Why Gay Men Go To the Baths

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Why go to a bath? (in my best Stewie Griffing imitation) Because you are DIRTY.
 

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You will absolutely love this!

I am writing this post from inside, yes INSIDE a GAY bath house! No shit!

I'm sitting at the far left terminal.

I decided to give it a shot. Kind of a self baptism (it's complicated) only, being gay, we use Jacuzzis instead of boring old marble fonts. :wink:

So far it's been a bit dull, just sucked off one really hot daddy but after he came he claimed he was straight and left. Ugh. What does it take to get a blow job??? Ah well. Nice guy sat down at the other one so I'm going to try to get his attention. Later!



Haven't you read the posts, boy? They're to meet guys for sex. They are free brothels. Maybe you have to pay some kind of entrance fee or membership. You see, when a straight guy wants sex with a woman he can't go to a co-ed bathhouse, since they don't really exist. He'd have to find a swingers party, private sex club or something like that. There used to be sex clubs in major cities. One was Plato's retreat which was for men and women, but it closed in the mid 80's because of AIDS.
 

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You will absolutely love this!

I am writing this post from inside, yes INSIDE a GAY bath house! No shit!

I'm sitting at the far left terminal.

I decided to give it a shot. Kind of a self baptism (it's complicated) only, being gay, we use Jacuzzis instead of boring old marble fonts. :wink:

So far it's been a bit dull, just sucked off one really hot daddy but after he came he claimed he was straight and left. Ugh. What does it take to get a blow job??? Ah well. Nice guy sat down at the other one so I'm going to try to get his attention. Later!

A live report from the bathhouse. I'm sure you didn't use a condom and......

"Know the rules of the club and remember, you are responsible to uphold these rules. For instance, you MUST not participate in any sexual act in public view. That means if you want to play, you must get a room."
 

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A live report from the bathhouse. I'm sure you didn't use a condom and......

"Know the rules of the club and remember, you are responsible to uphold these rules. For instance, you MUST not participate in any sexual act in public view. That means if you want to play, you must get a room."

I brought condoms with me. Four in fact. I always keep a condom on me and some in the car since I need to use the delicately-labeled snugger fit :naughty: models. Regulars slip off.

Nobody has, sadly, broken the rule. Other than in my room (Lucky 7!), I haven't seen any sex at all going on; just heard it.
 

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I brought condoms with me. Four in fact. I always keep a condom on me and some in the car since I need to use the delicately-labeled snugger fit :naughty: models. Regulars slip off.

Nobody has, sadly, broken the rule. Other than in my room (Lucky 7!), I haven't seen any sex at all going on; just heard it.

I'm talking about the oral. I bet you didn't use a condom.
 

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Married men go to the baths too. Just as married men cruise public rest rooms. Many more than you think. Bath houses early in the AIDS epidemic were closed more to protect wives from promiscuous bi-sexual husbands than it was to protect gay men.
 

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You will absolutely love this!

I am writing this post from inside, yes INSIDE a GAY bath house! No shit!

I'm sitting at the far left terminal.

I decided to give it a shot. Kind of a self baptism (it's complicated) only, being gay, we use Jacuzzis instead of boring old marble fonts. :wink:

So far it's been a bit dull, just sucked off one really hot daddy but after he came he claimed he was straight and left. Ugh. What does it take to get a blow job??? Ah well. Nice guy sat down at the other one so I'm going to try to get his attention. Later!

LOL. You're the Scud Stud of the bathhouse!
 

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The tips were enormously helpful ebjay! Thank you very much. I did exactly what you said, went in with a very positive attitude but no expectations. It's a good thing I did too because after four hours there I had no takers at all. Every guy I approached turned me down except the guy in my first 15 minutes, the allegedly straight one. Yes, I felt frustrated because I wanted to get off badly having not done so for three days and spending a few hours yesterday looking for a BJ with no satisfaction only made things more urgent.

Still, I refused to jack-off alone in a gay bath house! The ignominy of it was just too great to overcome. I didn't settle for the various trolls including one guy who I swear was the Scusi guy from Eurotrip. He followed me around everywhere, standing or sitting too close yet never once approached me or even looked straight at me.

I had no problems with the showers or anything else but I did have a problem I didn't foresee. Cialis seemed like a good idea at the time given my wild imagination picturing orgies everywhere and me plowing a few tight asses but it caused a problem in the sauna and steam room where I easily felt overheated and a bit woozy. I'm prone to panic attacks and left my Xanax in the car but this felt a little different so I immediately went to shower under cool water for a while. Then I went to lay down for half an hour with the door open but nobody passed by. After that I cruised around some more and there were more guys around as it got later. Really much of it felt just like the dorms at school. Lot of guys walking around naked.

One cool guy I met was Brian. We talked for a while in the lounge and I explained my frustrations and the lack of interesting guys around. He laughed a bit after we spent some time making up dirty titles for Disney movies and said I should have a sign around my neck saying I had 9 inches. Immediately I laughed and told him I post frequently at LPSG. His eyes widened a little but then I said out loud very plainly with every confidence that I was hung like a church mouse and in my world, nine inches isn't so much. Stay around LPSG long enough and the mystique of big dicks tends to fade. Sorry guys but the gild is off the lily for me. He admired my candor and we had a talk about the various guys at the bath house.

I admit, I'm too friendly for bath houses but, amazingly, also too secure. I never tried to hide my endowment though the Cialis gave me a nice semi that lasted through the day. I'd look straight at guys, approach them, even ask if they wanted to do anything. Many looked horrified that I smiled and even managed to laugh at Brian's jokes (there you go Earl, genuine laughter in a bath house!). I had confidence in spades, making the rounds, checking in rooms, having a great time. Oddly it seemed to intimidate a lot of guys. It seemed to me many were ashamed to be there, particularly the young college guys. They never dropped their towels and this one kid kept jumping in and out of the sauna and the steam room only to stand near the door looking out the window. I asked him if he was trying to avoid someone and his eyes widened as he saw naked me just lounging there and he said no as if he were being interrogated by the Gestapo. It was a bit weird. The young guys just darted in and out of places like cockroaches when the lights come on. Nothing made me feel more sorry though then the really old guys who just stayed in their rooms with their doors open. They just seemed so desperate. Sometimes I'll bank my karma by helping one out but I did that yesterday and today I was looking for what I wanted.

At the end of it all I just got dressed and left rather than settle for someone I didn't care for. No clue why I couldn't get anyone to suck me off, it wasn't for lack of trying. Maybe they just didn't like smaller dicks? Quite a few guys were a lot fatter than I am and they got some action.

Now I know what Earl meant about the coldness of the whole thing. As I was laying in my tiny bedroom contemplating the ceiling and listening to Cher, I thought about how stark and empty it was and wondered if I wasn't being desperate and pathetic by being there. Now that's an interesting little demon all by itself. The Cher song though was just so cliché that I had to laugh again. The seriousness of it all was just so silly and it was then I realized just how scared so many of these guys were. They didn't like being there and were so focused on getting off that they forgot part of the value of sex is to enjoy it. I left frustrated, being the only man ever to spend four hours in a gay bath house never to have his cock even touched by another man, yet also proud of myself for conquering my fears of inadequacy. The entire event was going the way I wanted it to and whether any of the other men there were going to go with it was up to them. Maybe this isn't a big deal to everyone else but it is to me. Not too long ago I would have gone, been terrified, sucked or fucked just about anyone who would have paid the slightest attention to me, and left loathing myself for being so desperate.

Maybe you can understand that I had to do this. There were two goals I wanted to achieve. The first was that I wanted to be in an exclusively male sexual environment to help heal some wounds old and new. The second was to take my newfound self-esteem out for a test drive; see if I could face the challenge of being my sexual self in that kind of affectionless situation. I loved that I was hanging out with other men in a free, open, accepting environment and felt enormously sorry that so many of the men there didn't seem to enjoy that aspect of it.

When I left the guy at the desk who showed me around asked me if I had a good time and told him the truth. I was disappointed that I was leaving with blue balls but that I'd be back in two weeks to try it again. Part of trying out this smaller place in Troy was because I didn't feel ready for the big leagues of Manhattan bath houses. This was a test run. It cost me $40.00 in gas, $22 in fees, one Zantac in indigestion from having to eat at McDonald's, yet between the higher fees of Manhattan, the time in traffic, and expensive parking, the monetary and time costs were about the same. The experience was definitely worth it. When I lose more weight and get a bit more bulked-up I'll try the two places in Manhattan.

My comments about LPSG weren't meant to insult anyone here. They go back to the reason I came here in the first place. If anything, LPSG has taught me that dick size doesn't matter a great deal. Sure a big dick is nice in some ways and I still want to get a bit bigger so I can wear normal condoms and get some decent hang because I like to hang. It's not to please anyone else, just me.

A lot of what I'm doing right now is about pleasing myself and not other people and some of the growth I'm experiencing is the direct result of a few of the supportive people here. I thought a lot about LPSG when I was there; particularly the posts from Earl and ebjay. It was wonderful to have friends there with me in spirit.

P.S. - No, I didn't use a condom for oral sex as I have no cuts or open sores in my mouth or throat.

P.P.S. - On my way home I kept wondering when all the karma I'd been banking with servicing the old guys would pay off and on a lark I stopped by the adult book store. There was just one guy there, pretty decent, and all he wanted to do was suck me off so I let him :veryhappy:. I shot an enormous load and drove home relieved, content, proud of myself, and thrilled to see my dogs, get some dinner, watch my QAF DVDs, and post here.
 

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You will absolutely love this! I am writing this post from inside, yes INSIDE a GAY bath house! No shit! I'm sitting at the far left terminal. I decided to give it a shot. Kind of a self baptism (it's complicated) only, being gay, we use Jacuzzis instead of boring old marble fonts. :wink: My brain is spinning! The very last thing I expected to see in a gay bathouse was an internet cafe!! :eek::confused::eek: I just assumed everyone would be to busy or damp to touch a computer.
So far it's been a bit dull, just sucked off one really hot daddy but after he came he claimed he was straight and left. Ugh. LMAO, I'm sorry but straight men do not frequent gay bathhouses. :confused: the poor man was clearly in denial. What does it take to get a blow job??? Ah well. Nice guy sat down at the other one so I'm going to try to get his attention. Later!
 

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A lot of what I'm doing right now is about pleasing myself and not other people and some of the growth I'm experiencing is the direct result of a few of the supportive people here. I thought a lot about LPSG when I was there; particularly the posts from Earl and ebjay. It was wonderful to have friends there with me in spirit.

:veryhappy:
 

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Yeah well I've barebacked just a handful of times and that was when I was 14 and he was 13. I can tell you with complete assurance that we were both virgins to anal sex and he to any sex. Have I been offered anal sex without condoms since then? Yes, numerous times and I have never done it no matter how tempted. I always inspect my mouth before oral sex and won't have oral sex with so much as a sore throat. And yes, I get tested regularly anyway.
 
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