Why do women feel that they did not satisfy a guy if he doesnt cum?

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  1. bigkev2007

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    I know this seems like a sillly question, especially if you know the answer. It just seems like to me that women should realize guys can take longer to cum especially if they have been drinking or like in my case had sex twice with her earlier in the day. She like threatens to leave me because I did'nt cum. The funny thing was I fucked her later tonight after with had sex twice during the day when I came. I eventually got some rest after we got from the club, and finally came for the third time. I just don't understand it? she like came at least five time herself. I feel like women are never happy? So, why can't she just understand that I find her sexy, desirable, and If I didn't I would not be turned on in the first place?
     
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    She sounds extremely insecure and very immature. She doesn't even know guys can't cum more than a few times in a certain time period. What a douchebag. I say dump the slut.
     
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    Lol that made me laugh xxx
     
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    its a little insecurity we have I guess you could say, Yeh we know that guys can only cum so many times and all, but if we dont see the cum, we think it wasnt good for you I guess.

    And maybe she likes your cum, that feeling, taste, etc..?
     
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    Idk, I have a very "as long as I get mine attitude". :09:

    Seriously. It seems like your GF may think there has to be an orgasm for the sex to be satisfying. Which, of course, is not true, but something many have been conditioned into believing must happen - like the simultaneous orgasm.

    Tell her you are not a machine and can only achieve orgasm under the right conditions, like everyone else. Explain that you would never demand that she has an orgasm, so she has to respect the way your body operates equally. Then add sex (use making love) is about the connection with her and not a race to orgasm. If she is still will not adjust her attitude, you may have to find someone else.
     
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    you can't win if you come to quick then all you get to hear about is how you are this "minuteman" some kind of prepube little boy that can't control his business but if we don't cum every time or we in there estimation "take too long" well they are not happy with that either.
     
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    yeh but if the girl just lays there she's a lame lay, but if she's too aggressive the guys are scared off, tough from either side, but thats sex
     
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    Be nice, that is his women you just insulted. Its not like she is holding out. that was thier 3rd time in a day. THAT IS A KEEPER. She is just confused at the moment.
     
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    Your ignorance never ceases to amaze me. :angryfire2:

    I used to have a fuck buddy that was 38 and could fuck like nobodys business. It wasn't unusual for him to cum 4 or 5 times in a 3 hour session. One day he only came 3 times and I thought I had done something wrong or he was sick or something.

    Ding, ding, ding We have a winner! That is of course the correct answer.:cool:


    :wink: QFT! :yup:



    Different men have different refractory times. I'm used to a man not needing more than 10 minutes to get it back up again. I've heard some guys need 30 minutes or more. :eek: Shit, if I had to wait 45 minutes, by the time he is hard again my pussy is dry and I'm eating a turkey club and ready for a nap. :lmao:
     
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    lol well im more of a ham and cheese girl, but yeh i agree. If the guy can't look at me and get it up in like 15 minutes after he cums, then he better be good that first time, cuz thats all he's getting.
     
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    I think the girls missed the point.

    Erection/ejaculation/orgasm,are all seperate functions.I can have an erection and orgasm without ejaculating.And I can be erect and ejaculate without orgasm.Some times all three can happen,but not every time!

    For a woman to threaten leaving a relationship cause she did not get spoooged on/in is silly!
     
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    yeh i think she overreacted there, but ya gotta understand, we understand the physical stuff, but its something about seeing the guy cum that makes us feel like we did our job.

    Like if a tree falls in the forest, but no one sees it, did it actually fall? We're not inside your head, so we don't know when you actually cum unless we can see it.
     
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    Reminds me of the scene in 40 days & 40 nights when the girl wants to see it after he fakes...
     
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    And this is my piont ejaculation and orgasm are different both feel good.But one you can see the other may not be as obvious.The female interpretation of when a man cums baffles me.
     
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    ok when i say cum, i mean ejaculate, white stuff comes out and all that.
     
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    Butt..butt..butt..What happens when what comes out aint white?I smoke and drink!Yes I am being obtuse!!:biggrin1:
     
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    Because thats the way its always supposed to be. We've been hearing the story read to us this way for centuries. We've come to expect it to happen no matter what.
     
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    Yeah I guess it's what a woman expects and perhaps thinks if you haven't come you haven't really enjoyed it.
    However I understand that a man will take longer to orgasm the second time around, or may never come if he has drunk too much or taken drugs. All this experience however I built up during my time as an escort when I slept with many many men. I think it's perhaps just a question of experience, maybe the lady just had never been told that this can happen with a man. We all live in a world where porn seems to set the bar for all sexual activity. And in every porn film the man comes, and in most the women appear to love anal sex and having bitter semen sprayed in her eyes and hair etc. Therefore it depicts a very unrealistic picture of sex and people seem to aspire to this ideal instead of just asking themselves what they really enjoy and what works for them and are therefore disappointed in themselves when 'pornland' doesn't become reality for them.
     
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    It amazes me the way society and porn industry has trained us women. We are told the if a guy cums he has orgasmed and therefor he has a orgasm. The problem is it is a lie.

    The fact is a guy may cum but doesn't mean he has orgasm. I can tell when ed69 cums and when he orgasm. There is two totally different responses and guess what sometimes neither happens.

    I use to get knotted up about until he sat me down and told me how it worked. Then I started paying attention and notice the differences. I also realized my own pleasure didn't result in an orgasm all the time either.

    I enjoy all sexual encountered with my hubby and no he doesn't cum everytime or orgasm everytime. For that matter neither do I.
     
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    lie. tell her you have those tantric dry orgasms.

    actually, just dump her. nobody has the right to bully an orgasm from you.
    personally i think male orgasm is the best part of sex, but if the guy doesn't want to then that's ok.
     
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