Why do women seem to more picky/shallow around genitalia than men?

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Hey everyone so I don't mean to discriminate against anyone. I'm just curious and have been wondering this for a long time now.
Like men usually don't care about vaginal dimensions as much although it can greatly limit the pleasure a man can achieve if a woman isn't down for anal/oral.
Why is it then that women find smaller sizes or even average a deal-breaker (especially in hookups/NSA sex)? Why are women more attracted or generally more oriented towards male genitalia than a man is around woman's genitalia.

Please don't compare boobs or ass, it's not the same thing. We're talking about genitalia here :)
 
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Respectfully I think this is a common misconception that you're falling for. Perhaps you believe this from anecdotal evidence from talking to other men, i don't know. This idea is something that tends to be perpetuated by us men rather than women because WE are the ones obsessed with our dick size and how affective they are at providing pleasure.

At least in my own experience with women, they care far more about the guy the dick is attached to rather than the dick itself. Women (again in my own experience) care more about the lead up to sex rather than the act itself. We tend to focus on the latter.

Also, women are more likely to orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than penetration and you don't need a huge dick or a dick at all for that, so size would be irrelevant.
 

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Respectfully I think this is a common misconception that you're falling for. Perhaps you believe this from anecdotal evidence from talking to other men, i don't know. This idea is something that tends to be perpetuated by us men rather than women because WE are the ones obsessed with our dick size and how affective they are at providing pleasure.

At least in my own experience with women, they care far more about the guy the dick is attached to rather than the dick itself. Women (again in my own experience) care more about the lead up to sex rather than the act itself. We tend to focus on the latter.

Also, women are more likely to orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than penetration and you don't need a huge dick or a dick at all for that, so size would be irrelevant.

THANK YOU.

I'm not a size queen. I don't need to be penetrated to cum at all. I've fucked all sizes you can imagine. The thing that keeps me from cumming? Lack of connection/communication. Verbal conversations aren't the only ones that exist.

I have never turned down a penis for being aesthetically unappealing. Never. One I turned down because he had visible sores on his shaft. That's not a matter of "attractive", that's a matter of Health.

I like dick. I like looking at it. Sucking it. Playing with it. Fucking it (vaginally or anally). What I don't like is assuming that the only way I'll get off on a cock is if it meets specific size criteria.

There's a song by TLC "I'm good at being bad". That whole song is the thing that pisses me off about *some* women. They claim to require "ten inch, or bigger". Ten inches? Get the fuck outta here. That, and my clit isn't inside my pussy. It sticks out prominently. I don't need ten goddamn inches to make me bust my nut.

OP.. Have you ever heard the things men say about a woman's pussy when it looks a certain way?
"Beef curtains"
"Blown out"
"Looks like you could throw a hotdog down a hallway in that one".

Please, get the fuck outta here with this very biased and uninformed observation you've made about women's preferences.
 

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Such a bs question. Men obsess over genitals of any kind far more than women. I’ve never met a woman who really cared about cock in any other way other than health and hygiene. I did meet women concerned not about their genitals specifically, but about what men think about their genitals, especially labia size and pubic hair.
 

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I don't want to presume to know the ins and outs of what is going on through women's minds individually, but most of my observations of the hookup and NSA sex women partake in, qualities that appeal on a purely biological basis(height, strength, arms/ chest, etc) tend to take priority, as there are plenty of shorter, weaker, and less aesthically pleasing men present that she's not necessarily so primally attracted to(not overlooking that maybe they possess other qualities that would appeal on a longer term basis)
Besides orgasms are less guaranteed for her(for whatever reason that may be) so if a relationship or socioeconomic security aren't at play, I'd imagine at least they would cater to their ego in some way to at least have that.
I think for people in general, when it is apparent they have an abundance of sexual options, not necessarily guided by what they say or do, but by just being whom they are, they tend to look for more "achievements" and notable experiences when they opt for short term selection.
 

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I don’t agree with your point.
I think men magnify any differences that women see. I think other than small guys, most women don’t care about cocks and their size. Only that they work and the guy doesn’t cum too soon!
 
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I think other than small guys, most women don’t care about cocks and their size. Only that they work and the guy doesn’t cum too soon!
I don't think most women are seeking or are open about seeking hookups/NSA sex. Similarly, I don't think most women would say, pay a man for sex work...but of those that do, do you think the clients are ambivalent about penis size, or do you think they skew higher than average?
 

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I don't think most women are seeking or are open about seeking hookups/NSA sex. Similarly, I don't think most women would say, pay a man for sex work...but of those that do, do you think the clients are ambivalent about penis size, or do you think they skew higher than average?
Not 100% clear on your question: are you referring to porn or to escorts?
 

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Escorts, strippers, basically situations where she is paying for a sexual service, so not
I don’t know. I think there is not a standard for it. Some maybe want reallly handsome guys. Some amazing bodies. Some a certain ethnicity and yes some a big cock. I don’t think it is an all or nothing, binary point
 

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I don’t know. I think there is not a standard for it. Some maybe want reallly handsome guys. Some amazing bodies. Some a certain ethnicity and yes some a big cock. I don’t think it is an all or nothing, binary point
Skillful maneuvering there...being picky/shallow is not a binary thing it's a game of probabilities, to which the premise is there's a much higher probability of success as a male escort or stripper with a large penis attached. I'm fairly sure OP knows some percentage of women will not be as picky about penis size in a hookup/NSA situation, just like I know there's some percentage of conventially attractive young women seeking out house husbands for them to support...but I think we both know neither comes with a good probability of success...which is going to speak to men's sensibilities a lot more the than the nebulous strategy of relying on possibility.
 

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That song (and many others) aren't actual representations of how men or women in general feel about things.

Stop extrapolating what you see in entertainment and applying it to reality.

We're individual human beings just like men. What you're doing here? It's called misogyny.

I told you that I myself don't need penetration to cum. Just dismissed the fuck out of it, didn't ya?
 

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Talking about my personal experience is misogyny? That sounds like something a radical feminist would say, I hope u aren't one.

Just because u don't need penetration to cum doesn't mean what u want tho. I explained u this.
Ok, let's go to extremes then.

What would u do if u met a good-looking dude in the bar and u were to have sex with him, u go to the bedroom start making out, foreplay u start taking his clothes get on your knees and pull it out and it's 2-3 inches.
U'd most likely be disappointed. Maybe even reject a guy. Now multiply that by 10x. That's how women in my generation are. And even if u wouldn't reject, u most likely wouldn't contact the guy ever again even if he was a sex god and he left u satisfied in other ways. I don't judge u, it's how women are. It's not misogyny. It's fucking reality, darling. It's how reality is for us guys, it might seem like something out of a fantasy book for you but it's how men actually live.
Getting a relationship is hard af especially when u are a sexual person. It'd be easy to get into relationship if u had platonic relationship but that's not how most guys with small dicks are right?

I've fucked guys who were only a few inches. Disappointed? Get the fuck outta here with your projection.

Stop watching so much porn. Stop seeking sex from shallow assholes? I don't know, but I have never in my life known a woman who dumped a guy specifically because of his dick. So, my experiences count as much as yours. Which means...?

Yeah.. You're just one of *those* guys. (The ones who refuse to listen to anything but their decided conclusions on any given topic)
 
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Nothing's drying vagina around me. I've had an ex who I made orgasm just with my fingers. I know my fair share of vagina. Yes, I know how to stimulate G-spot and clitoris, thank God for longer fingers.
All that didn't stop her cheating on me with a tall black basketball player. I just wonder what he had more than me since I've been told I'm handsome, I'm also 6'3 so not short and she liked my personality (although that was 2 years ago). I truly wonder what else could it be right? Oh right. Penis size :'D Completely forgot about that one, right?

Or, she was a piece of shit?

That's also totally possible/likely.
 
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Man, I have written and re-written a lengthy reply twice now but deleted both. There's so much to tell mate but honestly you're just going to have to live it for yourself.

If you want a more optimistic response to your question (albeit slightly patronising) then here goes:

If the young women around you truly have that attitude towards dick size and you truly believe that that's the reality of things... then trust me you will all grow out of it. It's as simple as that. It really is.

Your personalities haven't even solidified yet. The people you are now will NOT be the people you end up being 10 years down the line when this shit starts to matter to you most.
 

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She may be. But why the tall black basketball player? Like why?

Why do you care?

This is a YOU problem. The size of your dick is not the issue. It's your attitude. The fact that his race matters so much speaks volumes..

I'm legit disgusted right now. You need help.
 

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That song (and many others) aren't actual representations of how men or women in general feel about things.
I can't speak for all populations, but there is a definite hypermasculine preference present in the black community with the statistics to back it up. It isn't solely based upon penis size; height, income, social influence and notoriety also tend to play part in that as well. It's resulted in a situation to where post slavery and all through Reconstruction we were probably the most evenly matched in mating and dating with a strong family structure...starting from the Civil Rights Era on and only getting worse we've entered a state where 84% of black children are born out of wedlock(which in itself isn't a bad statistic given the modern reassessment of marriage), but only 16% of the black male population(black women show a preference for black men in the upper 90th percentiles) are actually fathering these children. It sort of implies the feelings at least that specific female population has about mating with and dating men with average dick sizes, heights and incomes when they overwhelmingly opt for the above average to their own eventual detriment. And casual encounters and hookups almost always tend to have women moving with that much more discretion in whom they choose.
 
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