Why do some men want an inexperienced partner/girl/wife?

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  1. Jovial

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    I know some guys that like having a girlfriend who doesn't have much experience (hasn't dated much or had many boyfriends).

    Is it insecurity? Do they like that they can control these women and keep them in the dark about sexual things? Do they have small penises and don't want someone that realizes that?

    I'd rather be with someone that has enough experience to know what she wants.

    Anyone have any insight into why some men like inexperienced partners to settle down with?
     
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    I think you answered your question already :) Maybe they don't want the girl to know how bad they are. These girls may not have anything to compare them with
     
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    It's probably some sort of insecurity mixed with jealousy of the other men who "got there first." I have never understood some men's obsession with virgins. Clueless sex partners are not my cup of tea.

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    So they can teach them the way that gets them off best?
     
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    Nobody wants the town bicycle, its been ridden hard by lots of guys that didnt really respect it. Id rather have my own new one, honestly. At least a clean one with low miles.
     
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    I suppose it could be an irrational fear of STD's but more likely it's performance insecurity and a small penis.

    Sounds about right. I think you answered your own question. :smile:

    You say that now . . .
    I'd give my eye teeth for video of you and a cougar. :wink:

    To settle down with? I think that's all about control.

    Ditto, I was thinking a mix of insecurity, jealousy, and little willy.

    Guess what? Some of us women feel the same way. I definetely don't want a virgin but I also don't want the guy that brags about how he is into triple digits.
     
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    Guess what? Ive ecnountered women who have expressed that same view, and I completely understand and respect that. Good thing I am only half way to triple digits.
     
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    What is she your new car? :rolleyes:
    If she said she has been with 4 men in her life, all long term relationships is that being "ridden hard"? Since when does having sex mean a woman or man isn't "clean"?
    Are you confusing women with bicycles because that is a terrible analogy
    and I'm wondering why you'd say such a thing?
    Is your user name indicative of what you think you should do with a woman?
    I'm not trying to be rude or belittle you I'm just really puzzled as to why any man would say such a thing unless as Jovial said he has issues with insecurity and control.
    I have to say regardless of what NJ is saying here what she might want and what people will accept are two completely different things.
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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    I would say power and control.
     
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    I have a small penis, but still prefer women that have some experience and know what they like.

    I can understand why some guys would prefer a woman with less experience though. It is a lot less intimidating to know that your performance isn't being compared to some previous boyfriend who was hung like a horse.
     
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    I surmise that men that want women with little or no experience/few or no partners before them are very insecure in their own abilities. i have been with virgins and women with very limited experience and that's not a deal breaker. what IS a deal breaker (and has happened every time) is their absolute violent insecurity about things sexual and physical and absolute unwillingness to learn how to do things well with someone who knows what's going on.
    SO - if guys are insecure, go find an even less experienced girl and good look to you.
     
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    Yeah but the new one only has one gear and has to be ridden carefully or you might break something.

    The town bike is a twelve speed and everything is broken in just right.

    My thought is threefold. First control, second insecurity about their abilities, and third a small dick.

    I have to add there probably is that thrill about being the first one in the cavern, but I tell you that grows old, as they really don't know what they are doing and I am not in the mood to train another one.
     
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    'Why do some woman wants inexperienced men?'
     
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    I dunno, there are many such women on this site. They usually say it's so they can teach them the right way to fuck. :biggrin1: There are a phenomenal number of men who think they are AWESOME lovers, but in reality couldn't fuck their way out of a wet paper bag. :frown1:

    For the record, I've never had a virgin and don't want to try one.
     
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    Everyone that thinks its about control, or having a little dick, or being insecure, they are the ones with issues. If you want to make yourself feel better, fine, feel better.

    Wanting to end up with a woman who has treated herself with respect and confidence who hasnt been with a lot of guys is not about any of that. Its about wanting something that hasnt been easily attained, or given away on a whim on many occasions. If a woman gives herself to a ton of men, that makes what she gives to me a little less meaningful. Im not talking about a virgin here, but for me, I would like to know what she gives to me isnt the talk of the town.

    Whatever a lot of partners means to people is subjective. Even from any one persons point of view, it varies on the other person. Was she promiscuous when she was young, and past that now? Or is she still hooking up with a lot of guys? To me, a lot is more than 20 or 30.

    Its not a deal breaker, Ive dated VERY experienced women, and I am fairly experienced myself. I cant hold a potential mate to standards I havent held myself to, so Im not ruling anyone out based on her past.

    If you are just asking what you would like to have in a partner, then you can be a little idealistic about it. I would love to end up with a woman who has been with 10 guys or less, and most of them were meaningful to her.

    Its like asking how tall you want your mate to be, or how much money you want them to make. Its normal to have desired traits in a mate, but ultimately its about the person. If the woman I end up with was a porn queen with thousands of partners, but she is clean and we are good together, fuck it. Thats fine by me. But you cant judge a persons ideals as bad because you dont meet them or agree with them.
     
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    My user name comes from the Dodge Ram I used to own. I will admit, it is a vulgar analogy, but I was not meaning to offend.
     
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    I wonder if it's control, wanting someone who will be faithful, or the double standards in many societies.
     
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    I wasn't talking about women who have had 5 or more lovers. I can see why some men would prefer a woman with 10 lovers over one with 100. I was talking more about women that have had only one or two lovers at most and maybe never really had a relationship with sex on a regular basis. So women that have very little real experience with men.
     
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    You missed the point. He wrote about a girl who hadn't dated, then to compare that to girl who has slept with 20 to 30 guys is going from one extreme to another.

    If you always look for a girl who is a virgin or has only had one or two partners then there are issues, because you are not at that experience level and don't have those values, you are just looking for an inexperienced girl.
     
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    My preference is for an experienced chick that's just looking for shits and giggles hook-ups. I don't want a girlfriend. I could get traded any day and be moved a thousand miles away, why make any long time friends with benefits. If theyve slept with enough guys, they know what they want and are easier to please. If I leave here therell be puck sluts wherever I go. My friend M*** is mostly interested in "fresh meat" he really gets off on the "deer in the headlights look" they give him. He says the best part of having a big dick is that he gets to see the shock reaction of these girls first time with a huge cock.
     
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