Why Is Rimming Tops So Taboo Among Younger Gay Guys?

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I’m a top and for me to get my ass eaten is like jumping through hoops. Almost no bottoms do it, and the ones that I have convinced to do it obviously don’t know what they’re doing. But good on them for trying at least.

A lot of the time when I bring it up, guys accuse me of being a bottom for wanting to be rimmed. This seems to be a pretty common opinion among most of the younger gay guys I’ve talked to. Apparently only bottoms are allowed to enjoy anything ass-related.

Is this a relatively new thing? It’s so goddamn annoying that I even have to ask for it in the first place. There’s only so many things 2 guys can do to each other; to rule out a huge part of that because of your preferred sexual position is ridiculous.
 

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I’m a top and for me to get my ass eaten is like jumping through hoops. Almost no bottoms do it, and the ones that I have convinced to do it obviously don’t know what they’re doing. But good on them for trying at least.

A lot of the time when I bring it up, guys accuse me of being a bottom for wanting to be rimmed. This seems to be a pretty common opinion among most of the younger gay guys I’ve talked to. Apparently only bottoms are allowed to enjoy anything ass-related.

Is this a relatively new thing? It’s so goddamn annoying that I even have to ask for it in the first place. There’s only so many things 2 guys can do to each other; to rule out a huge part of that because of your preferred sexual position is ridiculous.

people shouldn't be so close-minded about the sexual things others want to do just because of their preferred positions, sorry to hear that you've dealt with such people

i think the reason why it's so taboo among younger gays is because a lot of them tend to be extremely judgemental, as if they're in high school cliques (sadly a lot of fully grown adults act this way too)

you'd think gays would be more open-minded since a lot of close-minded people hate us for existing lol
 

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I feel like Gen Z gay guys and younger are even more sold into the top/bottom dichotomy than previous generations were. Some of them are probably obsessed with a specific archetype of ultimate masculine top guy who would never-ever bottom to fill the void of male attention that they lacked previously.
 

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Weird that people feel so rigid with these top/bottom “roles”. Like who made it a rule that you can’t enjoy getting your ass eaten if you’re a top? I’m all about equality and getting each other off, and if I can make my partner feel good, I will do whatever they like. I personally really enjoy eating ass, so I will eat your ass whether you are a top or a bottom. Getting your ass ate feels amazing so I don’t understand why you would have to be a bottom to get rimmed? Sex is about pleasure and being intimate with someone, and my goal is to make my partner feel as much pleasure as possible. If that means eating the ass of the guy who’s about to fuck me then so be it. Like if a guy I’m about to have sex with is like “eat my ass” I would never be like no you’re the top that’s against the rules. Sex is spontaneous and fun and in the moment. People need to loosen up lol.
 

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Too many gay men choose partners based on sexual fantasies. Those fantasies can and often do have very rigid lines... you are THIS, and ONLY THIS. You step out of those lines being a more complex person and you cause disillusionment. Thats undesirable. This is all because they see you more as an object, not a person. You challenge their understanding and validation of masculinity... you were the trophy
 
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as a top i never have liked my ass played with or anything close to being rimmed - but that said the same applies to me as a top doing anything so called a 'bottom' activity - l love to suck and wank a guy i'm with along with all sorts of joint vers fun, but many gay guys don't like a top who does any of that. I'm not sure its necessarily age related thing, there are a number of threads on this site where the bulk of bottom guys seem only to want to satisfy the top. IOr expect all tops to be only dom, or to all be enormously hung, or to be the totally 'active' one doing all the work, or any number of other things it could apply to?

is it not just a case though of finding someone you do click with and if you meet someone not into the same, which can be as much as anything a preference?, then find someone who is?
 
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I feel like Gen Z gay guys and younger are even more sold into the top/bottom dichotomy than previous generations were. Some of them are probably obsessed with a specific archetype of ultimate masculine top guy who would never-ever bottom to fill the void of male attention that they lacked previously.

I think this is it. Younger millennials and Gen Z were the first to come of age when gay hookup apps were already a thing so you basically needed to label yourself. Those labels stuck and a lot of guys began to define themselves around them. Meme culture has probably made it even worse as I’ve seen countless memes based around top/bottom stereotypes.
 

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Top top here and I really love getting rimmed! Thought I was the only one haha
That is great to hear! I love rimming tops. I dated a top with a bubble ass and he loved having his ass eaten and I munched and munched and munched away
 

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I’m a total bottom, love eating ass, but I just don’t trust a lot of tops to be “clean” back there. From my experiences at least, total tops don’t usually make the effort to clean there and some really f it up when they do and they don’t know what they’re doing
 
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That is great to hear! I love rimming tops. I dated a top with a bubble ass and he loved having his ass eaten and I munched and munched and munched away
Actually I really love it and sometime is comfortable too lol usually, if we have a long sex session and we wanna take a lil break, I lay down and my BF eats and plays with my hole.
 

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Actually I really love it and sometime is comfortable too lol usually, if we have a long sex session and we wanna take a lil break, I lay down and my BF eats and plays with my hole.
I disagree with the premise of the question. I'm vers, but have a hot bottom buddy and we love to rim each other. But that doesn't entitle me to forget about being clean. Anal douching isn't a huge challenge for a top, and besides it feels kinda good