If I asked the person out, I expect to pay for the meal. I generally (when dating, not seriously seeing people) went Dutch. I would offer to cook if sometimes I couldn't manage dining out and I knew the person somewhat. If things were right and I wasn't going to cook for them, we could do something smaller. Go get coffee Dutch and go for a meander around that part of town. Things don't have to cost money to be fun. When things have been more flush, I love to be able to treat friends. Fuck no, I'm not about that "use people for my gain" bullshit. Even when things were so dire to when I was homeless, I didn't manipulate people.
As for the other garbage/disaster...
I tend towards being organized for many things. It is a major asset, given the kinds of work I have done. Attention to detail is important when dealing with fraud prevention, documents that the Department of Defense or FAA might audit, etc. Small spontaneous "let's go out for a drive" or "let's go get x thing to eat" is fine. Fun, too. I like going for a drive late at night when the weather is nice. Windows down, music on jam.
I fucking hate hiking. I am not an outdoors-y kinda person. I am about that city life. I hate shopping, including going to Farmer's Markets. I hate going to malls, shopping centers, whatever. Uh, yoga makes my hyper mobile joints complain anymore. I'm good.
Appreciation for someone being themselves, their intellect, their personality, and their body aren't mutually exclusive. I haven't much interest in someone so narrow minded or foolish as to only appreciate one thing about me. Nor would I expect anyone to find much interest in me if I reduced them to just a single shallow thing.
I am a crazy introvert and a homebody. I do have places I want to see, but a trip once a year or less would be more than enough for me. It is very easy for me to hermit outside of go to work, go get groceries, use the fitness room in my apartment complex, etc. It's my preferred way of living. My partner is the only person I've encountered in 30+ years of living who is an exception to my introversion. Anyone else I would want the fuck out of my space after a day ish. Rem? We hermit together and it's lovely.
How dare people want to be safe and confirm you'll not violate boundaries before fucking? I had multiple fuck buddies in the past. Damn right they had to be someone I knew enough to trust my body with. Did that mean I had to be best friends with them? Fuck no. Did it mean I had to love them? Fuck no. I had to know they would adhere to safe sex practices and liked the kind of sex I enjoy. Why waste my time with a fuck buddy whose idea of fun in the bedroom would bore me to tears? Why waste my time with a fool who would expose me to risk? I didn't ask any of them to be monogamous. They were fuck buddies for a reason, so we got to adhere to strict safe sex practices. They knew they weren't the only one I was fucking, and vice versa.
I like dirty pictures from people I'm interested in. That can include genitals, but if I'm interested in them, it isn't just for their genitals. Show me more. Show me your body, your facial expression. If I just want a still shot that is a close up, I can take a picture of one of my own dildos.
Plenty of people, male and female are bisexual. That doesn't mean bisexual people exist to fulfill other people's threesome fantasies or fetishes. Pansexual and queer people exist too. Still not on this planet to fulfill other people's fantasies or fetishes. Bisexuality erasing assholes...
I've been a unicorn, I've been polyamorous (it was my suggestion/preference, not something brought up by my partner), I've been single and had lots of crazy wild fun hot fucking with lots of people. Sex is a moderately small chunk of time out of my life compared to many other things, but it is important to me. There are many reasons why I have had multiple fuck buddies in the past. There are many reasons why I used to also do casual/one offs, too.
Stereotyping, ignorant assholes. I swear...