Why do people not like interracial relationships?

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Hmm, Racism is a huge no-no in my line of work, and Canada in general. There is a huge number of different ethnic groups living throughout Canada. The guys are just being assholes to me and my gf I think.

That's exactly what I thought, and that's why getting "flack" at work over the race of your GF just makes no sense. I'm confused why you tolerate it when you have legal and professional recourse available.
 

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Why do people not like interracial relationships?
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I don't think it's a big deal. My gf is Japanese, and I am white; and we are happy. I get a lot of flak from some people at work. Why do people care so much?!

IGNORE the blighters matey..
if you saw my multi cultured Whanau..family in Maaori you would understand what i am on about ha

40 years ago sister married a Pakeha-White ( was strict Catholic parents) who ignored the relationship for several years
..once the beautiful girl was born..different story ha

There son is in Japan married with 2 beautiful kids, house and all
So we are looking at Chinese/.Maori .... Danish NZ english, married to a Japanese lady..and i believe over there they have absolutely NO No NO sideway (excuse me) glances at them.

Most of the Whanau NZ are introducing Polynesians into the mix last 20 years
soooooooooooooo.......... ha
enz

you being 20 i would have thought Canacs would be as tolerant? as they appear to be in NZ

The guys are just being assholes to me and my gf I think.

and can i suggest in this when/if they come around
spare no quarter as they say..and Totally ignore the devils, i dont believe in turning the other cheek in this sort of blatant ignorance..

Yes I see what you mean, and yes Canadians are mainly very good for this sort of thing, but I guess not all; cant classify a whole group by a couple.

I am going to see what happens at work again, and take it from there.
 

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That's exactly what I thought, and that's why getting "flack" at work over the race of your GF just makes no sense. I'm confused why you tolerate it when you have legal and professional recourse available.

Yes I do have a lot of resources available, especially within the military, next time I'm in work I am going to see what happens and take it from there.
 

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from my personal experience, it's been more about inferiority than racism. of course, racism is always a given so we can just put that on the table and accept that as part of life.

back to inferiority, it's like how i would get some grief from asian women harping on me about why i married a white girl like i'm thinking asian women aren't good enough or of the like. there's no winning. if i say that's not the case, then they say why didn't you marry an asian girl? and we go round and round in circles of useless debate.

i get the same from some of my asian guy-friends when we see an asian girl with a white guy, or even worse when she's with a black guy. i think it's great to see that mix-up, but my asian guy-friends freak out; they don't freak out at me and my white wife.

so, i think it's an inferiority complex. kinda like why you taking our women, or why you taking our men. kinda like when black women freak over a black man with a white woman.

it's all stupid. just live your life and love the one you're with. of course, some of us are more attracted to other races than our own. i won't get into that debate. we'll save that for another thread.
 

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****i get the same from some of my asian guy-friends when we see an asian girl with a white guy, or even worse when she's with a black guy.****


eeeeek, that caught my eye.
 

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funny that..

as 30 odd years ago that i can remember ( and i dare say earlier -- 50/70 years ago) it was very evident that the chinese of that era (NZ immigrants) were VERY racist towards there own kind, as in talking behind my fathers back, re marrying a Maori woman

History has it that chinese males were encouraged into NZ, as a workforce.
and there being a shortage of women, they were not permitted to bring there wives over iniitially, obviously married Maori ( over europeans - well english really) being ostracized by white new zealanders -- we wont go into where many of them came from.
Hence there are quiet a few chinese who married maori around the 30s/50s
enz
 

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Some people are just stupid.

Best to not let it bother you too much.

Agree completely. Just ignore them. Don't feed them by becoming angry or defensive, just...ignore them.

Be delighted with who you are. If you are lucky, you can be delighted with a significant other (which sounds like the case here).

Who gives a flying fuck what they think?

(Oh, and I agree with 831 above: the children of the Japanese/American couples I know (2 couples) are absolutely beautiful).
 

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i remember a friend of mine (who is also black) dated this vietnamese chick for a while and they had to hide their relationship from the girls parents because they're very strict. i remember her dad found out and basically cursed her out and said he doesn't want her dating anyone black and if she is to date someone outside their race he'll only accept a white man.
 

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to put it generally, many people dont like interracial relationships becasue it is a sign of change. good change, bad change, that dont matter. the fact is that they dont like it and they are bored small-minded people. they should be ignored.

i dont think it is jealousy in the most part. they dont want what you have. if that was the case they would just sneak around and tap foreign booty. they just cant bring it home to the family. Instead, most of the time they want you to want what they have. it validaes their lives if you do, ya know, makes them think like they made the right choices simply because others have made that same choice
 
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In my opinion, the only negative thing about interracial relationships is the language barrier...

I speak English and Vietnamese fluently, but if I dated a guy who could not speak either, it would make things difficult between us.
 

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People who don't like other people's interracial relationships are usually racist.

People who aren't interested in being in an interracial relationship may not find people of other ethnicities attractive.

Does that help?