why does my b/f like seeing me with a large penis?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by peachybum, Apr 15, 2006.

  1. hotguy_4u2c

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    Ive got a fantasy of watching my wife with a well hung man. Although ive never watched she has went out with other guys and told me about it after. Im not very well blessed in the cock department about 4.5 inches long and skinny. The thoughts of her being taken by a big cock while i watch is definitly a turn on to me. Id love to see her getting that kind of pleasure. She told me the best sex she has ever had was with one of her lovers who was about 8 inches. I guess i would be cosidered a cuckold. Hopefully we will find a hung guy to have a threesome with.
     
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    Damn, Joe, this is so hot. And you and your g/f are so lucky!
    I think another important aspect of WHY men enjoy seeing their g/f's with a big cock is that in order to retain our sanity, we walk around in a state of denial 90% of the time. Even those of us who recognize and acknowledge that size matters, our minds tend to migrate away from believing it too strongly. To some extent, we have to put the idea out of our minds that size matters to go on with daily life and to feel a basic level of self-esteem. Down deep, we all know that of course it does, and that it matters a lot, but we sort of put it out of our conscious mind. Part of us is always telling ourselves we are equal to the guys with the huge cocks and rationalizing that we deserve the woman for other reasons, etc. When we hear her admit that she wants a big dick (calling like your g/f did and teasing you about it) or get to watch how much she really wants it and enjoys it, and how differently she reacts to it from our average sized dicks, we suddenly have to admit that it matters to the point where she actually either needs it or can't resist it and is sort of overpowered by her desire for it, and that it is incredibly exciting. There is a built-in element of surprise every time you see her enthusiasm for it, which adds to the intensity of the appreciation. Also, we may still be equal to (or better than) the hung dude in some ways, but not in bed. When it comes to sex, he reigns supreme.
    There's also something else that makes us want this: LOVE. Some of us have the ability to want our partner to receive this miracle of nature called the big cock because we know it is so intensely pleasurable for her. We put aside our jealousy and envy and vicariously enjoy her enjoyment. I know the feeling you described of being careful what you wish for, because that first moment I saw a woman I was in love with with another guy right in front of me going ape over his big cock, I had that same initial sick feeling. But while in my case I ALMOST wanted to stop them, I quickly surmounted it by thinking of how much it was GIVING to her by letting her have it. The sense of elation that followed was exhilharating.
    There are also aspects of fear and risk in this--and the fact that she continues to stay with you despite the temptation to leave you completely for these irresistable studs charges the whole situation with extra emotion.

    I wrote two short fiction stories based on my own real experiences on this topic at:
    http://www.lpsg.org/fictitious-stori...-big-dick.html
    http://www.lpsg.org/fictitious-stori...igid-ex-g.html
     
  3. AverageJoe06

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    I think that may be overstating the case a little. I certainly can't climb inside her head or presume to speak for her, but I feel pretty certain that words like "irresistable" and "overpowering" don't apply. Don't take me wrong, but that sounds to me more like the product of a male cuckold fantasy than a real relationship between adults. We are reasonably rational and mature grown folks (despite the sordid ugly details of the story :tongue:), and we each enjoy what we do for a variety of different reasons. There's no question that she enjoys the "stuffed" feeling of a big stud, and has told me so several times when we've discussed it. But she also knows that *I* find it incredibly hot, and she enjoys seeing me enjoy myself.

    Don't get me wrong... I'm all about the fantasy. If I didn't buy into the fantasy I wouldn't do it. But when we raise the shades and open the bedroom door, the real world comes rushing back in and we become normal people again with some semblance of sanity.

    I've received several responses and PMs about this, and they have mostly boiled down to "Aren't you afraid she will leave you for the big stud?" No, I'm not. It's just one more thing that we do to entertain ourselves and keep life interesting, just like going out to dinner or a movie, or taking a vacation together. I also enjoy a good roll in the hay with a really hot black woman every now and then, and she allows me that indulgence, even though she personally doesn't get into that. People could just as easily ask her if she isn't afraid of losing me to a hot Janet Jackson/Vivica Fox/Tyra Banks type because they turn me on in a way she can't. So the trust is a two-way street.

    And if she ever does decide she wants the big one full time, she certainly knows where the door is (having used it several times over the years :biggrin1:), and I will be glad to hold it open for her exit. I don't want somebody who doesn't want to be with me, so I will be fine to see the back of her if she ever does make that choice. We've talked about it and feel the same on this point. She and I will both go on and meet other people and continue our lives as before. Life goes on. But if it hasn't happened by now, I don't think it ever will.
     
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    sounds like a great relationship!
     
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    I figured out a long time ago that, at least in sexual matters, I am very submissive. This manifests itself in a number of ways, as I have learned over the years, but nothing is more intensely exciting to me than the image of being with a woman who craves huge cock and loves, as part of her dominant nature, to "force" me to observe this.

    I first realized this by happenstance when I was in a relationship with an amazing woman about 6 years ago who was a "self-described "lifestyle domme." About a month into our relationship, on a weekend visit to her place I came across an opened box of "ultra magnum" condoms. My submissive curiousity taking hold, I asked her about them and she at first was reluctant to say too much for fear of intimidating me too much. (Despite what you may see depicted in BDSM porn-ville, domination doesn't always translate into mindless, theatrical brutality with some leather clad/whip wielding mistress. But, I digress...)

    She mentioned that she had been in a long term relationship with a man who was equally dominant. The more she described this man and his attributes--tall, muscular, sexually insatiable and, most significantly, massively endowed--the more insanely excited I became as did she. She showed me pictures of him (which she admitted she still masturbated to) and pointed out the obvious difference in size between us. (My girlfriend was nearly six feet tall and slightly curvy. In one picture, she had her hand gripping his cock and her fingers didn't touch and the portion of his cock left exposed past her hand was larger than what her hand covered. Taking my 5" by 4" dick in her hand, she showed me just how much bigger his cock was than mine.)

    From that time forward, the image of her with huge cocks was a permanent part of our sex life which couldn't have been more intense. Altough she and I parted ways, it remains a huge fantasy. I've been able to experience this with a couple of other women, but never to the same extent.

    I'd love to hear if others have had similar experiences. I'd be particularly interested to hear from our well endowed members whether they have participated in any threesomes, etc. along these lines. After we parted, my girlfriend and I remained friends and she told me that she and her massively endowed boyfriend had an "encounter" where she related to him how he played a big part in our sexual relationship. She said that it excited him beyond anything she had ever seen with him and that throughout a weekend of sex, my smaller cock was a big part of their sexual commentary.
    Best regards,
    M
     
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    Standard D that was an exceptional post.
     
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    I share your sentiments - it really is a great turn on knowing your partner is being fucked by a well-endowed guy. I knew my partner had several lovers before meeting me but she to took a long time to admit to enjoying being 'serviced' by a big thick dick. So if she wants a bigger dick again I will not stop her enjoying herself provided she either lets me participate or describes in great detail (on film!!!).
     
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    Id like to think this isnt the norm you know. My girlfriend claims im her biggest but there was 'one other guy who was big' and she kept going back for 'good sex' even tho he was a jerk. I suspect he was bigger than me, but i like to think if i pushed her for 2 years she wouldnt admit he was massive and better than me!
     
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    I think it's primal, almost genetic, as in the Beauty and the Beast myth. Your man gets to see his girl ravaged by a beast (big cock), which signifies ultimate virility. Throw in impregnation and you've really thrown a bomb in the bedroom!
     
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    I hung guy can also be bad in bed. Ultimately it is how you use the dick. Coming in 5 minutes is really bad, regardless of size.

     
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    Amen to that.
     
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    Hum, that beauty and beast thing has me thinking. That has some weight to it. At least for me... not the jealous nor possessive type, the reverse actually... my long time gf is stunning and on a good day i have "rugged good looks", fit is about all i can claim... she is a much higher "category" than me in looks department... so, i do fantasize about her "getting it" from and "equal to her".
     
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    Honesty and acceptance are the glue that keep marriages and relationships intact. So I believe that neither one of you is running off with 'dream lover', because you have eliminated the secrets and turned them into turn-ons.
     
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    My wife had been having sex with a young guy who was really well hung. She said he was the biggest she has ever had and loved the way a huge cock feels, but he could not last very long. She would give him blow jobs and make him cum before they had sex so that he would last longer but to no avail. He got to cum 2 or 3 times a session but my wife would never quiet get there; resorting to the usual manual orgasm.

    So we are still looking for that big cock attached to a guy who can use it. if we can find that combination, then its something I would certainly like to watch.
     
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    hahaha.... interesting thread ...... i have been approached by couple's several times and i really felt very strange ..... However i have had girls telling that big/huge dicks dont last long ......thank god i am not huge. ...they said small and average penis goes longer than the big ones.... also the most big dick suffer from erection problems ... means they dont get very hard...... can lpsg confirm this ?? i think given the same physical characteristics but different dick sizes ... big ones need more blood than small ones .... i think its like mpg meter on the car ...if you have same tank but your car consume more its gonna run out sooner than the one which consumes less....i think this analogy has some validity as far as big/small dick concerned.....before joining lpsg i did not know about mr shane diesel and mr mandingo.... when i saw those guys i feel that they are on something .. may be viagra or some other drug.... pay attention to their eyes ...


    No body gets everything in this world and world is unfair in that way ....lol
    cheers
     
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    My bf loves to see me with big dicked guys. He is smaller himself, but he is also bi and has a taste for the larger dicks. But when we talked about why he likes seeing me with bigger rather than average dicks he said he likes seeing me enjoying something that he can't give me. But that is just him.
     
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    If your boyfriend likes to see you with any other guy then he is gay period. Why would any sane heterosexual man want to see the female he is with fuck another guy? Maybe this is a white guy thing.
     
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    way to play the race card... :rolleyes:
     
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    have you considered if this is good for his mental health
     
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