http://chzmemebase.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/memes-why-do-i-do-this.jpg This illustration represents very succinctly a problem a great many of us have. Part of it is that we have strange ideas of how we appear to others. Aside from videotaping ourselves, how do we get around the tendency to distort what we think of ourselves in a social situation? I was just at an astrology forum, and the blogger I was reading there of course blamed it on her natal planets, but it's not what causes, but what we can do to fix the bad habit. You folks who are good at 'chatting', what sort of mental state does one cultivate to produce chitchat without despising the twittery sounds with so little significance?