Why it hurts?

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by archa, Aug 28, 2009.

  1. archa

    archa New Member

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    Guys, I've long been a bottom. When I was fucked 1st time with penis size 22 cm but not hurt. strangely, after that I was fucked by a smaller penis, but it hurt. The first time is usually not felt, but after the second round I feel so painful in my ass. I want to get useful tips from you all. how to overcome the pain that I suffered? I'm not taking any medication. Thanks b4.
     
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    get a stick to bite on
     
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    Maybe it is the girth that hurts.
     
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    Maybe you need different lube, or more of it.
    Also, try different positions. That can make the difference from painful to the best feeling in the world!
    When you watch porn, notice how many times they change positions. (I'm not talking about who tops or who bottoms.)
    And, last but not least, if your partner is a very skilled and caring lover he will know how to "read" you and adjust his moves/speed, in order for you to thoroughly enjoy it as much as he does.
     
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    Exactly: lots of good lube. Try silicon lube - unlike water based lubes, it doesn't dry up and won't leave you raw.

    And only fuck around with guys who have been fucked themselves. They know what they're doing when they ram it in - they're a much better fuck.
     
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    Does it hurt mostly when going in? Does it hurt just after going in so that you feel some pleasure but some pain? Does it hurt when he goes deep?
     
  7. archa

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    thanks for the advice. I did not use a lot of lube because my partner does not like a lot of lube. about changing positions, I rarely do well because of fear. maybe it's time I try!
     
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    My partner has never being fucked but he knows how to treat me well. it seems to me lack of lube. thx bro
     
  9. archa

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    I wondered why it pains me after the second round? people usually feel more pain at the first time...
     
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    Quite frankly, if he doesn't like a lot of lube, he does NOT treat you well. Everyone knows that more lube is better for anal, and because he hasn't had it up his arse, he doesn't know and/or doesn't care. Either he's being incredibly selfish, or your being too submissive on the count of only pleasuring him. Try being a top with him, and see how he reacts to minimal lube.

    That being said, it's my experience that smaller cocks tend to be a lot harder and stiffer than bigger cocks, and they tend to stab you. Try different positions, as he could be hitting the wrong places for you.
     
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    how much time passed between the first and second round of fucking? the stretching, bruising and or possibly any "damage" he caused during the first round is what caused the pain and discomfort during the second round.

    as for lube: use what you need. "lots" of lube is never the only answer. if you're able to accommodate your partner's size you need only use enough lube to make things slide better.
     
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    I'm actually the same way. In my experience with big dicks, and I've had my share... the first time is fine and the next time especially if its a few days later, is harder to take. I think it has something to do with how you body/muscles reacts. After getting stretched your body naturally tightens things back up. After a big one it tightens up a lot and it takes longer to stretch it back out.
     
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    I am a top and here is what I found. One of the problems with some lubes is that they kill sensation for the person on top. Another poster suggested this already, but, I absolutely have to agree with him. Get away from any water based lubes. Use a silicone based lube that is safe for condoms. Silicone lubricates but is less invasive when it comes to changes in sensation.

    Since this is a BF and not a relationship, there are also some specialized condoms that may improve things for him and improve them for you at the same time with regards to sensation and or lubrication. Be brave, experiment with different things. . . .
     
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    The little guy may be ramming your prostrate dead on... and that can HURT.
     
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