Why does it seem like older gay men are such sex fiends?

[B_Nick4444]

Maybe older men are more free in living life. They aren't worried about whether or not it'll mess up their hair. Well, if they still have hair left on their head.

just got out of the car where I was listening to XM Satellite radio's 70's channel, and the Chrome Disco channel ... listening to that old disco sound got me to thinking it probably is a generational difference ... just look at the old, pre-AIDs films, literature, magazines, and music ... they suggest a hornier, more sex-obsessed lifestyle, feelings, and outlook

 

[alex8.5]

I am 46. I do not go to bath houses ( they creep me out), I have never inserted my penis in a glory hole ( I like to see whose mouth it's going into). I have better sex now than I did in my teens and twenties, and even my thirties, and more frequently. I have never had bareback sex, even after 15 years in a monogamous relationship. I know that some men are into bears, I know people of various ages that are into bears, not just men in my age group, there are some bears that are 22 year old men.

I guess I'm saying we may be more open about sex, because we are more comfortable with ourselves. It does not mean we are obsessed with it.

 

[Adam875]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex?

Amazing how threads invariably fly off at a tangent onto totally irrelevant topics (baldness, ear-hair etc.) so that the original subject is lost sight of, often never to be retrieved. Anyway, back to Peter Christian's question: Men in their 40's and 50's obsessed with sex??!! What the hell does he think men in their 20's (and younger) are obsessed with? Flower arranging? Sex doesn't depart at 40 any more than breathing does; unless the two unfortunately happen to coincide. I would guess sex is a lifelong pleasure and interest ... and gathering loads of experience along the way.

 

[Gonzo3]

I think they call it .............desperation.

 

[earllogjam]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex? Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.

Hmmm. I'm probably one of these guys you are talking about. But I don't see the GH's, Leather, and Bathhouses as being exclusively older men. I can see it in the Bear community however, probably because you usually get really hairy and fat after you are 30.

Your sexual tastes should broaden (if you are lucky) as you age and when you are older it might even get to the point where you are attracted to people like yourself, a 20 year old twink.

Not to say that every gay man is a sex hound mind you but I'll let you in on a little secret - one's desire for sex does not end at 40.

It's just as you get older and more experienced vanilla sex just doesn't cut it for some. So men adventure into different venues to keep things exciting and fresh.

 

[sfniceguy]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex? Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.

In my experience (I'm one of these "older" 40-year old men...), I have not seen that older men are any more likely to be "into" bareback sex than younger men.

I think the older you get, your sexual interests evolve, and often evolve in a direction of losing inhibitions.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

Maybe, I've matured some but I am not interested in casual hookups anymore. I'd like to find someone to be my mate for life.

 

[swordfishME]

woops.....I was a blonde for about a year when i was a wee lad....

Why brinbg up stuff from centuries ago? :biggrin1:

BTW, I agree that older gay men are no more obsessed with sex than younger gay men are- or straight men of any age are.

 

[B_Italian1]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex?

Some of these guys are sex addicts but many of them don't even realize it. And many treat sex like a sport. The more people they have sex with, the more attractive they feel. And the internet can provide them with instant sex partners.

Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

Hopefully, your generation will get rid of, or at least try to get rid of those stereotypical places, behaviors, and labels. Younger guys are barebacking more that's why they have high rates of STD's and HIV, but a lot of the older ones do it, too. That's what they're used to and they don't want to change.

Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.

If it's unnerving to you, don't follow it or associate with guys who are like that. There's nothing wrong with being different or non stereotypical.

 

[DC_DEEP]

Amazing how threads invariably fly off at a tangent onto totally irrelevant topics (baldness, ear-hair etc.) so that the original subject is lost sight of, often never to be retrieved. Anyway, back to Peter Christian's question: Men in their 40's and 50's obsessed with sex??!! What the hell does he think men in their 20's (and younger) are obsessed with? Flower arranging? Sex doesn't depart at 40 any more than breathing does; unless the two unfortunately happen to coincide. I would guess sex is a lifelong pleasure and interest ... and gathering loads of experience along the way.

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex? Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.

I think they call it .............desperation.

I hope that was a joke. I don't think it's funny.

 

[visualalert]

It doesn't matter if they do hootie they more than compensate for it with ear hair and nose hair

You nailed it! I have to trim my ears and nose and back more often than I get a haircut. Life's a bitch.

 

[B_becominghorse]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex? Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.

Oh yes, I get more fiendish as I get older, but for some reason had a renaissance in looks in my early 50s and attract for more dick and pussy than I did in my 40s. Healthier life-style and bigger dick will do it every time, baby. I NEVER do bareback sex, though. And in my Los Angeles cruisy place there's a porn channel that this year had many, many more bareback videos than I had seen two years ago, last time I was there. Chi chi Larue and others have been speaking out about this.

But yeah, I am into enormous amounts of safe sex. ENORMOUS AMOUNTS!

 

[DC_DEEP]

You nailed it! I have to trim my ears and nose and back more often than I get a haircut. Life's a bitch.

Haha, the hair on the top is like New York princesses... as they get older, they move south.

 

[Satsfakshun]

You have got to be kidding...

Hey, 20 Lad, don't blink because you're going to be 40 Lad in about 15 minutes. It's a lot easier if you develop some grace and compassion along the way.

You don't want to know what acid-mouthed, 20-something disco biatches turn into by age 50.

 

[Northland]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of older men, particularly those in their 40s and 50s, are frequently obsessed with sex? Glory holes, hairy bears, leather, bath houses...it seems to be often older men there. It even seems as though they're more into bareback sex than younger gay guys my age.

Why is this? I find it a bit unnernving to be honest.

Because we're getting closer to death every day and need to take as many opportunities at raunchy unbridled sex as possible. Although I disagree on the bareback (condomless) sex. If there's no condom, it ain't happening no matter who I'm with.

And what's wrong with hairy bears, leather or bath houses?

 

[losangelestim]

i don't know.
why do you think young gay guys are so fickle and lousy in bed?
maybe your question and mine are about the same thing...

 

[rob_just_rob]

It's perception.

If you aren't attracted to someone, you don't see them as being sexual. If you subsequently discover that they have sexual desires, they appear oversexed to you.

 

[Hellboy0]

I concur with what everyone (except the original poster) has said. To paraphrase: Older gay men are more comfortable with themselves, more likely to be sexually adventurous, and less likely to spend time worrying about what other men think about our habits, likes, dislikes, etc. than our younger ones.

If anything, it's the twinks and post-twinks that seem to have the most issues about what is hot and what is not, which is probably why they take such umbrage to anyone older than they are enjoying their life! I think this is something that we all probably went through when we were younger...thank god we grow up!

As for the bareback activity, the HIV infection rate has vastly increased and it's NOT among the mature guys...it's coming from the young ones. Sad really, that all of the work done by us oldies is being undone so quickly by those who are so much smarter and sexier!!!!

 

[buft]

Young men and older men both can have high sex drives, various sexual behaviors, and some of the same interests. I personally am shocked at the number of young guys that want to bareback. If you find it unnerving than avoid it, or them but don't generalize. Perhaps you're in or looking in the wrong places. Anyhow, at least you know how you don't want to be when you get older, it won't take long before you're there too.

 

[Gonzo3]

I hope that was a joke. I don't think it's funny.

...........................:lmao: