Why is it limp?

[lambcom]

Okay this may be a stupid question but remember I'm straight!

When I see a gay sex video in which the top is gliding in and out of the bottom, the bottom's cock is almost always limp. I would have thought that having a cock vigorously massaging your prostate would make you rock hard and maybe even cum hands free. Obviously this isn't the case. Can anyone explain why?

 

[Br1an]

Sometimes it is great, sometimes it isn't. Sometimes you are getting hit in all the right places, sometimes you aren't. Sometimes you are really turned on, sometimes the top a can't hold your interest for a full 10 or 20 minutes.

That is in real life. For porn the actors are shooting a scene for like two hours. That is a long time to keep an erection even without a dozen people on set buzzing around you fixing the lighting, the sound, giving you instructions, and taking pictures from under your ball sack.

 

[ActionBuddy]

Dare I say anything here, without getting trounced on by anal enthusiasts?

I kinda doubt that most guys getting paid to have their butts fucked are actually really into it, or the man doing it to them.

 

[rudashe]

Good question Lambcom wish i had an answer....i have noticed that with me i do go limp also. The sex can be great but i pay it no mind. I dont realize it or think about it until the deed is done so i am GUESSING that since i am not paying attention to it and focusing on other pleasures that thats the reason it has a mind of its own

 

[D_Tess_Tease]

being spaced out on drugs probably doesnt help your erection either.

 

[slurper_la]

It's usually difficult for me to stay hard while I'm being fucked. Just too much going on. But I'm also more concerned with the feelings in my ass than keeping a boner. If I get hard or cum while being fucked, that's fantastic. As long as I'm being railed

atta boy!!!

 

[IntentsOfCare]

I am by no means no medical expert but I've always assumed that its because blood is more concentrated to that area (anus). So unless you are being stimulated from both ends it seems logical for a lot of people to go soft.

 

[Bunny35]

I usually do stay hard throughout, however even when I don't the pleasure is all in the ass. I love the the whole act of being fucked, feeling the cock in me and the pounding body against mine is amazing.

I guess if your a full bottom your more likely to enjoy and be hard as once your relaxed the sensations in the ass are longer lasting and just as good as feeling of cumming.

 

[billybones]

I have never had a limp bottom during sex. Never! My friend and I were having this conversation the other day and he accused me of bragging, but honestly I wasn't. No guy I've ever fucked has been limp during sex. It's gotten soft after they came, but never before.

 

[sexplease]

From what I read ages ago - science - a man can ejaculate without his brain. (think postmortem sperm harvesting) Apparently this is a response from the spine. Maybe the anal nerve routes supersede (are closer to the brain) than the penile nerves. ie: if you stub your toe, tap or rub your ankle, calf or knee. The pain sensation is lessened or averted. Some Dentists will wiggle your cheek when administering a Novocaine injection. You sense facial and lip stimuli over a needle-prick. Aversion.

Science is still working on it. This gets, scientific but didn't address the OP's anal/erection query.
Brain Activation during Human Male Ejaculation

Perhaps having a real penis glide in-n-out of ones anus is a little too much multi-tasking for males. During solo self-stimulation, inanimate objects - digits, dildos, etc., often remove other human interaction and so fantasy (perhaps) activates and/or augments the current brain activity.
Just wondering: Do women squirt, orgasm or get little clit-stiffies from the same experience?

 

[fapok]

I reckon concentration is key here. Being together with the other guy who is penetrating you may or may not ensure that erection up until the sex act is over. That's probably why intimacy is a very important factor for engaging in meaningful anal sex. That is, not purely mechanical, athletic anal sex, which is the kind normally on offer in porn.
Having written that, however, I can say that keeping an erection while being penetrated in the anus feels tremendously good. Obviously, the focus is on one's anus, but being in touch with one's cock as well makes for a sensational experience! And the cumshots are tremendous!

 

[AtomicMouse1950]

I only am thinking about my Top's pleasure, and the pleasure he's giving me. So I have no thought about my own cock. My goal is pleasuring my Top. My getting off, is not my concern. Getting my Top, off, is.

 

[pizauk]

I know some guys that when they have a cock in them they just go limp, not turned off or anything just a reaction more then anything, is strange how the body acts i guess.

 

[rbkwp]

Do some of you men really have sex with .. other men
how rude!
unbelievable what we male humans get up to ..

 

[lambcom]

OP here. Thanks to all who posted answers to my initial question. I guess there are many reasons for limp dicks. If a bottom's cock is limp and he hasn't cum but he's still a happy and satisfied camper when the top pulls out, I guess that's all that matters!

 

[vashar]

When it comes the porn, either actor not being erect does kind of annoy me. The top more than anything- He's about to start fucking, and he's about to chuck it in, and his dick isn't much more than a semi. In porn, it's unsatisfying >.>;