*I'm not trying to be offensive. I'm just trying to understand.*
Many people are raped and keep it a secret for the rest of their lives. They never go to the police or anything. Why? Why let somebody go free and give him/her a chance to do it a again to somebody else?
I know it must be hard.... but don't you think its slightly selfish to be that way?
i'm amused by the 'why let them go free?' line.
conviction rates for rape are less than 6%.
less than 6%!
so i could've had of a rape kit...just what i wanted. a doc exposing me and poking around after something like that.
and i could've given a statement...relived the agony for a couple of stone faced cops.
and i could've been torn apart on the witness stand, been made to relive it in graphic detail for a huge courtroom full of strangers, had my sexual past twisted and thrown in my face, been called a liar.
and after all that he would've walked free anyway.
and then i could've had everyone in the town know, and have them all stare at me and whisper, and have most of them think i'm a slut and a bitch who made it up for attention, because the jury found him innocent.
unless a woman is beaten half to death if it's domestic or date rape, or she's been snatched off the street wearing the most modest clothes she owns, the guy is almost a dead cert to walk free.
selfish?
there is NOTHING selfish about needing to survive.
the will to survive got you through it.
the legal process is more than most women can take.
they're beyond breaking point.
the only way they feel they can survive it is to bury it until they've recovered enough strength to face it.
going through the legal process is keeping open a bleeding wound for YEARS.
most women can't do it.
can't. it's not even a choice for them.
i wish i lived in your happy little world where the bad guys go to prison and the victims are treated like people. it certainly isn't reality!