why do most men like to show off, while women don't

[riellox]

SHE doesn't FEEL safe posting pictures of herself here. Headless or not. Period. Your assessment that it should be okay because you say it's safe is a little short-sighted.

You know, there are a fair amount of spotty folks here...just a week or so ago a woman left the site due to issues with a stalker. So subgirl's reticence is certainly understandable by my estimation. I don't really get why this isn't obvious.

probably I am too naive to think that those online stalkers do really exist...and i din't mean to be rude

 

[B_curiousme01]

Women would show off more if it were more socially acceptable.

Very well said. I totally agree. I also think women grow up constantly comparing themselves to other women and it takes a while to become comfortable with their own body. Plus, history has not been kind to female sexuality. Thankfully, that's changing in many countries. There is also the fear factor, which I don't think even enters a guys mind when taking pics.

 

[B_curiousme01]

Well most people post headless pics, and there are users from all the world, so safety is not in danger here in my opinion.

I honestly don't think the average guy can relate to the intrinsic fear factor women have inside their minds and is a part of our everyday life. Just walking to our car at night can be a cause of fear. I don't think men even think about it.

The majority of the pics here are posted by men. Even though the site is called LPSG, there are lots of ladies here. Most do not post pictures for a variety of reasons, but I do think fear is one we all relate to.

 

[Enid]

probably I am too naive to think that those online stalkers do really exist...and i din't mean to be rude

You're fine, to be fair I am using an extreme example -- there are just as many wonderful and interesting people here as there are questionables.

However it's good to keep in mind that a fair amount of the women here are going to be reluctant to share themselves. This is due at least in part to a need to be smart about the person with whom you are sharing and what you are sharing, too.

Headless pictures may seem innocuous to you, but they aren't to everyone.

Regarding the OP, I personally don't mind sharing a few pictures of myself but I am not super into camming. I have a few chat room pals I video chat to on occasion, but it's mostly innocent and not sexual.

 

[Empathizer]

Truth be told, it is a fear, but it is an irrational fear.

Being raped by the "nice guy" in the Chaucer class who was helping me with my laundry and slipped something into the cup of water he got me during that laundry taught me, when the smoke cleared (after YEARS), that it isn't necessarily the guy lurking in the bushes who gets you. And that psychopaths don't seem different from anyone else because they constantly rehearse normalcy.

The only way to get over the suffocating fear of being female and alone after that was hard work (and sometimes a buttload of Paxil). The facts don't support the fear. If you're willing to work at it, you can leave the house and even start to trust after a while.

But physical pain has nothing on emotional pain, and you have to grit your teeth and not use anything -- not unprescribed and unmonitored drugs, not alcohol, not compulsive, and not, as I did, compulsive, detached sex/masturbation and compulsive, detached, comforting binge-eating-- in place of it. It can (and did, for me) take years to get over, but I can finally feel that I might actually be able to love and have sex with the same person. And that I own this body, rather than just using it, like a gundam , to propel me and to dwell in until the battle called life is over.

 

[bigbull29]

i think women DO like to show off. go to a rock n roll concert, my friend. you will see many a pair of tits pulled from their shirts while their owner sits on the shoulders of a tall guy. you will see very few men crowd surfing with their penises out.
if you're talking about web cams, its because... well, for starters, make sure you're actually talking to a WOMAN. can't stress that enough. but, besides that, its probably because women don't like to masturbate as much as men. women can get real sex much more easily than men can, and thus are much less likely to resort to masturbation via web cam conversation than men are. also, if you're talking to a fat chick, she is probably very self conscious and will not want to show off because she isn't proud to flaunt what she has. showing off is all about confidence. shit you don't see micro penis owners showing off very often, nor do you see obese men.

Absolutely!

But if men show off too much physically, it can be associated with homosexuality in our culture (not at male-stripper shows, gay clubs, etc). Even if the man is not seriously considered gay, it may be said about him jokingly in the mainstream, whereas a woman will just be called a slut, even though she is very much encouraged to show off her beautiful body.

 

[scottredleter]

The same think as a peacock strutting his feathers. men show off to get laid and attract attention from their mates.

 

[B_curiousme01]

I am so happy to read that you have found a healthy way to move forward with your life after having such a terrible experience!!! Moving on is the best possible outcome...not everyone can.

I don't think my personal fear is irrational. I think it's prudent. Be it someone I know or have never met before, I am aware that in general men are bigger, stronger and faster than I am. My fear may stem from growing up in an extremely violent household and knowing what it's like, both physically and mentally, to be beaten on without a means for protection or escape. However, I do love men, have a healthy respect for them, and know that the majority are great people who respect women and love their children. I'm always cautious tho.

In the USA, men kill, rape, beat on and kidnap women everyday. Some even kill their entire families! It's not that often you hear stories about a woman doing those hateful things. Women do commit violent crimes, but nowhere near to the extent some men do.

I'm not afraid to leave my house, but there are times I won't. A late-night run to the convenience store is not gonna happen if my husband is not with me. I am not the kind of person who wears ultra revealing clothing in public or flirts with men. I actually rarely even make I contact. It's my choice and so far so good.

Truth be told, it is a fear, but it is an irrational fear.

Being raped by the "nice guy" in the Chaucer class who was helping me with my laundry and slipped something into the cup of water he got me during that laundry taught me, when the smoke cleared (after YEARS), that it isn't necessarily the guy lurking in the bushes who gets you. And that psychopaths don't seem different from anyone else because they constantly rehearse normalcy.

The only way to get over the suffocating fear of being female and alone after that was hard work (and sometimes a buttload of Paxil). The facts don't support the fear. If you're willing to work at it, you can leave the house and even start to trust after a while.

 

[petite]

I'm so sorry about what happened to you Empathizer. I have a similar story, but I don't have your courage to share what happened to me here.

I don't think curiousme01's fear is irrational. There isn't anywhere that's truly safe, when it comes to nice looking guys or the ones who look the scariest, whether it's in the daytime or at night. We need to be cautious all the time. I was groped by the church treasurer in the church just this past year (and TheBF was with me at the time!) and I was mugged on a streetcorner by a crack addict in the afternoon with cars driving by (granted it was in a very bad neighborhood, but seriously, the gall of doing that on a busy street!). One guy was the last person on earth you would think would do something like that and the other one looked like exactly the sort of person who would do something like that. The world is a much more dangerous place for women than it is for men and I don't think that is something that most men ever realize because they don't need to think about it. Men who aren't predators don't realize what it's like for women to deal with the men who are, and to never know who is or isn't a predator, and to be afraid and cautious because of that.

 

[601900]

I'm so sorry about what happened to you Empathizer. I have a similar story, but I don't have your courage to share what happened to me here.

I don't think curiousme01's fear is irrational. There isn't anywhere that's truly safe, when it comes to nice looking guys or the ones who look the scariest, whether it's in the daytime or at night. We need to be cautious all the time. I was groped by the church treasurer in the church just this past year (and TheBF was with me at the time!) and I was mugged on a streetcorner by a crack addict in the afternoon with cars driving by (granted it was in a very bad neighborhood, but seriously, the gall of doing that on a busy street!). One guy was the last person on earth you would think would do something like that and the other one looked like exactly the sort of person who would do something like that. The world is a much more dangerous place for women than it is for men and I don't think that is something that most men ever realize because they don't need to think about it. Men who aren't predators don't realize what it's like for women to deal with the men who are, and to never know who is or isn't a predator, and to be afraid and cautious because of that.

First of all i would like to tell you girls that i'm really sorry about what you all went through,and i agree 100% with everything you've said.Men have a lot more freedom, while we have to worry about little things that a man doesn't even have to, simply because we are women,and physically we tend to be smaller and not as strong as men.

 

[DasLeezard]

I don't show off because this is the Large PENIS Support Group, and nunya bastids can handle what I'm packing*








*About 30 extra lbs, and lots of stretch marks and scars.

 

[D_Crystallized Ginger]

I don't show off because this is the Large PENIS Support Group, and nunya bastids can handle what I'm packing*








*About 30 extra lbs, and lots of stretch marks and scars.

are you joking or aren't you in your album??

 

[DasLeezard]

That's me. According to docs, I'm 30lbs overweight.

 

[Chantillylace]

That's me. According to docs, I'm 30lbs overweight.

That's why super angles are great..
I Joined the gym as a New Year's REsolution and the personal trainer said I needed to lose 50 pounds.. I'm 5'9, and she said that I needed to be at 120lbs... Is she effin kidding me. I was so depressed I went nextdoor and ate IHOP. lol
I have lost about 20lbs so far and pretty content though I'm looking to drop more.. just a teensy bit more.
By the way you are beautiful just as you are I love your eyes. Very Sexy.

Anyway back to Original topic..

 

[aajjxx]

easy answer. men like to be objectified, women don't.

 

[D_Crystallized Ginger]

easy answer. men like to be objectified, women don't.

women would like if they weren't... it's the abuse of objectfying that make women to hate it... in fact the ugliest girls tend to be shower

 

[Nekoman]

Just occurred to me -- men are always eyeing women's bodies, they're never starved for attention. Men, on the other hand, are made to feel they're rather unattractive, ugly even, so they crave the attention they never seem to get enough of. Women are tired of being looked at, so they cover up, men are starving to be noticed, so they need to show off.

 

[Empathizer]

That's why super angles are great..
I Joined the gym as a New Year's REsolution and the personal trainer said I needed to lose 50 pounds.. I'm 5'9, and she said that I needed to be at 120lbs... Is she effin kidding me. I was so depressed I went nextdoor and ate IHOP. lol
I have lost about 20lbs so far and pretty content though I'm looking to drop more.. just a teensy bit more.
By the way you are beautiful just as you are I love your eyes. Very Sexy.

Anyway back to Original topic..

5'9" and 120lbs is a BMI of 17.8. "Underweight" starts at 18.5. Unless you're a lifelong Type 1 diabetic (which is why Mary Tyler Moore always stayed a titch underweight), you need a new doctor, because yours is offering you dangerous advice.

 

[Chantillylace]

Just occurred to me -- men are always eyeing women's bodies, they're never starved for attention. Men, on the other hand, are made to feel they're rather unattractive, ugly even, so they crave the attention they never seem to get enough of. Women are tired of being looked at, so they cover up, men are starving to be noticed, so they need to show off.

I don't think that I can agreee to that. In theory it sounds great but at the same time, I know I walk a little straighter and might even suck in my belly or subtly pull down my shirt when I notice a hot guy. I might even stare at a nice ass or playfully touch the parts of your body I admire most.
Either sex loves flattery just as much. And I really don't think that the flattery side of it is what keeps women covered up.
I would think that by the way the women answer this thread that that reason stem from several spotsn including...
1. Scared of possible repercussions... ie, rape, stalking, etc etc.
2. It is not as acceptable fo us to be sexually aware and show ourselves that way. Just as animal instincts of closely related animals, it's the males job to win us over not vice versa... Which is probably why calling a guy 50 million times in one day doesn't score us any brownie points.
3. Our media's standard of what a woman should look like does not match most healthy women, and how could it with lipo/botox/breasts inplants AND airbrushing.

However, I do think that all woman should be confident not only in their skin but in their sexuality, we aren't really ones to flaunt it. Lamb in the kitchen, lion in the bedroom.

(And yes there are exceptions)

5'9" and 120lbs is a BMI of 17.8. "Underweight" starts at 18.5. Unless you're a lifelong Type 1 diabetic (which is why Mary Tyler Moore always stayed a titch underweight), you need a new doctor, because yours is offering you dangerous advice.

Trust me, I dropped her like a bad habit.. I used to weigh about 140 at my heaight that is skinny... not bones skinny, but I did actually start to go down a little more and then my ex would get bruised and bruise my hips... it totally sucked. All women need a little cushion.

 

[Nekoman]

Maybe women are sensitive to being criticized or ridiculed for any perceived faults -- they may be more emotionally vulnerable by nature.