Why does it seem like older gay men are such sex fiends?

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  1. peterchristian

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    Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex? Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

    Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.
     
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    Although I don't fit the pattern above, I may have some insight into why older men are obsessed with sex. Sexual performance, just like athletic performance, is a characteristic of youthfullness. As we get older, we want to hang onto anything that makes us feel that we aren't over the hill yet. That's why it's so important to me to exercise. Plus, sex makes us feel good, and we all want to feel good. I do notice different posts about creepy old men lurking in locker rooms. Not cool! We need to have some dignity about our age as we get older. I would rather that guys say "He's cool for an older guy" instead of "That dude's a troll".
     
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    hope someone's listening
     
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    You must be on a different planet, not just in a different country.

    Danmark may be different, but there are a number of countries, around the world, where young hairy bears exist, and where any of the fetishes you mentioned above are enjoyed by young and old alike.

    It's sad, really, that you have such a dim view of "older men," especially at age 20. You can learn a lot from your elders, and I'm not just talking about having sex. Not to mention that your elders provided you with a lot more freedom to be who you are, by going through their struggles and especially by fighting against discrimination.
     
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    Why should you find it unnerving, people don't stop having sex once they hit 40. We've had more practice at it too so we're so much better at it than we were when we were 20. At 20 we thought we were great we just didn't have any basis to compare.
     
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    Not more sex fiendish than the younger guys!! This is a huge generalization...
     
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    And you're DEAD wrong on one of your assumptions........the practice of BAREBACKING is far more rampant among the younger generation......those of us who lived through the AIDS crisis in the 80's and lost an entire generation of friends are more likely than the younger generation to think latex and anal sex go together.
     
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    They seem to have re-launched adverts about safe sex here because the younger generation are so complacent about it.
     
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    What Indy states has been my experience...I can share that many in my generation don't see AIDS as threatening as it is...we have been socialized to believe that medication will make it better...WRONG!!!
     
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    Maybe older men are more free in living life. They aren't worried about whether or not it'll mess up their hair. Well, if they still have hair left on their head.
     
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    It doesn't matter if they do hootie they more than compensate for it with ear hair and nose hair :)
     
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    Translation please.......HOOTIE??........you see I don't speak English....I'm an American..
     
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    She said older mens hair falls off their heads and roots in their ears and noses. I am fortunate that I have almost zero ear hairs, and only a light nose hair.
     
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    er, uhm, Hootie is the screen name of the person she was responding to...um, I hope it is much clearer...(clearing his throat )
     
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    woops.....I was a blonde for about a year when i was a wee lad....
     
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    thats okay...come sit by me, I will help translate anything you want!! (that english can be sooo confusing at times (hah)...
     
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    :) Now I'm going to introduce hootie into my vocabulary.
     
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    Awww come sit in my lap and I'll help you translate. :tongue:
     
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    I was blonde as a wee lad too....maybe we can help each other out :wink:
     
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    I couldn't disagree more on that point. At least in the US, it is the youth who will more likely engage in barebacking, statistically, much to the dismay of the AIDS prevention community which spent decades and billions of dollars educating the gay community. Personally, I have run across 19-year-olds who ADVERTISE themselves as "BB Only or Fuck Off". I have also received indecent BB proposals from them: "You're fine as long as you're clean" i.e., if you think you're HIV- fuck me without a condom.

    Sadly too, I have friends who are not even allowed to drink beer in this country yet who are HIV+.
     
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