curioustitan
Sexy Member
No need to feel threatened. It seems the thread has gotten a little off topic and I may have actually learned what I had hoped to learn by asking "why so angry?", so I figured I'd try to sum up what I have surmised from the various posts.
1). There is a lot of history on this board with the way men and women interact that I had not taken the time to understand. It is very complex and dynamic and it is not "fair" or even realistic to point fingers at a given gender. There are other threads which are emblematic of this and my post was not really necessary, given the debate going on in other places. My bad.
2) Many of the more active women on this site aren't particularly keen on answering the same silly questions over and over. People don't use the search feature enough and there is plenty of spank worthy content regarding women who love big dicks or hate big dicks and the balance has shifted to where such questions are a non-starter. I can see the point.
3) I characterized many of the women in the Women's Issues forum as hostile (sorry for the use of "cunty") and many have expressed that they are feeling hostile, but they've got meaningful reasons for feeling that way.
4) There are a lot of intelligent women on this board that love to argue.
5) My post wasn't very constructive and I certainly haven't made many friends, but hopefully some of the people here understand that "outsiders" such as myself don't see this board as very open or friendly, and the margin for error, in terms of getting flamed, is slim. I'm not basing this conclusion on the way I've been treated here, as I was the instigator and was mean-spirited and emotional in my original tirade.
Me, too
I am cheerful about a lot of things...
And I can certainly change the avatar...no worries. It was just a random selection.
You certainly didn't have to do that, but I do thank you for the avatar change - but Chuck has had that particular avatar for so long, that it was a little disconcerting to see it as someone else's "face". That was thoughtful of you!
I appreciate your apology for calling us cunty; I also appreciate the sharing of your new conclusions, and the acknowledgment of your part in how we treated you in this thread. Thank you.
I like your username, econocook. I'll bet you would enjoy my after-superbowl soup, made of one lonesome brat, sauerkraut juice, and potato salad.
I had a whole post typed out, and then my computer froze. I just hate it when that happens!
Either way, I was going to say I thought I took it a bit too far on my second post there. After I went back and re-read it It came across a lot more agressive then It needed to be.
While I do agree with Gilette on some points - surely our vaginas don't grand us rock star status - I don't think it's the underlying issue here. I don't want to disregard that I (as I can't speak for the other ladies here) do sometimes respond harsher then nescesairy. And no, that isn't very nice of me. But apart from beeing a lady, I'm also human; I am not perfect, I do get irritated, I do make mistakes. And while that doesn't make it okay, I don't think those imperfections are exclusive the female posters here - as the men do so just as often - I do think we stand out more because we're so greatly outnumbered by the other sex here.
And I don't think it's that weird that people do rub eachother the wrong way here. We are on a erotic forum and on all the forums I've visited surrounding those interests usually will have two types of members; 1.) the person genuinely interested to talk/discuss/explore and learn about the subject and 2.) the person just trying to get off. One isn't better or worse then the other, but surely their motives do conflict at times. Add this on to the blessing and curse of anomiousity of the internet (anyone can be anyone and everything they want to be - sometimes "forgetting" that here is an actual person on the other side of the cute username you were talking to) and you're almost halfway there.
I think we all are to blame in one way or the other, but i for one wouldn't be interested in visiting a forum where there wasn't any room for discussion, asking honest questions and beeing genuinely interested in getting to know each other. I did not come here to serve as anyones wank fodder - I don't think anyone does - and would like to be treated with at least some regard for my feelings. And because of that I might feel the need to speak up when I feel something or someone says something that disregards that - I do, however, need to keep my bitching and clawing to a minimum.
Really, I think we are making this a bit bigger then it needed to be :redface:
Fearful that I may have missed something, I did an arrogant search for my username and found this thread. I don't have anything of substance to add as everything I could have said has already been mentioned or resolved. I just wanted to say thank you to the ladies who spoke so kindly of myself and others. It's very nice of you. I was going to speak a little about the 'white knight' issue, but I'll make a new thread instead.
Oh no need to worry. After rereading my first response I thought maybe I came off as a little kiss-assish (hey, my first made up word). But I did agree with what you posted. And I should apologize if my second post came off as curt. I really do not like posting on the internet much because I think it's easier to communicate with people when you can see their faces or even over a phone and can hear inflections in voices. I am really more of a face-to-face person.
So, no bothers on this end whatsoever. I do get sick of these "penis size" threads though. I imagine going to a church site sometime and seeing priests and nuns discussing penis size.
And like a dumbass I forget you really do have a verifiable female club section. I go to a lot of forums for a lot of different subjects to unwind before hitting the sack so I have trouble keeping up with what's what.
But I do have to agree with the sticky thread "Your penis is not a woman's issue". It never has been and shouldn't be. They're attached to men. Just sometimes the balls are held by the woman, LOL.
Basically you got what you got. It's up to the man on whether he uses it or not, not a popular vote.
But one cool thing about this or any forum are all the different viewpoints.
And sorry for going off topic again. That is all...
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