Why is liking it "rough" something to be embarassed about?

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Something I've always been curious about, and forgive me if this is slightly off topic, is it easier for a woman to reach that point of, "Oooh, ease up that's too hard" if the guy's got a big dick? The link from 2 posts ago got me thinking if she were less insatiable if the guy had a decent sized dick.
 

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easier? is that the right word?

yes, for me at least, it's easier for the whole thing to be no fun at all, because it's just not a fun sort of discomfort if the guy has a big dick, and so we never get to really let go and have fun.
 

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easier? is that the right word?

yes, for me at least, it's easier for the whole thing to be no fun at all, because it's just not a fun sort of discomfort if the guy has a big dick, and so we never get to really let go and have fun.

Ok, so the fun in the roughness is the slamming, not the filling up fast feeling?
 

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"rough" can mean so much. I have partners where rough means being dominated, bondage, slapping etc. and partners where rough would NEVER include those things but like to be fucked hard. Another partner likes to be "taken" but is not into the other aspects of bondage at all. It seems all about defining things and not just making a blanket statement.
 

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Something I've always been curious about, and forgive me if this is slightly off topic, is it easier for a woman to reach that point of, "Oooh, ease up that's too hard" if the guy's got a big dick? The link from 2 posts ago got me thinking if she were less insatiable if the guy had a decent sized dick.

For me 'rough' is more about the mindfuck than anything else. It doesn't matter what he does or can do physically if he can't mindfuck me into believing in it.

In a physical sense though, I do prefer them to be a little larger (lengthwise) than I can handle comfortably. I like him to be able to hurt me.
 

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For me, the fun is in the extra stretch.

Seems this is the case with the ones I've slept with as well. I'm all for the hair pulling, ass slapping, choking, tying up thing as well, but generally shouting "harder" means deeper.

I could never get into face slapping for fun though.


For me 'rough' is more about the mindfuck than anything else. It doesn't matter what he does or can do physically if he can't mindfuck me into believing in it.

Which goes back to the topic I'd how to convey what rough means. I'd much rather be told from the get go the do's and don'ts, but I think that's somewhat contrived.

In a physical sense though, I do prefer them to be a little larger (lengthwise) than I can handle comfortably. I like him to be able to hurt me.

This I obviously agree with. :tongue:
 

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Pounding fast and hard...great! Squeezing my breast and pinching my nipples...always good! Grabbing my ass while your grinding it in...oh yea! Choking me......uh no! slapping me....WTF! Stretching me out good....rough?..I beg for that!
 

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Which goes back to the topic I'd how to convey what rough means. I'd much rather be told from the get go the do's and don'ts, but I think that's somewhat contrived.
I'm okay with discussing if we are determining boundaries (although there would be a whole lot of blushing and you'd have to get very specific if you wanted useful answers out of me). When it's more like I'm providing a check list of things that he wouldn't come up with on his own however, it starts to negate the whole point of playing rough.


This I obviously agree with. :tongue:
Considering that we've discussed this topic before, I sorta knew where you'd come down on this issue :biggrin1:.
 

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I love a woman who enjoys rough sex. God bless every last one of you. Most of my GFs over the years were shy about liking rough sex. I've never understood the shyness. Not broadcasting it is understandable, but If you intend to have sex with this person more than once, liking rough sex would be helpful information to have before clothes start coming off. Assuming, of course, you want to get the most out of the sex you are about to have.
 

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I'm okay with discussing if we are determining boundaries (although there would be a whole lot of blushing and you'd have to get very specific if you wanted useful answers out of me).

I suppose doing a question, example, answer feedback session would go much more interestingly with a cock inside you. Some women hate having conversations while being deep dicked though, but it is fun on my end. :biggrin1:

(Might get a bit complicated with a ball gag, but that's what nods are for I guess)
 

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I suppose doing a question, example, answer feedback session would go much more interestingly with a cock inside you. Some women hate having conversations while being deep dicked though, but it is fun on my end. :biggrin1:

(Might get a bit complicated with a ball gag, but that's what nods are for I guess)

a dry erase board, maybe?
flash cards? *snicker*
 

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I suppose doing a question, example, answer feedback session would go much more interestingly with a cock inside you. Some women hate having conversations while being deep dicked though, but it is fun on my end. :biggrin1:

(Might get a bit complicated with a ball gag, but that's what nods are for I guess)

Conversation mixed with deep dicking . . . tick.

Ball gag . . . tick.

No ball gag . . . even more interesting. Perfect situation for training me to talk during sex.
 

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battle scars and war stories... best sex life ever. :biggrin:

to the OP: how old are the womangs you getting nekkid with?
younger women might be more hesitant to speak their mind, worried about all the ooky double standards put on women when they express themselves as aggressively sexual beings.

or like Ms. Dolfette said.. good sex is fluid. i really don't wanna put post notes all over my body "smack my ass" "pull my hair" "bite here"
i totally agree with you,couldn't have said any better myself!!!
 

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Exactly, looked what happened with the NYPD rape cop case.

Of course, the woman can bring a civil suit (where the type of proof required is less stringent) and win a huge taxpayer funded settlement.

rape conviction rates are low. very, very low. the stats are quite scary.

but the law says 'beyond reasonable doubt'. if a woman is well known for liking to be bruised during sex, bruises are no longer solid evidence of foul play. it's a reasonable doubt. and reasonable doubt is all it takes. it's just one small step towards that 'not guilty' verdict.

the uk's adversarial justice system is frequently in the news for the way it can make the victims of violent crime (and sometimes the victim's families) feel re-victimised. something like this would certainly be seen as admissible evidence.
 

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Seems this is the case with the ones I've slept with as well. I'm all for the hair pulling, ass slapping, choking, tying up thing as well, but generally shouting "harder" means deeper.



Ummm... I could just see...

"Harder, babe!! harder!!!... Grab a viagra/cialis/etc off the nighstand! Harder!!!"


That.. or rough sex: Sex on the beach, and/or roll the condom in sand paper before usage?? *shudder*
 

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a dry erase board, maybe?
flash cards? *snicker*

Hah!! An ex of mine had the idea of filling a jar with little flash cards of stuff we wanted to do. Stuff like "flogging" "bondage" "anal". Yes, anal. We picked anal once and I do believe we scrapped that whole idea after. (Not our cup of tea).

Conversation mixed with deep dicking . . . tick.

Ball gag . . . tick.

No ball gag . . . even more interesting. Perfect situation for training me to talk during sex.

Just nodding yes or no is all you need to do. Talking, just as long as you can utter your safeword, we're golden.

Ummm... I could just see...

"Harder, babe!! harder!!!... Grab a viagra/cialis/etc off the nighstand! Harder!!!"

Actually, not only harder, but a 4 hour erection harder to boot. Not that I'd know firsthand, just stuff I read about. (yeah right)

That.. or rough sex: Sex on the beach, and/or roll the condom in sand paper before usage?? *shudder*

Eww! :eek:
 

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Hah!! An ex of mine had the idea of filling a jar with little flash cards of stuff we wanted to do. Stuff like "flogging" "bondage" "anal". Yes, anal. We picked anal once and I do believe we scrapped that whole idea after. (Not our cup of tea).

grab jars should always has a pass option *snicker*
the vetoed card ditched from play.
like joker cards in a deck.

Just nodding yes or no is all you need to do. Talking, just as long as you can utter your safeword, we're golden.

kegel once for yes, twice for no
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i am brilliant!
course, milking might be considered disrupting the class.


Actually, not only harder, but a 4 hour erection harder to boot. Not that I'd know firsthand, just stuff I read about. (yeah right)

the four hour boner might sound like a good idea. but what happens if sex is called off for whatever reason. some poor dude is roaming the world with a boner that can't be reasoned with. is gonna make any gathering of friends or family really awkward.


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