Why is liking it "rough" something to be embarassed about?

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Any woman who is shy about liking it rough just isn't comfortable with her sexuality. I like it rough at times, some of my best orgasms occur during rough sex and it isn't anything to be ashamed of.
well that's a sweeping judgement!
maybe she just isn't sure enough of her partner.

i'm open about it when it comes to sex, but that's because i wait months (often years) before i'll sleep with a guy. i know them well enough to know that they won't be freaked out, upset, intimidated or tempted to take advantage.
 

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well that's a sweeping judgement!
maybe she just isn't sure enough of her partner.

i'm open about it when it comes to sex, but that's because i wait months (often years) before i'll sleep with a guy. i know them well enough to know that they won't be freaked out, upset, intimidated or tempted to take advantage.

The OP was talking about women he was in relationships with. I would think that by the time you are in an actual relationship with a guy, you would be comfortable enough to disclose what turns you on sexually.
 

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The OP was talking about women he was in relationships with. I would think that by the time you are in an actual relationship with a guy, you would be comfortable enough to disclose what turns you on sexually.
well that depends how quickly you fall into relationships.
i've been in 2-3 year relationships that have thrown up unpleasant surprises when it comes to sexuality.
 

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another reason,

if i have to tell a guy to do something, it's no longer a turn on when it happens. it has to be part of his nature. i'm openly kinky, but not with the precise details.
i guess it's a mindset thing. it's sexy if the guy is doing something because he loves doing it. it's unsexy if there's a chance he's only doing it to please me.
 

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battle scars and war stories... best sex life ever. :biggrin:

to the OP: how old are the womangs you getting nekkid with?
younger women might be more hesitant to speak their mind, worried about all the ooky double standards put on women when they express themselves as aggressively sexual beings.

or like Ms. Dolfette said.. good sex is fluid. i really don't wanna put post notes all over my body "smack my ass" "pull my hair" "bite here"
 

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or like Ms. Dolfette said.. good sex is fluid. i really don't wanna put post notes all over my body "smack my ass" "pull my hair" "bite here"

So hard to find the perceptive type of gent who does everything right and with timing, yet oh-so sweet when it happens! :blindfold:

Then there are those moments where I've confided a sexual preference and the guy just stares at me like he needs a manual. :eek5: <- that type of thing!
 

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if someone crossed over my line for liking it rough i'd just tell him to back off, i said rough not police report violent.

ya can also convey the type of rough you want by initiating/escalating what is already going on. the boy knows when i want to play rough by the way i approach him. grabbing, wrasslin, antagonizing and such all mean fuck me, fuck me hard, fuck me until i cry uncle.

So hard to find the perceptive type of gent who does everything right and with timing, yet oh-so sweet when it happens! :blindfold:

the boy brings the good love down. he's like gifted. we've also known each other long enough to pick up the most subtle of clues. *counts lucky stars and what not*

Then there are those moments where I've confided a sexual preference and the guy just stares at me like he needs a manual. :eek5: <- that type of thing!

maybe ya could make a laminated Ms. Moxie's How To fact sheet. :rofl:

ya whip it out from a bed side drawer, give him time to study, then let him know there will be a quiz later on.
 
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So hard to find the perceptive type of gent who does everything right and with timing, yet oh-so sweet when it happens! :blindfold:

Then there are those moments where I've confided a sexual preference and the guy just stares at me like he needs a manual. :eek5: <- that type of thing!
''you kiss by the book.''
 

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maybe ya could make a laminated Ms. Moxie's How To fact sheet. :rofl:

ya whip it out from a bed side drawer, give him time to study, then let him know there will be a quiz later on.

Haha, I am envisioning one of those really complicated flow charts you see floating around on the web that always lead to one of two outcomes: "you're fucked" or "proceed"
 

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Haha, I am envisioning one of those really complicated flow charts you see floating around on the web that always lead to one of two outcomes: "you're fucked" or "proceed"

a crying naked man with an erection seems so very sad :frown1:

*giggles like mad*
a crying naked man with an erection and a dunce cap? now that is funny as all get out.
:biglaugh:
 

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I don't mind saying I like it rough, I encourage the guy to do whatever I want, besides the only rough part I like is deep and hard fucking and only when the guy's dick is larger than average. I found men with smaller size get turned off when I ask them or use body language to do it rough.
 

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there have been cases where it was used as the defence.
in the news & shit.

Has that ever worked?

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I just can't imagine some dude using the "she asked for it" defense successfully in a major case this way.

In my time as a bachelor, I encountered precisely one woman who "liked it rough". We had some good sex, but at the end we realized we were not compatible. I imagine it's hard for her to find someone to fill that role without being overly violent, but then again, I have no f*cking clue.
 

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Has that ever worked?

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I just can't imagine some dude using the "she asked for it" defense successfully in a major case this way.

In my time as a bachelor, I encountered precisely one woman who "liked it rough". We had some good sex, but at the end we realised we were not compatible. I imagine it's hard for her to find someone to fill that role without being overly violent, but then again, I have no f*cking clue.
rape conviction rates are low. very, very low. the stats are quite scary.

but the law says 'beyond reasonable doubt'. if a woman is well known for liking to be bruised during sex, bruises are no longer solid evidence of foul play. it's a reasonable doubt. and reasonable doubt is all it takes. it's just one small step towards that 'not guilty' verdict.

the uk's adversarial justice system is frequently in the news for the way it can make the victims of violent crime (and sometimes the victim's families) feel re-victimised. something like this would certainly be seen as admissible evidence.
 

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That may be, but do the defenses used typically amount to "she asked for it"? I just find that incredibly hard to believe. Then again, I'm a smartypants from California and this kind of thing is not my area of expertise, so I anxiously await being disappointed by all of humanity for the umpteenth time.
 

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read up on the states and a few of the cases.
it's an eye opener f'sure.

...not that i'm saying it should be easy to get a conviction. the very nature of the crime is so often her word against his, which isn't enough justification to lock a guy up for a decade.
 

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another reason,

if i have to tell a guy to do something, it's no longer a turn on when it happens. it has to be part of his nature. i'm openly kinky, but not with the precise details.
i guess it's a mindset thing. it's sexy if the guy is doing something because he loves doing it. it's unsexy if there's a chance he's only doing it to please me.

This is part of what I meant with the mind/body reading thing.

If he's faking the rough sex because I've told him it's what I like, it ain't gonna work. Chances are it'll just make me giggle.
 

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I like the way rocco and nacho fuck ! hey if everyone agrees and are "teamplayers" then give out the rules and have at it, a lot of married women don't like it rough and their husbands don't want the mother of their kids and their wives fucked like that , they don't play like single folks do , it's a whole other game with them , and I understand that . I swing with some straight couples and if you want to "play" with them it's their rules i.e MOM'S IN CONTROL . :), Which I guess is understandable , not as fun , but hey most couples want "a single BI women" NO MEN, some aggressive guys have ruined it for us single guys also you got to remember WOMEN are REALLY picky , hell look how picky they are buying shoes ! With us guys it's like 'I'll lower my standards cause you got a pussy LOL And we all know this is true .
Oh and everybody is suing happy, hell even a married couple will sue her hubby if he fucks her too hard .
 
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