why don't i want to beat off anymore?

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  1. massivemanmeat4u

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    Until I met the girl I'm currently dating I was masturbating twice a day practically. She and I are waiting to have sex for at least a little while, and since I've met her I don't feel like beating off anymore. She is beautiful and I like her a lot, I can't wait to have sex with her but I feel like I'm not as horny as I was before. I'll go out to see her, we'll have a great time and I'll come home call her to say goodnight and just go to bed. Where in the past I would come home wank off and pass out. True, since I've met her I've been busier but I don't know if that's it. Any comments?
     
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    not sure whats happening there mate. Same thing happened to me when i met the girl i'm currently dating. We've been going out for over a year, and the first few months were just jam packed full of sex. Like sometimes 3 or 4 times a day. But now i'm lucky if i feel like it twice a week
     
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    Maybe you feel you have more in your life now so wanking has assumed less importance?
     
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    IMPOSSIBLE!
     
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    You may simply be in love! And too busy feeling butterflies in your stomach for her, to find the time and will to masturbate.
     
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    have you considered maybe you are in....LOVE....yes it happens and you may be also maturing...oh yes it happens if you live long enough...so run for the hills..or accept it...
     
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    I think that your body is telling you that this is the time for developing the relationship in other ways besides sex. Sure as hell sex is important but now is not the time. It is sort of a subconscious celibacy in that you are just physically taking a break so that you can simply focus on other issues - like falling in love. Enjoy it and I am glad you are falling in love. Great for both of you!
     
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    well im single right now...and i do it about 3 times a day...lol...:biggrin1:
     
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    It's probably a combination of reasons. One I can think of is simply a drop in hormone production. You may want to see a doctor and get a blood test to get a reading on your testosterone levels. It also helps to know how old you are. Around 25-29, the male libido drops I believe. It's a shame the American culture and several others constantly focus on the idea that men want sex all the time and that if they don't there's something wrong with them. Past a certain age, it's not healthy to have sex all the time, yet we have drug companies telling us over various media that we should be doing that. We're not sex machines most of the time, so there's nothing wrong with having a lower libido. It may also be that you feel sex ruins relationships, so if you really like this girl you feel something may be lost. There are many reasons. If you're really concerned, see a doctor and probably a sex therapist or psychologist. Good luck man. :smile:
     
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    I'm sex-obsessed and always have been, and even I go through periods where I just don't feel like jacking. I'm still as interested in girls as ever, and I still look at porn daily; the interest in do-it-yourself release just isn't there. It's not a big deal because I know it'll come back around, and in the meantime I sleep easy and focus on other things and don't feel as frustrated. Sometimes it lasts for a few days, sometimes as long as a couple of months. It's always VERY rewarding, though, because when I finally do it again, that first orgasm is EARTH-shattering.
     
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    Masturbation releases endorphins in your brain. So does early love.

    Don't worry, pretty soon you'll be able to have love AND masturbation again. It's the normal progression of things.
     
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    I used to jack off a lot until I got to college & met a girl who was the first one I've ever really been in love with. We saw each other for quite some time - a little over 2 years. I found that I had less & less interest in masturbation. After we broke up, I just never went back to jacking off. It just didn't hold the interest for me as it did when I was in my teens. I can barely get it up to do it, if I even try.

    But get me with a girl & I'm rock hard! Masturbation just doesn't do it for me anymore. I'm totally OK with that.
     
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    Give it a little time...maybe things will return to normal.

    Good luck !!
     
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    probably because your useing up all your energy having sex with her and you don't have the energy to jerkoff anymore
     
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    Be happy man. the longer you resist jerking the better bust you'll have with your lady.
     
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    I think you've got a point, masturbation takes energy and so does going out with someone, and the more energy used up, either way, the less energy you have left. It's all good.
    Long as you feel good in the long run I figure.:smile:
     
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    Had similar experience; i'm in my first long-term relation (more than a month. lol) but yeah the first couples of weeks I was with i didn't beat off like.. for days. I could go 4-5 days no problem because i was seeing her in that time. We have a great connection, and i dont always feel the need to masturbate when i spend time with her.
     
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