Why Gays Don't Like Finance Guys?

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So about a year ago I joined IT department of a large investment bank. After that 8 times out of 10 I was ghosted as soon as I was saying I was working in finance. Like, right away - either ghosting or unmatching.

What's the problem with finance guys? What are the stereotypes?

Personally I see only good things: stable income, high level of education, nerdiness, suits, clean cut appearance etc.
 

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So about a year ago I joined IT department of a large investment bank. After that 8 times out of 10 I was ghosted as soon as I was saying I was working in finance. Like, right away - either ghosting or unmatching.

What's the problem with finance guys? What are the stereotypes?

Personally I see only good things: stable income, high level of education, nerdiness, suits, clean cut appearance etc.

I'm amazed. I would never have seen this as an issue - I think we all want to fuck a banker - hard. I know I would. Seriously, I've never let where someone worked be an issue. I'm surprised anyone would, but I get surprised a lot these days.
 
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So about a year ago I joined IT department of a large investment bank. After that 8 times out of 10 I was ghosted as soon as I was saying I was working in finance. Like, right away - either ghosting or unmatching.

What's the problem with finance guys? What are the stereotypes?

Personally I see only good things: stable income, high level of education, nerdiness, suits, clean cut appearance etc.
Not everyone seeks the good things you list. Some people may be intimidated by your income and education level. Some people may prefer the 'rough trade" look. Some people may assume that financiers are boring or lack imagination. Some find unruly right-brained guys to be sexy. It's all a matter of preferences, and while you may be the type of guy every mother wants for their son, that son may prefer to stray the other way.
 

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It's a bit shocking you can only see positive stereotypes of working in finance....

The old saying of "the love of money is the root all evil" is good place to start.

1. Around 1% of the population could be registered as high on the pyschopathy scale. The job sector with the highest proportion of psychopaths and sociopaths is finance. Generally, psychopaths aren't capable of having healthy relationships.

2. A lot of people working in the finance sector are very fond of cocaine, or drinking too much (especially so in London).

3. Memories of the credit crunch. Most of us can still remember the time when irresponsible twats in the finance sector gambled with other people's money, causing the worst global recession since the great depression. We also remember the way, you lot went crying to the governments to get bailed out by trillions of hard earned taxpayer money. Then, of course, a lot of those proceeds went to bank bosses in the form of obscene bonuses.

4. The kind of other stereotypes that might go along with someone working in the finance sector, would be narcisstic, arrogant, duplicitous, sociopathic and shallow.

5. The finance sector colludes in a shit load of tax evasion.

6. If you work in the finance sector, you're clearly not doing so to help others. This is a sector that is not only not beneficial, but in many cases, actively harmful to society and other people.

So, to sum up, if you want to avoid the chance of dating a narcisstic sociopath with a coke problem, not dating someone from the finance industry is a good starting point.
 

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It's a bit shocking you can only see positive stereotypes of working in finance....

The old saying of "the love of money is the root all evil" is good place to start.

1. Around 1% of the population could be registered as high on the pyschopathy scale. The job sector with the highest proportion of psychopaths and sociopaths is finance. Generally, psychopaths aren't capable of having healthy relationships.

2. A lot of people working in the finance sector are very fond of cocaine, or drinking too much (especially so in London).

3. Memories of the credit crunch. Most of us can still remember the time when irresponsible twats in the finance sector gambled with other people's money, causing the worst global recession since the great depression. We also remember the way, you lot went crying to the governments to get bailed out by trillions of hard earned taxpayer money. Then, of course, a lot of those proceeds went to bank bosses in the form of obscene bonuses.

4. The kind of other stereotypes that might go along with someone working in the finance sector, would be narcisstic, arrogant, duplicitous, sociopathic and shallow.

5. The finance sector colludes in a shit load of tax evasion.

6. If you work in the finance sector, you're clearly not doing so to help others. This is a sector that is not only not beneficial, but in many cases, actively harmful to society and other people.

So, to sum up, if you want to avoid the chance of dating a narcisstic sociopath with a coke problem, not dating someone from the finance industry is a good starting point.

jesus fuck this x 1000
 

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It's a bit shocking you can only see positive stereotypes of working in finance....

The old saying of "the love of money is the root all evil" is good place to start.

1. Around 1% of the population could be registered as high on the pyschopathy scale. The job sector with the highest proportion of psychopaths and sociopaths is finance. Generally, psychopaths aren't capable of having healthy relationships.

2. A lot of people working in the finance sector are very fond of cocaine, or drinking too much (especially so in London).

3. Memories of the credit crunch. Most of us can still remember the time when irresponsible twats in the finance sector gambled with other people's money, causing the worst global recession since the great depression. We also remember the way, you lot went crying to the governments to get bailed out by trillions of hard earned taxpayer money. Then, of course, a lot of those proceeds went to bank bosses in the form of obscene bonuses.

4. The kind of other stereotypes that might go along with someone working in the finance sector, would be narcisstic, arrogant, duplicitous, sociopathic and shallow.

5. The finance sector colludes in a shit load of tax evasion.

6. If you work in the finance sector, you're clearly not doing so to help others. This is a sector that is not only not beneficial, but in many cases, actively harmful to society and other people.

So, to sum up, if you want to avoid the chance of dating a narcisstic sociopath with a coke problem, not dating someone from the finance industry is a good starting point.
Well.. from my experience I disagree with most these points but I got my answer. Thank you!
 

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When you first meet somebody, you really never know if they are going to turn out to be psycho, so I never give out specific information at first.

In your case, I would just say I worked in IT for a big firm. But I also have noticed that most people get turned off when you tell them everything at the beginning. If you answer every question right away, they have nothing else to talk to you about. And that ends a lot of conversations.

And no offense, but there is absolutely nothing exciting/sexy about working in finance. The first thing that comes to mind is a bunch of old stodgy men. That is a conversation killer.
 
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Englad makes a lot of good points. But also for me personally, it makes me feel inadequate. You are succesful and obviously in a more upper middle class. I am poverty class.

You are highly educated. I am a college dropout.

Finance gives me an impression of stuffy and stuck up. More of a selfish and arrogant mindset. (sorry) I am much more laid back and a goofball gamer nerd.

I wouldn't just stop responding but I doubt anything would come to fruition from the conversation.
 

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When you first meet somebody, you really never know if they are going to turn out to be psycho, so I never give out specific information at first.

In your case, I would just say I worked in IT for a big firm. But I also have noticed that most people get turned off when you tell them everything at the beginning. If you answer every question right away, they have nothing else to talk to you about. And that ends a lot of conversations.

And no offense, but there is absolutely nothing exciting/sexy about working in finance. The first thing that comes to mind is a bunch of old stodgy men. That is a conversation killer.
So when you're talking to someone and he asks - what do you do for work, how do you respond?
 
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So when you're talking to someone and he asks - what do you do for work, how do you respond?
As vague as I can, I often tell them I do office work. If they press me on that, I tell them I take care of the company website and lots and lots of paperwork. Which is all true. But it doesn't tell you where I work.
 

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As vague as I can, I often tell them I do office work. If they press me on that, I tell them I take care of the company website and lots and lots of paperwork. Which is all true. But it doesn't tell you where I work.
I will say my job is not exciting and will not make guys want to be with me. But my job is only a small part of me and has nothing to do with how I am outside of work or even in bed. I find being kind, considerate and friendly is much more important in meeting people than what I do for work.
 

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So about a year ago I joined IT department of a large investment bank. After that 8 times out of 10 I was ghosted as soon as I was saying I was working in finance. Like, right away - either ghosting or unmatching.

What's the problem with finance guys? What are the stereotypes?

Personally I see only good things: stable income, high level of education, nerdiness, suits, clean cut appearance etc.

When I was in practice I avoided mentioning it because most assumed I was their sugar daddy. They also can be intimidated by advanced degrees. I always said my job didn’t matter, I was a chef at heart. Discussing food can be a neutral topic and draw out even the most introverted person. Telling someone you’re a doc really complicates things unnecessarily. Tell them that most of the time you’re a “fill in the blank with your favorite thing” because what you do doesn’t define you. Have fun with your super hero talent and let him get to know you, especially since you’re experiencing your job as an impediment.
Good luck!!!
 

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So about a year ago I joined IT department of a large investment bank. After that 8 times out of 10 I was ghosted as soon as I was saying I was working in finance. Like, right away - either ghosting or unmatching.

What's the problem with finance guys? What are the stereotypes?

Personally I see only good things: stable income, high level of education, nerdiness, suits, clean cut appearance etc.
I don't know. I totally had a crush on a guy who worked at our bank. He got transferred though (and had a girlfriend but whatever)

You must be hitting on the wrong guys. Of course I also have a fetish for nerdy guys, guys in suits and don't mind if a guy did better in school than me- I was an art major. :laughing:
 

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Wow, some people sound triggered. I must agree I get some gruff when I tell peeps I work in finance but that's their prob if you ask me. I went to school for it (paid my own way) and love it..and love helping others make money for their retirement.. and I know I am very fortunate to be paid well and will never have to depend on govt funds. I myself don't do drugs and stay in great shape, have been in some wonderful relationships ( love you guys ), have spent numerous week long vacations doing volunteer work for rebuilding homes and donate to charities that move me. I have a small prob watching half my paycheck going to taxes but that's life..I also enjoy doing some nice things for friends and family.....wait, OMG, I'm a monster.....and by the way I work with dozens of people that live a very similar way as myself. To stereo type people for their occupation is just plain silliness imo.
So, I know you were trying to do a joke I guess but... this is exactly what I and others mean. The long list of achievements and high view of yourself. It comes across as a bit arrogant and self centered/Big ego. You even made shots at others not of your same financial stability as if it were a negative. These things and more tend to clash with my personality. So while I wouldn't be rude nor ghost, I know we just don't fit. This post makes it all the more apparent.
 

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Successful people attract other successful people.

One person mentioned above that someone sounded triggered.

They need to deal with it.

That's their issues.

Not yours.

It's not that gay men don't like finance guys, people, in general, don't like people that achieve a high level of success that they, themselves, don't have.

So what do they do? They denigrate the person. They denigrate the position. They do what they can, to make themselves feel better at someone else's expense. Because they themselves aren't as successful.

It's pretty common across the spectrum.

It's envy and jealousy.

And it's pretty ugly.

As you can see from the comments on this thread.

Don't waste your time with people like that.

They will drag you down, not lift you up.

You can do much better than that.

Keep looking for the positive and you will find others that do the same thing, too.

Sklar
 
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Successful people attract other successful people.

One person mentioned above that someone sounded triggered.

They need to deal with it.

That's their issues.

Not yours.

It's not that gay men don't like finance guys, people, in general, don't like people that achieve a high level of success that they, themselves, don't have.

So what do they do? They denigrate the person. They denigrate the position. They do what they can, to make themselves feel better at someone else's expense. Because they themselves aren't as successful.

It's pretty common across the spectrum.

It's envy and jealousy.

And it's pretty ugly.

As you can see from the comments on this thread.

Don't waste your time with people like that.

They will drag you down, not lift you up.

You can do much better than that.

Keep looking for the positive and you will find others that do the same thing, too.

Sklar
Thank you for the message you posted re: Finance Guys. It's both sadly true, but also uplifting. It's best to surround oneself w/ positive and nurturing people, which I hope you are fortunate to do each day. It works for me!
 
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