dudepiston said:
This actually surprised me, Arnod...your mentioning that your orgasms are better & deeper from masturbation than regular sex with your BF. I certainly understand. I mean, there's a psychological reason to masturbate, as well as have sex with someone else. Masturbation is just more selfish, but not in a bad way. But it's a fact, you only have to worry about YOUR pleasure and, you can completely, 100% control the build-up phase, and then plateau, and then keep yourself there indefinitely. It's amazing, and of course the more you build the better the explosion. I think most people can come harder & deeper from self-pleasure, IF they really are in-tune with their bodies.....and don't see masturbation as just a 'release that must be done...'
So... was this good or bad
Let me put it another - maybe more positive - way.
When I have sex with my boyfriend, it really really turns me on. When I'm sucking him; it's heaven. But half of it is happening in my head (mostly I fit what I'm doing in a rougher scene, like I'm forced to suck him - he knows this, and sometime does roughen it up a bit to help out) but I don't like jerking off so much while I'm doing it, cause that would ruin the fantasy. So sucking cock only gets me off in my head.
Same thing when he's fucking me... well... ok, when the fucking gets hard, it sometimes gets me so horny I cum without even touching myself. Those are really really good orgasms, I know that, but still, I'm surrendering completely, but he doesn't always realise I'm gonna cum so I end up having an 80% orgasm - òr a painful 130% when he keeps jamming my button. (But I can live with that

By now of course, he knows I'm not that keen on jerking off while having sex, I just really really wanna pleasure him, and the way I'm feeling while doing all those things is just as good as cumming. Other times, he will jerk me off while he's fucking me; (and of course cumming while getting fucked always feels really strong).
Concluding; real sex gives me more anal pleasure (and pleasurable pain) (but I can self-induce that too) and there is nothing like getting some real cock in my mouth and ass.
But the really really really good orgasms, built up and synchronised with my own feelings, I get from masturbating.
That doesn't mean I could ever do without the real thing.
Was this reply more clarifying? Or just as bad? :biggrin1:
(I know I'm a bit screwed up... that's part of the reason I'm here... it's not always fun to be me)