Why do women lie about penis size?

[Ocine]

Most of us don't measure, and don't ask a guy his size, and really who would believe him if we did? I just think the whole number thing is mostly a guy thing.

When I flash on cam, lot of girls ask me how big is it but that maybe because its virtual and we dont know each other so they don't care if they seem "weird" or curious about it

 

[Tactfulgal]

When I flash on cam, lot of girls ask me how big is it but that maybe because its virtual and we dont know each other so they don't care if they seem "weird" or curious about it

I'm not a cam watcher, but remember - some guy they're watching on cam is a totally different category than a guy who they're actually intimate with in real life. They might ask you the number because it's all just a curiosity, I doubt they really care whether their guy in real life is 6.25 or 6.5.

 

[KengoNaininchi]

Men lie about their size. You don't hear women going around talking about high tight they are. How would a woman know how tight she is?

Pffft 


(well not all women say this....eyeballs next thread)

I've heard women extoll this about themselves quite a few times.

 

[Shepardson]

Also, a few times on here I've seen guys assume the myth of the women sitting around a table gossiping about guys sizes. I don't know where guys got the idea that this happens but it really doesn't. I might share some details of my sex life with 1 or 2 very close friends, but it's not something for my social group at large. The reasons are many. It's not particurly tactful to go around spilling your private life into the public like that

They are out there. I've actually been out with one, which is probably the reason I ended up here, but it's definitely a type I will avoid in the future, and thankfully doesn't seem to be all that common. Not sure what "details" you include in that other statement, but I admire your position on it, and trust that they probably don't go that far.

I'm not a cam watcher, but remember - some guy they're watching on cam is a totally different category than a guy who they're actually intimate with in real life. They might ask you the number because it's all just a curiosity, I doubt they really care whether their guy in real life is 6.25 or 6.5.

But doesn't this merely imply a "compromise" of sorts? Sounds like saying a guy fantasizes about being with the girl with the hot chick porno body, but he'll "settle" for what he can get in real life, especially if she has other redeeming relationship qualities. His choice in wank material actually reveals a lot about his ideal physical mate. He wouldn't want to date her and be stuck with her if she had a repulsive personality, but if he could transfer her body to this otherwise perfect girlfriend that's out there, that would probably be his choice. Once in a relationship with someone he likes or loves, his physical attraction may shift to what she has, and he wouldn't want to exchange it, but that doesn't mean he no longer has a preference and won't revert back to that if the relationship ends. I know we can't expect to have it all, but I don't figure most people want to feel like they aren't really their mate's ideal type, even if only in that one area.

Take Care

PS- Never got the cam thing either. It seems like a virtual version of a glory hole or something.

 

[916416]

I can attest to that. I have not nor ever will tell any female in my orbit what size my boyfriend is. Bottom line, it's none of their fucking business. To begin with I believe in intimacy and keeping private the sexual relationship I share with my guy. Add, I don't trust other women. Blame it on actual personal experience of having an ex-boyfriend cheat with, at the time, a good friend. Unfortunately for that daffy bitch the guy in question had a micro dick and she got what she deserved.

Seriously though, why would I ever tell another woman my boyfriend's cock is big and that our sex is amazing? I'd be just asking to attract a bad element into what should always remain a private matter. It's like telling everyone you won lottery, just fucking stupid. It's blood in the water for the sharks. It increases the potential for attracting some envious greedy dirtbag to come gunning for what you have and they want. Keeping your mouth shut is always the best policy.

As to the OP question ...

I'm going to take a crack at this because I do believe there are some women who lie about it. I've certainly been in the presence of at least two women who came across as phony upon conveying to a group of other females that they'd been with hung guys. Both were terrible liars. One was even called on the spot by another woman who had slept with the same guy and knew he wasn't hung but average. So I ask myself, why would these women lie about it to other women? And why would some women lie and share this information with the men they were currently having sex with? This is what I came up with ...

Obviously not all the women (nearly half in the study group) who took part in the question posed in the link have had 9+ inches. More reliable scientific studies of penis size (if any actually exist?) certainly don't support the numbers seen in the OP link. But more importantly the study the OP posted is highly flawed as there is no real proof that only women voted. I think it's safe to say a significant number of men corrupted the vote. Having said that I still think there are women who voted 9+ who never experienced anything close to that size. So again, why?

I personally think it's just a matter of some women wanting to either one up their female friends or impart to their boyfriend/husband this lie in order to establish a level of control. It's a way a woman can (falsely) establish experience that is beyond her current partner's capabilities which in turn creates this circuit of power for her within their relationship. Once they reveal they've been with a man bigger (which to a lot of men immediate translates into better) they instantly create control in the bedroom. At anytime after making this information known she can then use it as an emotional weapon as it relates to his masculinity, his ego. The man is left to wonder if he's ever good enough in bed because of this.

She can use this "ace" during heated arguments to instantly cut him down. She can also slow pitch it and simply act coy and play it off as something that she'll tell him really doesn't matter, but the question remains, why then did she plant the seed? And there in lies this invisible level of control as she can then through seemingly innocuous dialog, simple inflection, imply, mood during sex, continue to reaffirm this sexual seed of doubt she planted in his psyche.

The perfect victim for her is one of those guys who continually needs to know and already had issues with size and inadequacy. Men who will feed her questions about the "big guy" she supposedly had must be like a drug to a woman who enjoys creating such twisted grids of control. It's a clear indication to her that she's in his head, in control of his very manhood. The relationship becomes this process of building him up and tearing him down. There are some women who get off on that. The reasons for her doing this are vast but it's always about power. It a pretty wicked thing to do to a guy and the type of women who play these games are clearly insecure, sexually immature, and well, rather disturbed imo.

For me, if say, I moved on from my current boyfriend I'd never tell the next guy he wasn't as big as a previous lover. It's a really cruel thing to do to create this feeling of physical inadequacy in a new partner and only works to deflate him as a man. Considering I'm into very masculine men who are dominant in the bedroom I'd be just detracting from the sex, this sexually prowess and confident beast, the archetype that I adore, lust for, as a lover. I imagine some women have issues, baggage, and feel the need to crush a male ego in order to elevate their own lacking self-worth but in my mind all you're doing is hurting your relationship by injecting this doubt in your guy's confidence. How does that benefit anyone or make for a healthy relationship and good sex? Personally I want to build him up because in the end it goes to making him a better lover and strengthening what we have together. I want him to be the best he can be not some emotionally unsure puppet that I take out and play with from time to time.

This is an excellent and insightful post.

Women who practice mind games like this deserve the ending they'll get from it. There is no need for it and it can be damaging to some guys long-term.

Thanks for the post and thank God most women are nothing like that.

 

[813691]

This is an excellent and insightful post.

Women who practice mind games like this deserve the ending they'll get from it. There is no need for it and it can be damaging to some guys long-term.

Thanks for the post and thank God most women are nothing like that.

I think she hit it dead on.

 

[shadow28]

There are some amazing posts on this thread, well thought-out and detailed.

My 2 cents... when you throw a gay man into the mix, women become more open, because there is zero sexual tension. As long as that gay man isn't the type who goes around trying to figure out the dick size of everyone he knows, women seem to feel more comfortable discussing dick size.

I work with at least three women who have no qualms whatsoever about telling you the size of a guy... even when you're not particularly interested in finding out. We work in a military environment and are perhaps "tight" in the sense that we share a lot about our personal lives anyway, but sometimes it's frankly shocking how much I have come to know about my male colleagues' dick sizes, without asking nor even caring.

Some guys would be astonished at how easily the subject is thrown around behind their backs. BTW these are not "cheap" people in any sense... they are intelligent, successful and altogether reasonable. It's just a subject which, among my friends, is neither private (since we have all seen each other naked anyway), nor particularly naughty.

 

[Katiecav_34D]

Maybe we don't want to embarrass our boyfriends when this topic comes up

 

[7x6]

Maybe we don't want to embarrass our boyfriends when this topic comes up

There's an element of that, I bet the average guy could get away with claiming at least an extra inch. I have an ex who estimated my size as 8.5" which put her 'too big' 10" ex in perspective, presumably he was an inch and a half shorter.
The thing is, I didn't correct her and I know she told at least one person...

I'm part of the problem, it's not women lying, it's men exaggerating as much as they feel they can get away with.

 

[bkbll2010]

Women don't lie about it, they just don't measure it. Had a girl tell me recently that she thought I was 10.5-11 inches, I'm 8x6. She even has been a hair stylist for 15 years and she said she knows how long 10.5-11 inches is.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Women don't lie about it, they just don't measure it. Had a girl tell me recently that she thought I was 10.5-11 inches, I'm 8x6. She even has been a hair stylist for 15 years and she said she knows how long 10.5-11 inches is.

Hair stylists don't know shit about dimmensions. At least I have never met even one who did. How many times have you asked a stylist to trim 2" and he or she takes 4" or even 5"? Fucking routine for me. I would NEVER trust a stylist to estimate length. Ever.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Yeah, I was aghast at seeing five inches of 1/2 inch on the floor back in October.

 

[SprinkleMe69]

I'm about to trim off 12 inches. Yikes

 

[EllieP]

Preach it, AE! It's almost as if they're paid by the volume on the floor!

I threatened my hairdresser once that I would hold on to his balls, and if I saw more than the amount I requested fall to the floor I would squeeze! He had this nervous little laugh.

Of course I wasn't holding anything, but when I saw this long piece fall he quickly said "I'm evening it up!" He really thought I was going to reach over I guess.

He's the reason I have trust issues.

 

[LaFemme]

When I had long hair, I had the same issue - trim the ends meant losing 6 inches, even when I would show the stylist exactly how much I meant.

And once, sitting in the chair with a new stylist, he asked me what I did for a living. When I told him, he grabbed my hair and cut about 8 inches off saying, "[Blank] ruined my life!" and proceeded to chop away at my hair while he railed away at my profession. I was terrified. I didn't look ugly so I did pay. Didn't even complain because he was the owner. I was just thankful he didn't stab me with the scissors.

 

[bkbll2010]

Obviously she was off by 2.5-3 inches so I'm not saying they do know inches. She just told me she knows how much 10.5-11 inches! I didn't tell her it was 8!

 

[Shackleford]

These stories about hair stylists are why I refuse to get my hair cut at any place that doesn't have a striped pole next to the front door.

 

[Bill Blaskey]

As a guy, I'd say it is mainly our fault. Most of the time I am only a little over 7" and it looks pretty average to me. That said, every girl that has ever asked after seeing it thought it was bigger than it is. I have a somewhat stocky build, even after losing some weight, so it isn't a like it looks big because I have small frame. I'm almost entirely certain it is because guys that are in the 5.5-6" range always say they are an inch larger than they are. Just my .02.

Appropriate pic:

 

[Scarletbegonia]

When I had long hair, I had the same issue - trim the ends meant losing 6 inches, even when I would show the stylist exactly how much I meant.

And once, sitting in the chair with a new stylist, he asked me what I did for a living. When I told him, he grabbed my hair and cut about 8 inches off saying, "[Blank] ruined my life!" and proceeded to chop away at my hair while he railed away at my profession. I was terrified. I didn't look ugly so I did pay. Didn't even complain because he was the owner. I was just thankful he didn't stab me with the scissors.

I hope he has a) gotten the help he needs, and b) isn't licensed to chop,anymore.

 

[LaFemme]

I hope he has a) gotten the help he needs, and b) isn't licensed to chop,anymore.

I don't know. I never went back. There's still a shop there, but I give it wide berth!