Why/how Often Do Men Turn Down Sex?

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I've always heard that expression that straight men will fuck anything, but to what extent is it true? Based on what you hear from other straight guys, will dudes fuck 'ugly' women just because they can and the opportunity to get off is available? But never tell anyone about it
 

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I mean, obviously attraction is crucial, but it's usually if the girl seems off. Like, I've turned down advances just because I don't want to deal with the aftermath. If we're both on the same page, both of us aware of the casualness or genuinely like each other, I'm more apt to consider sleeping with her. Personally I just hate drama and don't want to deal with the awkwardness of rejection post-sex.
 

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I can't recall that I've ever turned down sex. Been turned down before, but I've never turned a woman down that was offering me a shot of pussy.

That is so hot. I have a sleazy, "locker room talk" question- what is the grossest/most embarrassing shag you've had? Like that you would never claim publicly (besides here) lol?
 
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I've always heard that expression that straight men will fuck anything, but to what extent is it true? Based on what you hear from other straight guys, will dudes fuck 'ugly' women just because they can and the opportunity to get off is available? But never tell anyone about it

The title implied "saying no to sex" which guys can do even when in long-term relationships, just like women can. But the way the question is phrased it sounds like a first-time topic.

So yes, men can and do (or at least I can and do) turn down women when already in a committed relationship. Maybe this is so obvious that it doesn't need to be said, but nobody has addressed this point and I feel it is crucial. This is one of the lynchpins of 'committed relationship' so would take precedence over any transient thing.
 

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Men, by in large do favor opportunity, so I'd imagine that results in us having far fewer disqualifications for women...but I think the question doesn't take into account the disparity of openly offered sexual opportunities between men and women. Nor does it take into account the statistics that suggest males find a much larger portion of the female population sexually attractive than vice versa.
I think the sentiment of "straight men will fuck anything" is an attempt for other demographics to mask or absolve themselves of their own pickiness, or shallow base of preferences.
 

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I've always heard that expression that straight men will fuck anything, but to what extent is it true? Based on what you hear from other straight guys, will dudes fuck 'ugly' women just because they can and the opportunity to get off is available? But never tell anyone about it
That statement is about as true as saying every gay man wants to dress in drag and Sing and dance. Which is to say it's not true at all.

In person I have turned down a few but online I can't even count how many times I've turned down sex. Weather they're were too old, not what I am attracted to body wise or just bit feeling them I've turned down sex form women a good amount of times and then theres all the men that don't understand what it means to: not be attracted to men. So in total I have turned down alot of sex. I would never have sex with someone I wasnt attracted to.
 

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All the time.

If I catch attitude from her, if the girl is just garbage in worth. It’s a no.


Yes girls, just because you have a vagina doesn’t mean you have worth!

This totally! It's amazing how fast a physically good looking woman can go ugly when they flip that bitch switch. Arrogance, especially.
 

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Once. I'd recently relocated to a new job and my wife had not yet joined me. A female colleague invited me to dinner at her house. I thought it was a nice gesture since I was the new guy on the team. She made a great meal and we got to know each other later over a glass of wine. Then, she started to flirt with me in a way that made it evident she wanted to have sex. I excused myself and left her home.

Only time I've ever turned down sex. I've never turned down my wife of 44 years. Never.

Guys, you never know when that sex event might be the last time.
 
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This totally! It's amazing how fast a physically good looking woman can go ugly when they flip that bitch switch. Arrogance, especially.

Aint that the truth, reminds me of one i had to kick to the curb. I was late 20s, she a 19 and a stone cold knock out and she knew it, we met through my Ex and when we split this chick couldn't get on my dick fast enough, we fucked a few times and the sex was wild but she always made a fuss about the condoms, I was keeping it wrapped with that level of hot/crazy though. Then came her ultimatum, we're going at it one night and we're about to fuck, i slip a condom on and she says "fuck that, you're cumming inside me tonight" i tell her nope, to which she says "Either you cum inside me or you're not getting this pussy" showed her ass the door and that was it. Crazy bitch came crawling back a few weeks later saying we could keep fucking but i was done with it. Dodged a bullet though, within 6 months she was knocked up by some guy in her coke heads anonymous church group, its been 4 or 5 yrs now and last i heard she has 3 crotch goblins, all different baby daddies and not a single baby daddy in sight.
 
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Possibly the most hate-filled comment I ever read on this site was a woman saying, amongst other things, that men would swim through a lake of vomit to fuck anything. This isn't true of course and here is my list of what to avoid

1: Bunny boilers. Very hard to spot when you are young, and most guys I know have gone through this difficult learning curve. Batshit crazies are out there and you need to not go there.
2: Drunk and serious drug using. Don't go there, ultimately you're better off helping them home and ticking one for your karma.
3: Poor personal hygiene etc. Plenty out there, have some self respect and go elsewhere.
4: Big mouth social media divas. Why would you want the drama?
5: Women you don't like or don't respect. Why would you, have a wank instead, ultimately the better choice for everyone.

Then exercise you personal sexual preferences.
 
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2: Drunk and serious drug using. Don't go there, ultimately you're better off helping them home and ticking one for your karma.

Totally agree with this. Taking advantage of her is horrible. Had a female friend throw herself at me when she was on ecstasy, she was actually mad and yelling at me when I told her not while she's rolling. Didn't talk to me for a week, thinking I didn't want to go there. A few months later, we discussed sex while completely sober and ended up being FWB for a few months.

Nowadays tho, I can't imagine how dangerous it must be with the whole victim-incentive mindset out there. Hopefully, the young guys here are watching out for themselves and making good decisions!
 
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Totally agree with this. Taking advantage of her is horrible. Had a female friend throw herself at me when she was on ecstasy, she was actually mad and yelling at me when I told her not while she's rolling. Didn't talk to me for a week, thinking I didn't want to go there. A few months later, we discussed sex while completely sober and ended up being FWB for a few months.

Nowadays tho, I can't imagine how dangerous it must be with the whole victim-incentive mindset out there. Hopefully, the young guys here are watching out for themselves and making good decisions!

Gonna be real with you, this is kinda misogynistic? Victim-incentive mindset? Do you know how many women are sexually assaulted and murdered each year because men don't know how to take no for an answer? It's certainly a lot more than men being "framed" for sexual assault. Like, good on you for being the white knight there, but you basically implied that women are irrational animals that have no control over themselves and tempt men into bad decisions. That's textbook misogyny, man.
 

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Gonna be real with you, this is kinda misogynistic? Victim-incentive mindset? Do you know how many women are sexually assaulted and murdered each year because men don't know how to take no for an answer? It's certainly a lot more than men being "framed" for sexual assault. Like, good on you for being the white knight there, but you basically implied that women are irrational animals that have no control over themselves and tempt men into bad decisions. That's textbook misogyny, man.

Are you saying you should fuck when the other person is drunk or off their face on drugs?

I just see his point as agreeing with me that you are best not to go there in such circumstances and not run the risk that your actions are later construed as rape. And if someone is so fucked up on drugs and alcohol that they are in no position to consent, then it is rape. So, don't fuck women who are drugged up or drunk.
 
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Gonna be real with you, this is kinda misogynistic? Victim-incentive mindset? Do you know how many women are sexually assaulted and murdered each year because men don't know how to take no for an answer? It's certainly a lot more than men being "framed" for sexual assault. Like, good on you for being the white knight there, but you basically implied that women are irrational animals that have no control over themselves and tempt men into bad decisions. That's textbook misogyny, man.

That's the dangerous thing about implications. It can make you think someone is saying something without them actually saying it.

Nowhere in my post did I say what you thought I did. I totally agree with you about the bad things that happen to women, and those men should be shamed and worse. I think you may be misunderstanding my words. In no way did I say that about women. Had I been this misogynist that you accused me of being, I would've taken the chance to have sex with her, but I didn't. You acknowledged my "white knight" act after accusing me of the opposite. I have no ill feelings towards you for it, but I need to make sure you don't confuse things.

The mindset does exist; and so does the actual assaults. Not sure how you took my story about one woman in one scenario and made that apply to how I feel about all women. Just like men, there are good women and bad women.
 
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