Why I didn't want a girl
Usually, in a family, it is the daughter who becomes the caregiver to the elderly or ailing parents. It doesn't matter that she has her own family to care for, or that she works full-time, it's often just assumed she will take over the role of caregiver.
So how many of you are happy, you have sons and not daughters?
The title of this story shocked me because I've never heard of a woman who openly said she didn't want a daughter. Who will take care of her when she is old and gray, I thought? onder: Don't get me wrong, I know a great many men are nurturing caregivers.By Amy Wilson
-- In an elevator, in line at the grocery store, waiting for the bus, it always goes like this: Strangers' eyes zero in on my belly first. Then they dart furtively to my face, as if to make sure I'm not a mutant, just visibly pregnant.
After this, they ask, "Is this your first?"
"My third," I answer. "I have two boys at home."
And for the kicker, they unfailingly give me a sideways grin, and say: "Going for your girl?"
"Nooo, just going for a baby," I reply, gritting my teeth a little. "Another boy would be fine with us."
I know these people are just making conversation. But this constant assumption leaves me a little offended. What's wrong with boys? Why wouldn't I want another one? It bothers me that people assume I feel incomplete without a daughter, let alone that it's my motivation for being pregnant with a third child in the first place.
One woman actually said to me, "I had two boys first also. And then I had my girl. Thank God."
To these people, I say, "I actually hope it's another boy. I like boys better."
I do this partially in defense of the two wonderful sons I have. But it's the truth. I love what I have, and I have what I love: boys. I understand them. I understand the clothes, the toys, and the Matchbox-car skids on my wallpaper.
Usually, in a family, it is the daughter who becomes the caregiver to the elderly or ailing parents. It doesn't matter that she has her own family to care for, or that she works full-time, it's often just assumed she will take over the role of caregiver.
So how many of you are happy, you have sons and not daughters?
To a father growing old nothing is dearer than a daughter. ~Euripides
We've begun to raise daughters more like sons, but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters. ~Gloria Steinem