Why do people not like interracial relationships?

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  1. D_Richard Lugie

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    I don't think it's a big deal. My gf is Japanese, and I am white; and we are happy. I get a lot of flak from some people at work. Why do people care so much?!
     
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    I don't think most people have an issue with interracial relationships just racist individuals.
     
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    yeah i never really understood it myself either, maybe there are some places in life were people still want segregation
     
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    Many people feel threatened by difference, or any deviation from what they consider the norm.
     
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    Is that sort of openly racist behavior tolerated in Canadian workplaces?
     
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    ya think racists would love interracial couples... their babies are a whole new group of people to hate :rolleyes:
     
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    My opinion, after many years of consideration, is that all predudice stems ultimately from ignorance and immaturity. The ignorance part, in that very few real bigots have ever had a personal relationship with someone who is of the group they are predudiced against, and immature, in that some people feel the need to believe they are better by thinking others are beneath them. I'd like to relate a personal story along these lines. This was back when I was still in the closet, although even today I don't think sexuality, race, or any of that has a place in the workplace. I was getting some mail out of my box in the office, when two of the lades that did dispatching were having this nasty conversation about one of the guys who they decided was gay. They asked me what I thought, and I said it didn't bother me. They were shocked, and asked why. I said because I had no plans to have sex with him anytime in the future, so his sexuality had no bearing on my relationship with him. I then asked them if their reaction was due to their wanting to have sex with him, and walked away. My point was that if an aspect of another persons life doesn't affect YOUR life, why is it something you make a fuss about? Immaturity is the only real reason I can think of.
     
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    racism. there is an amazing song: "You've Got to Be Taught" or ("Carefully Taught")

    from the musical "south pacific" play opened in 1949.

    sung by the character Lieutenant Cable, the song is preceded (a song cue) by a lyric saying racism is "not born in you! It happens after you’re born..." "South Pacific received scrutiny for its commentary regarding relationships between different races and ethnic groups."

    written by James Michner. music by Rogers and Hammerstein.
     
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    You've got to be taught
    To hate and fear,
    You've got to be taught
    From year to year,
    It's got to be drummed
    In your dear little ear
    You've got to be carefully taught.

    You've got to be taught to be afraid
    Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
    And people whose skin is a diff'rent shade,
    You've got to be carefully taught.

    You've got to be taught before it's too late,
    Before you are six or seven or eight,
    To hate all the people your relatives hate,
    You've got to be carefully taught!
     
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    I think it's retarded and any type of racism always really pisses me off.
     
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    Hmm, Racism is a huge no-no in my line of work, and Canada in general. There is a huge number of different ethnic groups living throughout Canada. The guys are just being assholes to me and my gf I think.
     
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    Some people are just stupid.

    Best to not let it bother you too much.
     
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    Love this one :biggrin1:


     
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    stupid people, i can't believe in 2011 those people still exist. Anyway congrats to your girlfriend and I hope you guys are gonna be happy ')
     
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    Always gonna find haters. Best just to ignore them.
     
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    because most people are closed minded. period. the end. there is nothing more to talk about. LOL...
     
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    Why do people not like interracial relationships?
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    I don't think it's a big deal. My gf is Japanese, and I am white; and we are happy. I get a lot of flak from some people at work. Why do people care so much?!

    IGNORE the blighters matey..
    if you saw my multi cultured Whanau..family in Maaori you would understand what i am on about ha

    40 years ago sister married a Pakeha-White ( was strict Catholic parents) who ignored the relationship for several years
    ..once the beautiful girl was born..different story ha

    There son is in Japan married with 2 beautiful kids, house and all
    So we are looking at Chinese/.Maori .... Danish NZ english, married to a Japanese lady..and i believe over there they have absolutely NO No NO sideway (excuse me) glances at them.

    Most of the Whanau NZ are introducing Polynesians into the mix last 20 years
    soooooooooooooo.......... ha
    enz

    you being 20 i would have thought Canacs would be as tolerant? as they appear to be in NZ

    The guys are just being assholes to me and my gf I think.

    and can i suggest in this when/if they come around
    spare no quarter as they say..and Totally ignore the devils, i dont believe in turning the other cheek in this sort of blatant ignorance..
     
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    Some people like to "brag" about their interracial activities. I was dating a guy in the middle naughties who said, more than a few times, that he had taken a "gf" (of 4 months) to couples counseling. The only one he took to couples counseling and the only whtie woman he ever claimed to have dated. HE also liked to remind about how a neighbor (black and female) dissed him after she saw him with her.

    <<sigh>> yes, OP, I do too get tired of black men telling me that I should date within the race. But these days I will just simply answer "fuck off."
     
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    ^This.

    Petty-minded, hateful people who have nothing better to do except bitch and gossip about the private lives of others.
     
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    Jealousy....
     
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