totally agree. i've had that same experience too. thanks for the confirmation.
yeah, i've found that IF, IF, IF.... i'm lucky enough to find a girl who I hook up with, they completely shut down. It's like they don't know how to emotionally process it. Like their mind spins out of control with thoughts of shame and guilt.
however, i'm not out LOOKING TO JUST HOOK UP. i actually love connecting with women in the bedroom and want to see them again, however, I've found that it doesn't work for them that way. their brains don't work that way. if you "hook up" with a girl, it sends their brain tumbling. they don't know how to process it.
I've found that women who claim to be sexually liberated often blame society for feelings of shame and judgment, but i don't buy it, i've seen it happen too many times to believe that's the issue. i think women biologically can't process sex unless they feel they "know someone" whatever that means. I'm not saying it's bad. I'm just saying that's a natural component that needs to be considered honestly and openly.
For example, that's why most porn stars have boyfriends and husbands, they want that security, no matter what. It's not about sex for women, it's about "connection".
which is not to say that women can't have sex WITHOUT connection. I've found that there are MANY women who are happy to have sex if they're paid or compensated somehow. As long as they are getting something out of it.
but sadly, I just don't like paying for it. Although it seems like a much simpler, smarter way to go sometimes.
They're not. Even if they enjoy the sex and come back for more, they're less invested in the whole interaction. That's one of the things you have to put up with nsa sex, I guess. That said, regular and even semi-regular fb's can be quite communicative, though some need some encouragement