he can accomplish, putting him in the role of objectifier rather than objectified. What he is born with implicitly is a function of the mother, in the context of societal mythology throughout much of history. By creating a culture where the male more often objectifies women rather than vice versa, patriarchy is easier to impose upon the population. Some of what is happening these days is challenging patriarchy, but I don't think it will really be "overthrown" without unveiling the male genitalia much more, including erections. I suspect this will happen, possibly in my lifetime, and created a group here based on it. (Future Big Dick World)
Interesting historical perspective. A lot of merit to what you have to say.
 

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I think it has to do with embarrassment and size insecurity's. I was like that for a while cause I'm pretty smell but eventually got to a point where who really cares and never covered up again. It is what it is nothing I can do about it. We are all different and that's what makes it interesting!
 

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My penis is by no means large but I never kept it from view because of that. I kept it from view because my penis was not circumcised as all others around my age bracket. The reason I was not circumcised when born was because I was born at home instead of a hospital. Most if not all being born were born in a hospital. Everyone seemed to point and laugh at my uncircumcised penis as I was about the only one they had ever seen. Even the girls in HS knew about it which made it even worse for me. The girls in HS learned about it from some of the boys in my sports/PE classes. The only thing the girls wanted from me was to see, they didn't want to suck it, they didn't want to fuck it. The last time in HS a girl ask me to see it was in the parking lot during the last part of my senior year. I told her the only way she would see it was to get in the back seat and fuck me. She would not do that. I did tease her in the hallways in front of others the rest of the year though, which was fun.
 

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What is the reason that men would hide their penis?
Because it actually looks silly to most women (unless it's their guys). Unlike porn, when a man exposes himself (especially unannounced to a women) - they first laugh. Watch a girl at an all man strip club - they all laugh... Then cheer depending.
 

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It's largely an American thing, pardon the pun. European men are far more comfortable about nudity and the human body and Dick size just isn't a big deal. In the US, we attach far too much attention to penis size. I always think of it like this: no one wants a huge ass, big belly, large nose...So why should a big clock be so desirable?
 
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It's largely an American thing, pardon the pun. European men are far more comfortable about nudity and the human body and Dick size just isn't a big deal. In the US, we attach far too much attention to penis size. I always think of it like this: no one wants a huge ass, big belly, large nose...So why should a big clock be so desirable?

I remember Gore Vidal saying in an interview that Europeans are far more mature about sex and sexuality. While North Americans have a neurotic attitude towards which can be seen with their infantile fixation with large breasts and penises.

But also big clocks are good for the vision impaired.
 

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It's largely an American thing, pardon the pun. European men are far more comfortable about nudity and the human body and Dick size just isn't a big deal. In the US, we attach far too much attention to penis size. I always think of it like this: no one wants a huge ass, big belly, large nose...So why should a big clock be so desirable?

Because many men have the idea it is a desired trait by someone they are seeking as a mate be it male or female. Don't know where this idea starts or how. In reality there are people out there who don't care sexual satisfaction can be obtained in other ways than a large penis. There are many penis size queens and they seek nothing but the largest penis they can possibly find.
 
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This I have struggled with for years. In my job we wear thin khakis and if for whatever reason I become aroused, even alittle. I'm very noticeable. I try my hardest to conceal for professional purposes. Maybe 4/10 customer interactions, I will catch them looking. I have become more of a hider naturally over the years because of my job. Instinctively.
 
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There's also a cultural belief that an exposed penis is a danger and threat and nuclear explosive when it's erect. This isn't the case at all. A mans exposed penis makes him more vulnerable and it's more a risk to a man having his cock out because anyone could cut it off, so to speak.

Perhaps if we want to challenge rape culture, we need to start thinking of the penis as another part of the human body which had different functions and erections are normal (and essential) functions for men to have regularly and a penis whether flaccid or erect does not automatically equate sexual.
 

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I think that there's also the issue of flaccid size - and a false perception of what is "big". Growing up there can often be a feeling of insecurity when you've seen the hung lads (the "showers") standing well back at the urinal, so that everyone can see what they've got, or parading about in the showers. It, maybe unconsciously, instills a feeling of inadequacy if you are a "grower" - or even just a lad with a small cock. Not to mention what you are faced with in porn.

One thing that we learn, from spending time on this site, is that fully erect size often doesn't differ between the "showers" and the "growers". A "shower" might only grow an inch or so, when chubbing up from flaccid to erect, whilst a "grower" might expand up to three or four inches (or more). The trouble is, of course, in the "real world", that you rarely get chance to compare erections with your mates, to realise that most of us fall within a standard range, size-wise, when fully erect. You need exposure to a site like this to realise that, sometimes even, a "grower" can outsize a "shower" when fully hard.

Some of us were luckier, in that we had or have mates that, at some point - on a 1:1 basis, are more open about showing off to each other. As a "grower", around 3-4 inches flaccid, I used to be very much more shy about getting my cock out in front of friends and usually headed for the far end of the urinal or a single one, two or three away from my mates (or the next tree if outside!). However, having compared with one particular mate, who is very much a "shower", I realised that my cock more than doubled in size as it became erect, whilst his 6" of flaccid cock only added an inch or an inch and a half as he chubbed up. Actual bragging rights to me, in the end! :laughing:
 

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Women can legally go topless in many parts of America, on the beach or even walking down the street. However few exercise this option ; and prefer to remain covered. For men there is modesty, that is also a legal right ,not to walk around swing their penises around - not in public , The common factor for men and women aside from modesty are the pervs who would constantly ogle and make a bid deal out of a topless woman and or a bottomless male.

I present countless LPSG threads on : I saw his penis, unexpected penis sightings, locker room , changing area , steam room, gym, gym shorts, comando , dick outline, crotch watching , bulge sightings, man spreading, shower , watching jerk off in shower, he followed me to my locker , nude to the shower --------- photos posted of alleged toilet / urinal penis pictures , hidden urinal cam pictures, comparing at the urinal , showing off at the , showing off cock and balls at the urinal; and one of my favorites ( do you drop your pants at the urinal )

And you ponder why some men are reserve in being partially / fully nude around others
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