Why do people judge the size of a flaccid penis?

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  1. Somebody2Love

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    I noticed this thread topic had not been posted. I am a woman. I find this to be very irritating when men are judged this way. Why the judgement?

    I would be happy to see the views on the subject.:smile:
     
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    Don't know. Maybe some people don't know that there are growers and that there are showers. I have had a few friends tell me they were surprised with "small packages."
     
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    Stupidity? Insecurity? Ignorance? Schadenfreude?
     
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    Except in the gay culture, usually all that one man sees of another man's sexual anatomy is what he observes at the pool dressing room or at the gym. He sees the soft cock and that is often the basis for classifying/judging the guy. Women, on the other hand, get to see the straight man's soft and erect cock and presumably they make judgments based on the one that they prefer, the erect cock. I see nothing particularly unusual in this system.
     
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    Like it or not both men and women are being judged all the time, short and fat, tall and handsome, bald and dumpy, big boobs or flat chested. A dressed woman looks much like the undressed woman, an undressed man looks much like the dressed man except for one thing that is quite unpredictable, the size of his dick, and what you see in a gang shower is his flaccid dick. It can be the great equalizer, or the opposite, and when your naked you can not escape this admiring or cruel judgment at a glance.
     
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    I would agree with most of what you had to say above except for the part about "an undressed man looks much like the dressed man". I have actually found this to be very untrue in many instances. I think you can attribute this to the fact most men do not wear very tight, fitted, or tailored clothes, so it is often hard to tell what a man will look like when they are undressed. While it is more common and almost expected for women (especially younger and more attractive women) to wear tighter clothes and show off what they have. So I often find that women do not look a whole ton different out of clothes than they do in clothes.

    I have often been surprised by how a man looks undressed. There are several times where I have seen someone who is either skinny, dorky looking, or average looking take off their shirt and have a rocking body. I have also seen some very handsome and nice looking men who turned out to have average to rather out of shape bodies, not matching their otherwise great looks. I also find this true with body hair, tatoos, piercings and what. I have been surprised by who has had the above and who has not. At least as a gay man, I really love and appreciate the fact you never know what a man truly looks like until you get him out of his clothes.

    And as far as soft penises go, I think that mostly is strait male thing. As a gay male I very much appreciate and enjoy when a guy has a rather large falccid penis, but no more than a mans errect penis. And I would never turn a guy down strictly because he does not have a large flaccid penis.
     
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    I think flaccid penises are judged on what they are likely to become. Someone who is excited by larger sizes would probably be more excited to see a flaccid cock bigger than some erect cocks they've seen, than to see a small flaccid cock that "might" grow to a exponential size.
     
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    Let's throw it back to you, OP. What are your views on flaccid penis size - irrelevant to you? What situations are you thinking of when men are judged on it, and why does it irritate you?
     
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    Okay. Its irrelevant. I'm always the optimist. :rolleyes: Their are many situations where men are judged on it. On this site. In the gym/locker room. In general conversation. The list goes on.

    Judgement in general is something I find irritating. I just think to a man's flaccid size is inane.

    A guy who hangs long is something nice to see. A guy who is a grower is a mystery.

    Why belittle? Why not just enjoy and wait for the potential? ;-)
     
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    OK Somebody, that's fair, but all else being equal would you rather be confronted in the bedroom with something nice to see, or the mystery?
     
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    Well, I don't really think it is much of an issue. Except with those people who like big a large penis during intercourse. If the guy is 7 inches or so when flaccid, you already know that it is at least that, and probably bigger when erect. You even say it is "nice to see". So if that is an important thing, then already knowing it will be larger is very important to that person.

    I will at times mention when I see a large flaccid penis to my fuck buddy, and tell her that it was about 8 inches flaccid. Imagine what it will be like hard. She will say "Wow, I would like to see that"....or "I'm not sure I would be able to take it".

    Me? I am very tiny when flaccid. My fuck buddy says she has never seen one smaller than me when I am flaccid. Thankfully I grow 900% when I get hard.
     
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    I do not really have a preference. Honestly.

    But, if you would like an answer, I prefer the mystery. But, as I said a shower is something nice to see.
     
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    i am still a bit shy over my flaccid penis, even though I have been told its very big as it is. I think I watch too much porn or something, and not many stars show their flaccid in that industry. So like in the videos I always want to pull out of my pants completely hard
     
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    eh!
    point of information
    judging a man on his penis size, while it be flaccid or erected is inherently stupid!
    I would like to think that most of the sane world would agree with that!

    saying that..... i am a member of this website!
    ...........I guess its just human!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    Alot of people I guess think a big flaccid equals a big erect cock. Also for most straight guys seeing another guys cock will normally be in the flaccid state.
     
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    Personally I never judged the a flaccid penis size.. I ve seen many penises in the locker rooms and only two erect penis in real life, two friends of mines penises... I'm straight and we were playing with some girlfriends of ours... I can say that most of the time there's a realtionship between flaccid and erect sizes... I can say it as I am an experienced porn watcher too :D btw a man is not responsible for his cock size and I only judge what a person is not what a person has, there's no pride in being hung like there's no shame in being below average, all is good.. although I feel sad for small penis owners and a bit jealous for big penis onwers...
     
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    I get the point of judging flaccid size. i guess it's just aesthetics, but even then, a small flaccid can be a large erect. there is no correlation.

    The only bit about penis size I do get is erect size, well who wouldn't? But flaccid, well one cannot have sex with a flaccid cock.
     
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    Shower or grower - that is the question. We have all inherited so many hangups from childhood unfortunately - and these conditions put on us as babies stay with us for life! The damage done to us all as small children - teenagers and coming of age adults - bears the scares of us developing insecurites and low self esteem - at times in our lives. The better we feel about ourselves - as WE ARE - the better off we will be in accepting who we are - what we have - and how good we feel towards ourselves and others. Cheers.
     
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    can anyone explain the whole "shower or grower" thing? So if I hang at 6" and I become 9" does that make me a grower?
     
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    I'm a girl that likes big soft dicks... There's something uniquely powerful about a man with a dick that hangs way down when he walks around... swinging between his legs.

    I've only been with a few men who truly had huge soft cocks and I found myself more attracted to them because of it.

    Further more, while it's true that small softies might turn big... it's very unlikely that a huge softy is going to turn small.
     
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