Why dont men call after they have sex with you?

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  1. Daisy

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    So you go out with a girl, have a great time, you have sex, you say how wonderful it was and how fabulous she is. Monday rolls around and you don't call (or email or text) and the big question is WHY?

    Let us rule out the obvious (he only wants sex)...lets say that isn't the situation, what other reason is there?

    Do guys really do the 3 day rule?

    If he doesnt call does it mean anything at all?

    When a man says he's been busy at work, could he actually just be busy?

    Do you panic and feel like if you call she will try to whisk you off to Vegas and marry you?

    What is the deal, men?
     
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    did you boil his pet rabbit?
     
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    um...no
     
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    Just because the sex was great doesn't mean we're going to call you again. Maybe the woman should call back instead of waiting for the guy?
     
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    I once had a girl get mad at me for not calling her within about 12 hours after we had sex lol. I was like a Friday/Sat transition and we both had stuff to do the next day anyway. Funny thing is a I really liked her a lot and was thinking about her... I just didn't actually call her right away, per se, and because I didn't call her she initially got the vibe that I didn't like her.

    However, if I did really like a girl I would definitely call her sooner than 3 days... especially if we had good sex... because I would be thinking about it and wanting it again... :tongue:
     
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    You're generalizing. Some men call and some don't.

    I do, so I have no idea why others don't. Could be that they aren't that into you, as the movie says. Or maybe they don't see the need to automatically phone after a set timeframe has elapsed.

    And not to state the obvious, but the phone works both ways.
     
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    I don't think it's the guy's job to play the aggressor. That's pretty old school. Quite honestly I get tired of it, and all the expectations that go with it. If you had a great time with a guy, call him and tell him. It shouldn't be up to us to initiate this stuff. Personally I feel girls have way too many expectations about relationships, especially after only one date.
     
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    Exactly as some others have already said: us guys also like the girl to call/stop by/leave a note and just say for example, "Hey thanks for the other night, I had a great time and I'd like to do it again sometime..."

    Do that, and you'll get any guy really fired up to be with you again very soon!!! :biggrin1:
     
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    OK...I DID send an email on Sunday and it was playful, and his reply was not really all that friendly so I let it go and figured if he wanted to talk to me he would. Does that make sense. Women are taught that men love the thrill of the chase so NEVER contact them. I figured a little flirty email would be OK. All of the enthusiasm and friendliness that was happening weeks ago ...yeah..not happening now.
     
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    Get over what you've been taught. That's so last century. It's 2009. :biggrin1:
     
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    Wow, I so do not miss the game playing that goes on with dating. If this is really bothering you, why not change your m/o? Start meeting people in different places if the same games get tiresome.
     
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    we are sick of the chase...the chase is the lamest part.
     
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    men dont call after sex?
     
  16. Daisy

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    Let us refocus gentlemen...

    You go out with a girl who you REALLY like, you have GREEEEEEEAT sex, you have great conversation....

    what possible reason would you have to suddenly go cold?
     
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    fear of commitment...fear of devastation
     
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    Craving something (or someone) is often more thrilling than actually getting it. It's kinda like when you really want something, and you obsess over it until you finally buy it, and then a week later it ends up in the closet because it's never as great as you hoped it'd be, and it doesn't fill up the big empty spot inside the way you hoped it would.
     
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    personally, after i hit...i dnt call because i already got what i wanted...
     
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    I lose interest after sex. I don't know why - I might even like the girl - but something happens after sex where, unless she's amazing and I want to hang out with her as a friend and lover, I lose complete interest after sex. Sorry, he probably doesn't think of you as relationship material.
     
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