Why do some people discriminate against older people?

[deleted213967]

I don't think 30 is "old" just older and more refined than 20.

Will you give examples of men in their 50s or 60s you find hot?

 

[invisibleman]

I don't think that, but also see it in two ways. What were the older people now thinking when they were young about the older people then?

I actually liked older peeps when I was younger like Cochran. I didn't disrespect any of the older guys. I didn't disrespect the younger guys that wanted to be with me in my twenties.
If I didn't like you, I was nice about it. I have met some really younger guys but I turned them down due to they were too young. Like I could go to jail--type young. If they were older and I wasn't into them sexually. I just didn't make any sexual notions and really kept things on a friendship basis.

No one likes rejection so I try to be nice, considerate and firm. I also don't give reasons for that rejection. A person should be themselves no matter what. They just couldn't be with me that is all. I couldn't be with them either.

 

[Cochranfan4life]

Will you give examples of men in their 50s or 60s you find hot?

you mean like actors? Some i'll name are older than 60 but here goes:

Robert Conrad

John Gavin

Robert De Niro ( wait he's 60)

and more..

 

[Cochranfan4life]

I actually liked older peeps when I was younger like Cochran. I didn't disrespect any of the older guys. I didn't disrespect the younger guys that wanted to be with me in my twenties.
If I didn't like you, I was nice about it. I have met some really younger guys but I turned them down due to they were too young. Like I could go to jail--type young. If they were older and I wasn't into them sexually. I just didn't make any sexual notions and really kept things on a friendship basis.

No one likes rejection so I try to be nice, considerate and firm. I also don't give reasons for that rejection. A person should be themselves no matter what. They just couldn't be with me that is all. I couldn't be with them either.

I admire your attitude.

 

[midlifebear]

I'm going to be 57 years-old for about 7 more months. Except for my buzzed white hair, I'm in damn good shape. Better shape than most young'ns in their 20's who show up to the gym just to socialize. But I've always preferred older men. I worried for a long time what would happen when I grew older and the guys twice my age I chased after would be too old to get it up or worse -- dead. But fortunately, I moved out of the USA in my early 40's only to discover that men such as myself are a highly sought after quantity. Not in the USA, but most definitely in Argentina, Spain, France, and Italy. It's definitely a cultural thing. A lot of mature Germans show up on the beaches at Sitges looking for young male tail, which isn't a bad thing, but the majority have let themselves turn into pudgy, pasty, trolls. However, there even seems to be a market for them among the swarthy and dark-skinned bear crowd.

Still, I prefer men approximately my own age who have respected their bodies and maintained their health. No offense, but smooth-skinned hairless twinkies have never interested me -- even when I was one back in the 60's/70's.

 

[midlifebear]

Will you give examples of men in their 50s or 60s you find hot?

Scott Bakula . . . mmmmmm, 51 years-old and tasty!:smile:

 

[Cochranfan4life]

I live in the USA and older men aare what i lust after!!

 

[horneyoldguy]

I am 64 and I like sex. It may take my cock a little longer to get hard but it does and when stimulated enough it makes a nice mess on my abdomin. Having sex is not just for the young.

I think what happens is the young don't like to think of older people having sex because that means their parents are horny and doing it what they are also doing.
Though we love our children, my wife and I were very happy when the last one moved out because the noise you hear from the bedroom is not the television but two mature people enjoying their bodies and having very loud sex.

I must not that we do keep the air conditioner on so we don't wake up the kids next door.

 

[midlifebear]

I live in the USA and older men aare what i lust after!!

Good for you.

When I was a teenager I ran into an older guy, about 44 years old, thick black hair, goatee with threads of grey in it, and with an incredible build. I chased after him into a notorious public restroom where he was a bit hesitant, but ended up giving me an earth-shattering blowjob. I had a man-crush on that guy for years. Alas, he was primarily a toilet queen and had a lover of 15 years. Because of his sexual proclivities I never had an opportunity where I was able to spend the night with him -- except for a couple of extended hot sessions at the local baths. I still lust after the memory of that hunk.

You are a rare animal, Cochranfa4life. You should make some hot daddy very happy. Good luck with that. :wink:

 

[Cochranfan4life]

midlifebear..your story is making me hard!!

 

[B_cigarbabe]

I just stick my cane between the young whippersnappers legs, and watch them go ass over teakettle

Mr. Ed forgot to mention his "cane" is his dick!
I heard him tell the kid as he was falling; "Hey while your'e down there......" :blowjob: :naughty:
cigarbabe:saevil:

 

[MuscledHorse]

I think the biggest reason is the heavily youth oriented mindset put forth in advertising and media--especially gay media. Everything from A&F/Hollister to ads inthe Advocate. The mesage is young and muscled is whats hot. You never see an older guys (e.g. anyone over 30) in any of those ads, even though you can find guys in their 50's in excellent shape who are just as handsome. I know if I hadn't escorted when I was in college I would probably have bought ito the mindset so many my age did: old guys = yuck; they're old. As a reesult I met a lot of guys, most just average build and had to connect on something more than the A&F posterboy level thats thrown up at us as whats perfect because it's young. Fotr learning that lesson early on in life, I am very grateful. On my rare trips into bars (don't drink or smoke) here, Istill see the skinny chain smoking queens making snide comments about the trolls they will soon become. Gotta love karma that way.

 

[D_Chaumbrelayne_Copprehead]

I don't know much about gay culture. I'm a bi married guy who lives much more in the straight world than the gay world.

I find that, here in middle age, I get hit on by men and women in their 20s and 30s. I probably never would have hit on someone that much older than me when I was that age. But don't get me wrong; I love the attention.

 

[D_Tamerton Taintpussie]

I completely understand that one could have preference for a certain age group, just like one could have a preference for a certain hair color etc. I am 37, but generally find younger men more attractive. This is not to say I would rule out being attracted to a guy more my own age, it just seems to happen less.

As far as my own age is concerned, I am often mistaken for someone from anywhere from 23 or 24, to 30 or 32 (on a bad day). I have no problem with my age, but I do find that people treat you differently once they realize your age. Looking younger than I am (for now) allows me access to subcultures and realities that I would not otherwise enjoy. I never lie about my age if asked, but have been tempted to blur it a bit as a result of this issue.

As far as younger men having a thing for older women, it does seem to be a wave that is gathering momentum, and I for one am not complaining.

 

[jeff black]

I think that those who are in the youthful mindset have a hard time dealing with age as a whole. I mean, how many of us remember being 10 and thinking 20 or 25 was OLD, only to get there and be surprised at how we were still quite young?

It's just something we learn to deal with as we get older. Doesn't make it ok.

 

[Cockmo]

OMG! older men can be hot as HELL! bruce willis, harrison ford, denzel washington, mel gibson! my bf is in his mid-50s and is just the way i like em: tall, blond, handsome/good looking, hung, sophisticated, good humored, sarcastic, and rough and dirty at just the right times older men have the experience and know how when it comes to pleasing younger men (and women)! he has the sexual drive of a 21 year old frat boy!

i also think there is something hot about a man who has kids and was once married. i guess its the fact that hes done it with women and men that makes it that much hotter

 

[rbkwp]

YOU have a GREAT Knack of offering Threads that attract attention ........................... young fella'
NO answer to your Q' tho- maybe its just the way life is-boring i know..>)
enz

 

[sdbg]

Getting older is a trip. I turned 57 this past April. I don't really feel much different, yet I'll pass a mirror and think "Damn, dude! You're getting old!", and then laugh about it. I ride my bike just about every day and do event rides fairly often. For instance, on Sunday there will be BIKE THE BAY 25 mile ride across the Coronado Bay Bridge. On Saturday the 27th, the 50 mile ROSARITO TO ENSENADA ride will take place. I plan to participate in these type of events often until I drop dead. It's all about having fun and making every day count.

To answer the OP's question: people are attracted to youth and beauty. It's a fact of life. I see all kinds of handsome young SDSU guys every day on the trolley. Even though they are very attractive, most of them would not want anything to do with someone twice their age, and I respect that. I'm not going to live my life wishing I could hook up with a young dude. It's not realistic. I have a good social life that includes both men and women whose ages range from 31 to 65. If romance is meant to happen, great, if not, I'll keep on hanging out with my friends and enjoy my life. I've seen too many guys my age make fools of themselves playing up to young guys who would like the older guys to just go away, and I don't want to be one of those older guys.

 

[Rowan Ravenseed]

I have since I was around 16 been attracted to men no less than 10 years my senior.

To this day at age 28.... while I do find some attractive 20-30's and some more 30-35's The majority of then men i find attractive are 35+ and more often than not well into their 40's and the occasional 50's.

I have always found mature men to be exactly that... more mature.... they are better listeners, there more attentive, better lovers, and generally on the whole better partners.
I also value learning and for me a big part of sex appeal comes from a man that can teach me about life.

However with that being said it does have to be noted that a relationship between two partners where the age gap is significantly different can never be a relationship between equals...... it will always be a co-dependent relationship where one or both parties are reliant on the other for emotional fulfillment.

No matter how mature or how many life experiences the younger may have had......no matter how immature or how sheltered the older may be........nothing can equal to the experience gained through age and unless there are some serious mental/psychological problems with the older party then the more mature party will almost certainly end up taking on more responsibility in the relationship due to their xtra life experience.

I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with co-dependent relationships but often they can leave one or both parties feeling drained.

 

[sdbg]

However with that being said it does have to be noted that a relationship between two partners where the age gap is significantly different can never be a relationship between equals...... it will always be a co-dependent relationship where one or both parties are reliant on the other for emotional fulfillment.
experience.

I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with co-dependent relationships but often they can leave one or both parties feeling drained.

I never thought of it that way. I can see that the parties might not be equals, but is the co-dependent element always there?