why does my b/f like seeing me with a large penis?

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  1. peachybum

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    My boyfriend and I like to meet up with guys so I can have sex with them while he watches. We have met, and still look for, guys who are well endowed. I enjoy big cocks for obvious reasons but I was surprised to find out that the bigger the guy the more my b/f got turned on. Can anybody explain why he gets more turned on by seeing me with big cocks? I know it's not a penis envy thing, he can't quite explain it himself. I don't mind, I'm just curious.
    Can anybody shed some light on this?
     
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    This isn't uncommon

    A buddy of mine once asked me if his girlfriend could give me oral while he watched. She was great looking & was into it too.

    I was actually freaked out by the request & didn't do it cause he was a good friend. But it does happen more than you think.
     
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    Well i can tell you he's not alone with his fantisy as i like watching my partner getting screwed by a large cock too. the bigger it is the more it turns me on and i think its seeing her getting so much pleasure from it thats the main turn on
     
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    a good question. met a number of couples like that and never could figure that one myself. sometimes tho, it turns out to be more than what the guy bargained for.

    knew a particular couple who got into that, and to his surprise his prim petite little suburbian wife turned out to have a much bigger appetite for it that he expected. she enjoyed it a LOT... the bigger the better, two or three at once. suddenly he felt left out, as it were, and it caused big problems.
     
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    The two words of the Easter Sunday for this post are:

    Fetish and Jealousy.
     
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    I can sort of see where he might be coming from. I'd never be into watching my girl with another guy, regardless of size, but when I watch porn I do prefer the guy to have a big cock. I just think watching a girl being screwed by or sucking a big dick looks hotter than the same with an average or small one.

    And if he gets off on watching you enjoying sex with other guys, and he knows you like big dicks, that probably turns him on too, knowing you're getting something you like. Like I say I'm just guessing here because I don't really get this fetish.
     
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    yes, I can understand the dangers there, but I'm more than happy with my b/f's endowment (7.5 x 5.5) but I do prefer it if the guys we meet are as big as him if not bigger. My b/f is the best I've had but with all the rest of the guys (over 20 of them, kind of lost count,lol) I've preferred the bigger ones. I guess I didn't truly understand the difference between big and very big until I went on this site, lol.
    do you think my b/f maybe has a cuckold fantasy? I've heard this mentioned but not totally sure what this is. Also, do you maybe think this thread belongs in relationship issues? How do I move th post, if possible?
     
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    It's hard to explain,though I can relate.My GF and I have a very open dialogue,and we've told each other about certain notable sexual encounters.She is a very sexual person and quite 'experienced'.

    One day she told me a story about a threesome she had with a swinger couple.She explained in great detail about the Husband being 'huge' in her words,like 12 inches huge.While it was an estimate,she's very open,experienced,and is a nurse to boot,so I'm sure she's seen cocks of all sizes,and this particular guy is the only one's she's mentioned a few times.She says she's had 'big cock' before me,in her words,but when we discussed her limit,she said most definitely him.

    Seeing as I'm a legit 7.5 long when fully aroused,and she's never made any sort of comment to me regarding my size(other than I have no worries),and she said she's had 'big cock' before,I have to wonder about this guy.He must be pretty exceptional.But in anay event,upon her telling me the story,the sex afterwards was very hot because I was aroused by her experience,though I 've never told her that the thought of her being with an extreme-sized penis was a turn-on....
     
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    Honestly i dont know because ive never been in the situation but id say he likes to see you satisfied and he associates that with being by a large cock, so the bigger it is the more he thinks you will enjoy it
     
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    Maybe it's more carnal...maybe he wants to see u fucked and stretched by a large cock. Probably there are multiple reasons...the best way to know is to ask him that way u can actually play up to his sexual psyche in future encounters.
     
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    There can be a limit though.My GF also said that although this guy was BY FAR the biggest she'd ever seen and experienced,she'd never want to have sex with him again as it was too big....she said the wife liked having sex with smaller guys sometimes as it gave her 'a break'...my gf said she'd have to wait a few days between sex with this couple to 'get the feeling back in her vagina'...any other women expereinced that with a big one?She was actually more interested in experiencing the wife then the husband (so she says).
     
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    Agree
     
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    i get asked my couples to join and i never understood it. but if it makes everyone happy then whatever.
     
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    :mad: i saw the thread title and noticed the gender of the original poster, and thought "a girl with a large penis! awesome!!" imagine my disappointment when i actually read it
     
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    *roflmao*
     
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    I think alot of men enjoy it. I for one love when my wife tells me stories about sex with her ex bf's. The bigger the better. The size definitely adds to the excitement. She has admitted that the size turned her on so it makes it even hotter. She even told me about a videotape her and one of the hung ex's made of a BJ on his bed. What I wouldn't pay on ebay for a copy of that. I am still hoping one Valentines Day she surprises me with it, lol.
     
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    The large penis is a stand-in for his own, or even for him. Guys who want to see a well-endowed man or a very muscular and masculine man (or even a powerful animal) fuck their woman are often experiencing themselves as less masculine than they'd like to feel, and this stand-in lets them experience that power as if it were their own.
     
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    There is no maybe about it. What you have described is cuckholding. It's a real word, you can find in a dictionary, or here if you'd like a very detailed description of what it's meant in the past, and how the word is used now.

    At work, this is the most common fantasy I hear, and it is often accompanied by the man's desire to prepare his wife or girlfriend (bathe her, shave her, dress her, perform cunnilingus) and stroke or suck the other man to hardness and even insert the other man into his wife/girlfriend himself. Oh, it's also often accompanied by him wanting to "clean up" after.

    Nothing unusual is happening. If you want to know why it's a turn on, you have to ask him. He knows. It's often about humiliation, and a desire to be subjugated. Perhaps this is what it's about with your man.
     
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    Yes, as a "less than average" guy, this sounds right to me. Also, so many guys "not understanding" it makes sense too. Guys don't want to be "too conscious" of being inferior masculinity wise. . . but, the truth outs in feeling anyway; not just for the obviously "less than average", but all the way up the scale on a relative basis too!
     
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    Hmmm! Another traitor to Measurection! Just like Zane!

    I agree completely with your post except that you should also integrate what "Doghorn" said in his explanation. Wanting know what it would be like to be more masculine of necessity implies relative humiliation while vicariously experiencing it. We seem to over-catastrophize "humility" in our culture which is really just a relative inevitabily in everyone's life except for Hercules or Achilles. The word humiliation is used like it is some ABSOLUTE instead of a relative inevitable comparison between individuals. All kinds of mental contortions are attempted to avoid feeling the inevitable!