When SLB said he was pissed, I'm not sure he meant that he was drunk. His profile doesn't say where he lives, but in the U.S. "pissed" means angry.
Dave NoCal's advice is good, as usual. I came up with a similar list of ideas several years ago, not just to meet someone but to improve my life more generally, but I have yet to get off my ass and do any of them.
There are lots of reasons why a good-looking, intelligent person could be alone. I don't know if any of these apply to SLB, but here are a few that I've observed in others:
- Are you shy and quiet? If so, people won't know how to talk to you or relate to you.
- Are you well-spoken? You need to be able to express yourself clearly and confidently.
- Are you attentive and a good-listener, or do you treat other people as an audience and expect them to listen to your ideas and opinions?
- When someone disagrees with you, do you really listen to what they have to say, or are you mentally composing a counter-argument while they are talking? Are you willing and able to change your opinion, or are you argumentative and confrontational? Do you cut other people off?
- Do you perceive women as equals? Do you want a woman as a partner to share your life with, someone with her own friends, career, goals, ambitions, etc., or do you want a woman to be an accessory, someone to serve you and entertain you, and to get out of the way and leave you alone when she's not wanted?
- Do you have good personal habits, including grooming and hygiene? A few years ago I went on a date with a gorgeous, intelligent man who had terrible body odor. (If there had been more of a connection I would have found a way to tell him as gently as possible, but as it was we didn't have much in common, so I didn't say anything.)
- Do you complain a lot? About work, your family, how lonely you are, etc. All of these things are a turn-off. When meeting someone or going on a date, keep the conversation positive and talk about things you like and enjoy, not about the things that frustrate you and make you unhappy.
I don't think it's still on the air, but there was a show on VH1 called "Can't Get a Date" which featured perfectly normal people who were making lots of mistakes in the way they related to other people. You probably won't have the opportunity to get help from the TV show (and you're probably better off not having your difficulties broadcast on TV), but consider the possibility that you're either doing stuff that turns people off and/or you're
not doing anything that would catch their interest.
Of course, it won't be easy to figure out what your mistakes are and what to do about them.
Do you have a sister, or a close female cousin or friend? If so, and if you've got the guts to ask her, she may have some good insights into what you're doing wrong. For example, my sister told me I was too selfish, and she was right.