Everyone that thinks its about control, or having a little dick, or being insecure, they are the ones with issues. If you want to make yourself feel better, fine, feel better.
Wanting to end up with a woman who has treated herself with respect and confidence who hasnt been with a lot of guys is not about any of that. Its about wanting something that hasnt been easily attained, or given away on a whim on many occasions. If a woman gives herself to a ton of men, that makes what she gives to me a little less meaningful. Im not talking about a virgin here, but for me, I would like to know what she gives to me isnt the talk of the town.
Whatever a lot of partners means to people is subjective. Even from any one persons point of view, it varies on the other person. Was she promiscuous when she was young, and past that now? Or is she still hooking up with a lot of guys? To me, a lot is more than 20 or 30.
Its not a deal breaker, Ive dated VERY experienced women, and I am fairly experienced myself. I cant hold a potential mate to standards I havent held myself to, so Im not ruling anyone out based on her past.
If you are just asking what you would like to have in a partner, then you can be a little idealistic about it. I would love to end up with a woman who has been with 10 guys or less, and most of them were meaningful to her.
Its like asking how tall you want your mate to be, or how much money you want them to make. Its normal to have desired traits in a mate, but ultimately its about the person. If the woman I end up with was a porn queen with thousands of partners, but she is clean and we are good together, fuck it. Thats fine by me. But you cant judge a persons ideals as bad because you dont meet them or agree with them.