Why does average seem so small?

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I'm somewhere between 5.5 and 6 inches erect measured correctly. Apparently that's slightly larger than average. I'm wondering if there are other guys out there with slightly larger than average penises yet feel like it is small.

Please respond if you feel like you are both average and yet feel small. I'd like to hear your perspective and connect with you. It's been a life long issue and I'd like to overcome it.
 
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Hey, I feel you, absolutely. Same dick size, always felt small, but apparently it's average. On my part, I think that there are three factors that made me feel this way. Growing up, through middle school and all, there was this massive dick guy, he was 6 inches at a time we were at most 4 feet tall, probably grew to be a 10 inchers. The problematic thing was that he always talked about it, not always bragging, but he was really a center of attention, and it made everyone else feel small. I think that happens too in general, we don't really pay attention to the normal things but only the extraordinary. Kinda like how most people feels a bit insecure about their physique because all we see on TV and commercial is just extraordinary.
The other two things are that I am really small when flaccid, which made the locker scene a real struggle for me. And finally, I am half asian and the stereotypes just helped me be ever more insecure.

I don't think I have any answer about this problem, but I just felt like sharing my story.
 

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Yep I'm somewhere there too. Over 5 1/2 inches but under 6.

As a guy who gets on chaturbate a bit, i have heard all sorts of comments about my cock (gotta be thick skinned sometimes)

But yeah some say it's big, some say it looks bigger than it is, some say it's small, some say it's tiny. But most say it's a good looking cock so that's what I take in most.

I guess the culture of bigger is better is to blame for some people feeling inadequate, but you gotta admit that seeing a big cock just hammering into someone is a big turn on. But on the technical side of things it's much harder to film a smaller than average (for porn) cock penetrating than it is a larger one, plus I have always had trouble with certain positions because little Toby can just pop out at any time if i or my partner isn't careful.

Don't let it get to you though if it is. I went through school always hiding myself away in change rooms and feeling not as big as other guys, but now I parade around in front of the whole world online with the keyboard warriors in full effect, because I know that what I have is more than enough for the person I am in love with. I also wouldn't get the awesome blowjobs my girlfriend gives me, she takes it all, down to the balls, I feel every bit of her mouth around my whole cock.

There are pro's to not being hung like a donkey just as their are con's. I don't think there would be a LPSG if there wasn't any con's in having a large dick either so it's just luck of the draw. Use what u got, make the most of it and be happy.
 

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Thanks guys for your responses. Its funny how I've been told I'm very handsome and sexy in many ways - and those advantages are visible so they are the advantages that get you farther in dating, etc...it kind of raises the question for me would I rather be ugly with a big dick? Probably not. I guess we all have our gifts. I just didn't get the big dick gift.
 

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I have had many that hit the average spot, so so many more than tiny and huge. To those guys I always look huge and side by side same, of course to me, looking down, not in the mirror it looks normal. Mirror or photos, looks much bigger.Size total non issue to me when I am looking to date, play. More the person and what they know how to do.Even if I end up bottoming.My best was 5.5, dude had some talent.
 

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7 inches long, still looks short as fuck. I wonder if it is porn that has given me this perception or if the ones that look big and are aesthetically pleasing are actually the ideal size meaning I'm smaller than ideal. I figure it's one or the other. I acknowledge on paper I'm not small... that said does not change how I feel about it.


Second note. Biologically average is rarely ever awesome. Above average is where it's at. That also makes me wonder if the dicks I find to be big (not ridiculously so) are the ideal. I can only speculate unless I find some wizardry and enlarge my dick for actual testing.
 

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Ok, so I'm at the exact so-called world average of 5.16 inches. That's bs, let me say at the outset. I've always been smallest flaccid - in school, college, military & sports teams. In school, there was a friend with a microdick and he was the only one smaller than me. Studies show the average guy grows at 1.6 inches from flaccid to erect, and that most guys fall within this margin. I believe that.

I've had a handful of girlfriends, two of which have shared with me the fact that I was 'clearly' the smallest they were with. One had more than 15 partners! They didn't cruelly volunteer this information - I sought it out from morbid curiosity.

5.1 - even 5-6 isn't average, that's bs. It's below average. Between my two open & honest female partners and a close gay friend, Caucasian average rests between 6-7 inches, with more guys over 7 than under 6. I don't have the personal experience myself - but I tend to believe it.
 
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5.1 - even 5-6 isn't average, that's bs. It's below average. Between my two open & honest female partners and a close gay friend, Caucasian average rests between 6-7 inches, with more guys over 7 than under 6. I don't have the personal experience myself - but I tend to believe it.
That's true for the porn world.
On this board it's even hard to find a truly measured 8" or+. [see thread show 8" ]
In the real world : more guys under 6" than over 6". (just a little bit - but still more under)
 
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Ok, so I'm at the exact so-called world average of 5.16 inches. That's bs, let me say at the outset. I've always been smallest flaccid - in school, college, military & sports teams. In school, there was a friend with a microdick and he was the only one smaller than me. Studies show the average guy grows at 1.6 inches from flaccid to erect, and that most guys fall within this margin. I believe that.

I've had a handful of girlfriends, two of which have shared with me the fact that I was 'clearly' the smallest they were with. One had more than 15 partners! They didn't cruelly volunteer this information - I sought it out from morbid curiosity.

5.1 - even 5-6 isn't average, that's bs. It's below average. Between my two open & honest female partners and a close gay friend, Caucasian average rests between 6-7 inches, with more guys over 7 than under 6. I don't have the personal experience myself - but I tend to believe it.

I agree with this. It has definitely been my experience that more are over 7 than under. And that certainly way more are over 6. I actually think it is like 1/3 1/3 1/3.
1/3 Big (over 7.5)
1/3 Big average (6-7.5)
1/3 Small (Under 6)

Unfortunately I just snuck in the bottom third. :(
 

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I agree with this. It has definitely been my experience that more are over 7 than under. And that certainly way more are over 6. I actually think it is like 1/3 1/3 1/3.
1/3 Big (over 7.5)
1/3 Big average (6-7.5)
1/3 Small (Under 6)

Unfortunately I just snuck in the bottom third. :(
I have just posted in a different thread about this very topic.

Here's the link to one post and there's another post immediately after it: 7+ Very rare in real world
 

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I agree with this. It has definitely been my experience that more are over 7 than under. And that certainly way more are over 6. I actually think it is like 1/3 1/3 1/3.
1/3 Big (over 7.5)
1/3 Big average (6-7.5)
1/3 Small (Under 6)

Unfortunately I just snuck in the bottom third. :(

Nah, you're confusing the proportion of the population prepared to whip their cock out with the average male.
 

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Ok, so I'm at the exact so-called world average of 5.16 inches. That's bs, let me say at the outset. I've always been smallest flaccid - in school, college, military & sports teams. In school, there was a friend with a microdick and he was the only one smaller than me. Studies show the average guy grows at 1.6 inches from flaccid to erect, and that most guys fall within this margin. I believe that.

I've had a handful of girlfriends, two of which have shared with me the fact that I was 'clearly' the smallest they were with. One had more than 15 partners! They didn't cruelly volunteer this information - I sought it out from morbid curiosity.

5.1 - even 5-6 isn't average, that's bs. It's below average. Between my two open & honest female partners and a close gay friend, Caucasian average rests between 6-7 inches, with more guys over 7 than under 6. I don't have the personal experience myself - but I tend to believe it.

No offence, but this is ridiculously dumb. You disregard the largest and most collective study of penis size to date, and then go ahead and anecdotal and conjecturally form your own unsupported opinions based on the rough estimates (as opposed to medical measurements) of the limited (compared to a combination of scientific studies) number of penises you personally have seen.
 

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I know you don't want to hear from someone like me but there are two things I have to say.

First is who the hell cares if you are average or if it looks small as long as your significant other is ok with you what does it matter what it looks like.

Second average doesn't mean something that is going to a certain size it's just where majority of people fall. 5'9" is average male height in North America but I still think that is short. An average on a test can be a C but that doesn't make it a good mark.

If your are average just know that the majority of men are the same as you that's why makes it an average. And even if you are below average that doesn't mean you can't work with what you have there are people that have been in the NBA the were 5'3, not only well below most ball players height but is well below average male height, but made the best of what they have to actually make it to that height level of play.

As long as you can satisfy the person you are with what does it matter what it looks like.
 

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And you're also just blindly believing the estimates of your friends as well? Im sorry but that's just illogical and stupid.

Nowhere did I say it wasn't just my opinion or that it wasn't just anecdotal. (My quote - I don't have the personal experience myself but I tend to believe it). I may very well be wrong - who knows, I probably am - those are just my opinions & experiences, and in my mind the 'average' given is bs. Nobody else has to believe that, and I'm certainly not offended that you don't.

Chill dude.
 

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PS: And I do believe the estimations of my ex & my current girlfriend. My ex, particularly, was interested in dick size because she preferred larger. My current gf had no interest in lying to me about her previous experiences & she's not a SQ, so I believe her. They could still be anomalies in terms of size of guys they've slept with, but the body of evidence I've been exposed to in life suggests to me that they are not.

As a last point: I'd be the happiest guy on this forum if it's ever proved beyond doubt that 5.16 (or even 5.5-6) really is stone cold average. I've got nothing to gain from suggesting that it isn't.