Please for the love of all things good, read the whole post. If you don't please don't disrespect me by posting in this thread. I know how this website is and people read one line, they type up a post talking shit and don't bother to read anything else. So I see a lot of nice guy threads. Men are mad that women want confident men, and women are mad that the men are accusing them of being immature and stupid. A lot of responses from the females on the site have been "well those bitch ass pussy men should have grown a pair of balls and become a real man" Well that is a bit extreme and I'm over exaggerating but that's really how I perceive it personally. So I want to tell you why I am a nice guy, and maybe you won't think I'm such a bitch ass girl man with no balls. I grew up in a rich town. Everybody had money except me. I was extremely poor, I couldn't get a quarter to go to the local pool in the summer. I had a few pairs of clothes, which never got washed. We didn't have money to go to the laundry mat. We didn't have a washer and dryer. So this is my life my first 17 years of life. I had no friends, I was the piece of shit who stunk like ass. Every day of school, entire classes and even teachers would sit there and insult me and talk shit to me and call me names and treat me like shit. I had to stand there and take it, every single day of my life. I did not have friends, I never talked to girls ever. I had zero social skills, I had zero confidence. I grew up a piece of shit and that was a big hindering factor. I was, and in many ways still am a nice guy. I was nice because I wanted to make friends, I wanted people to like me for once. Now I live on my own, I have money, I can wash my clothes and be clean and be who I am. I still have difficulty with women and making friends. A lot of social skills HAVE to be learned at a young age. I am quite good at making friends and talking to women CONSIDERING my past. I've had many girlfriends and I somehow have had lots and lots of sex. I'm proud of the pain and suffering I have gone through in my life. It makes me a better person. I am happy with my life and I am not so much of a nice guy anymore. I can be an asshole and I know how to use it to pick up women. But my nice guy will always come out at some point and screw me over. I have many stories of being that puppy dog guy who was attached to some girl who loves assholes. I was that bitch ass guy with no balls. But hey, you can see why. Was I really a girly man bitch? I went through more in my life than most of you. I think that makes me more of a man that the attractive rich kid, who was fed with a silver spoon his entire life, who had little girls and boys wanting to be his friend his whole life. Confidence comes from a good foundation. A good foundation is brought by luck, I was not lucky, I did not have it easy. I did not get to have social skills like that confident man that you like. He didn't suffer, he didn't go through any shit, he just layed on a comfortable pillow and received all the good things life could give him. He is more of a man than me? He has more fuckin balls than me? REALLY!? But that's just how it is sadly. So when you tell a guy to grow a pair of balls, remember that there is a reason why. You may not be able to understand this. And you will probably retort with some stupid crap like "don't let your past hold you back". You wouldn't understand, you haven't been through what I've been through. Most guys like me are recluse, have never had a girlfriends, have never had sex or even kissed a girl. Most guys who have been through what I have are like hermits, they have zero social contact outside of the internet. I don't let the past hold me back, but I know what in my past has hindered my progress, and its good to know these things. It helps me identify and fix the things that I need to fix. If you read all of this, thanks. Hey, maybe you guys can tell us why you are a nice guy. I'd like to hear other peoples stories.