Why Do Some People Say It's Not Possible For A Man To Be Attracted To Both Genders

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They don't get it and are used to thinking about human sexuality in binary terms. Also there's the whole stereotype that says that gay men use bisexuality as a crutch before completely coming out as gay, which is just annoying… I love every gender/sex. My bisexuality is not a crutch.
 

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I don’t understand why someone one would think that. In my early years I would get a man crush on someone I wanted to be friends with. I wanted to socialize with them be their friend. It was later that I sexualized that man crush. I have always been attracted to females and still have sex with both sexes.
 
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What a foolish concept that either men or women cannot be attracted to both sexes. Naturally we find people attractive, handsome, pretty, engaging, regardless of gender. To then take the leap from attraction to intimacy is completely possible. I think more people would be a lot happier if they just dropped their inhibitions.
 

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Here is a different take on this.

I have heard of many men, who claim to be "bi", yet you never see them with women, only men. It could be a reaction to society's ingrained, repeated condemnation of gay people.

By describing themselves as bi, they avoid the association with a label that is very hate-filled and negative.
 

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I have heard of many men, who claim to be "bi", yet you never see them with women, only men. It could be a reaction to society's ingrained, repeated condemnation of gay people.

By describing themselves as bi, they avoid the association with a label that is very hate-filled and negative.

Yes! I've often thought of telling people I'm bisexual or asexual or nonsexual or celibate because I'm fearful of the hassle from others when they hear the gay word.
 

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You have a good point.

I was in relationships with women in the past but it has been a while. When I was younger, I was attracted to men but I could not see myself in a relationship with them. Now I could see myself in a relationship with a man or a woman even though I am slightly more attracted to men. I have not come out as bisexual to many people because I feel the close-minded people would not understand-- the gays would say I am a liar and on the road to becoming gay whereas the heteros would say I can't make up my mind. I have heard this from family, friends and acquaintances on more than one occasion.

Here is a different take on this.

I have heard of many men, who claim to be "bi", yet you never see them with women, only men. It could be a reaction to society's ingrained, repeated condemnation of gay people.

By describing themselves as bi, they avoid the association with a label that is very hate-filled and negative.
 

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Why do you think some people cant grasp that concept.

Some people also day Donald Trump is the greatest president in the country's history.

It's not possible to ascertain why some people say these things. Just ignore them.
 

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I think because as humans we always filter everything through our own life experiences (which is all we really have as a true reference point)--and if a person has not had those feelings of attraction personally, it is impossible to believe they exist. Now, keep in mind there is a HUGE difference from saying " I don't get it" to " I'm gonna beat up someone"--- The "beat up someone" types have much deeper issues and insecurities that are unresolved -- (IMO).--- I can't understand why anyone would eat (or even have in their home) "Yellow mustard"-- That is the worst condiment ever created. I wanna gag just thinking of it. --every one is so different --
 
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My theory is that there's also a dimension of patriarchy to it, as counter-intuitive as that might sound. Generally speaking, the US approach to sexuality (which I think is kinda the point of reference here) is focused on the penis: it's what gives pleasure and receives it. And the focus on cock means that everyone's judged, in some way, on their relationship to it: straight men have it; gay men want it; straight women need it; lesbians are a category error because they "reject" it.

Bisexuals of all gender persuasions also pose an issue. The stereotype is that bi women might fuck around with other women a bit, but ultimately are gonna come back to men always—or that their attraction to women is just in the service of pleasing men. And bi men are "contaminated" by their desire for cock—because to desire cock means to override all other pleasures and desires, so aren't we all just actually gay?

Ultimately, bi women are sort of "accepted" more than bi men if only b/c they can still serve as useful objects of sexual desire; whereas we bi men aren't useful in that regard.
 

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One of the major problems that made me take my time when I date/ meet a man.

Especially when I used to meet men younger than me (Now I don't do it anymore).

They would basically say that I am a Gay man who does not want to confess being 100% gay because the time they spent with me proves their point.

I don't want to go on calling others with names and classifying them; but that way of thinking is very shallow coming from them.

Yes you can be attracted to both sexes and you can have a hand in choosing which side you want to be more attracted to.

Like, if you want to get married and make up a family too.
 
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'Cos they're bigoted morons


Not everything is "bigotry!!! oh my, clutchin my pearls!!"

Some ppl are just genuinely turned off by the thought of same sex activity. I've known plenty of both sexes, all diff races etc that just get disgusted by the thought. Some ppl are disgusted by the idea of eating sushi. its called personal preference. Its not always the PC SJW "Oh you're a bigot!" As long as the person doesnt try to outlaw same-sex activity or commit violence against said practioners. (or fucking ban sushi bars?!) who gives a shit. Ppl are entitled to their opinions. Fuckers are too soft nowadays, everyone cries bigot at the drop of a hat. Fucks sake I've been seeing movements claiming that you're a transphobe if you would not date a trans. Fuck this pc nonsense.

There's plenty of white girls that speak ebonics and will only date black dudes. Is she a bigot against her own race?! lol There's a trend of black women that will only fuck white dudes. Are they racists against their own race? Ugh.