Why the snarky/sarcastic replies?

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Ok, I'm probably going to get flamed up the wazoo by all the women for asking this, and if thats what happens, then so be it. But I still feel the need to ask this question because I kind of see these responses all over the place from women, and not just here on LPSG. Id like to point out before writing this thread that Im not here trying to attack anyone in particular, nor am I trying to make this sound like an angry rant. So if it comes off that way, Im sorry.

Anywho, down to business...

Ive noticed that on a lot of the threads in this forum (specifically, the "ask a woman" section), a lot of the questions (obviously from the male perspective about sex, the penis, etc...) are being met with snarky, sarcastic, and otherwise unhelpful replies. And not just here, but other places as well. Can someone please tell me why this is? I mean, from my point of view, it almost seems like women actually enjoy demeaning men, and shooting them down when they ask these kinds of questions. And then, when the men ask women why they reply so sarcastically, the women usually respond with something like "Its a stupid question.", or "we're tired of answering that question" or something along the lines of that. Or even worse, when the women get confronted about their responses (just as Im doing... probably walking into the firing squad here), the women resort to insults about how the man asking the question must be insecure, or have a small penis, or something along those lines.


Without naming names, here's a few examples of what Im talking about (and again, Im not trying to attack anyone... just offering up some evidence):

Example 1:
Someone here asked the question, "How long should a guy last?" Now, I personally already know the answer: For some women, the guy probably doesnt need to last long at all. For other women, she probably requires that he lasts a very long time." Instead, the very first response is "At least 47 minutes." Now, you dont have to be a genius to know this response is sarcastic in nature. Its totally unhelpful, and a waste of time. If youre going to spend the time to write up a response, why not just answer the question for real, instead of sarcastically?

Example 2:
Someone asked a question where they presented 2 guys with different attributes, and asked which one the women would choose (and apologized if the question had been asked before). Among the responses were simply "No. It's never, ever, been asked here before." Great, thanks for taking 15 seconds to tell us that. If you have the energy to respond that way, can you at least spend the energy to answer the question? A couple more posts down, someone answered, "
Assuming all else is the same, I would pick the great lover. Looks are fading and the personality is there no matter what." See how easy that was? A very simple answer.



Example 3:
Someone asked a question "What do you call average?" Obviously referring to penis size. Now, in this thread, I was actually surprised that the first response was quick and helpful as needed. They simply replied "Average = 5 inches." See that? Short, sweet, and to the point. Totally easy, right? Then, a few responses down, someone replies along the lines of "It's only average in performance, Sweetie. That's the only thing I grade." That... doesnt... even begin to answer the question. The answer to that question should simply be a number. Not what you decide to grade. I cant help but get the vibe that this answer was meant to be unhelpful, for one reason or another.


Do women just feel the need to put men in their place when these sort of questions arise? Or is there another possible hidden reason for these responses that just beat around the bush? I dont see what the problem is with just answering bluntly and honestly. This would definitely make make me facepalm a lot less when I come around to read stuff here.

Oh, and by the way, for the women who respond that "Asking about your penis is a stupid question" or "were tired of men asking us if size matters.", lest I remind you, you are on a large penis support forum. What kinds of questions did you expect to be asked here?

Look, all men know, that women are complicated. Hell, youre more than complicated... women are like rubik's cube-jenga-crossword puzzles that are strapped on to a terrorists back while hes yelling at you in a foreign language. But women, we men are simpletons. We just want YOUR answers to questions about penises. Thats it :) Cant we all just get along, without beating around the bush?
 

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We know where we are. And the same questions are asked again and again. And our answers are ignored and disparaged.

Penis size. We tell you that for most of us, it doesn't matter that much. There are a few size queens here who will tell you that they aren't wasting their time with less than eight. But for most women, universally, it just isn't a deciding factor. But we are constantly being told that we are lying. That women lie about penis size preference. The fact that we are on a forum like this is used as "evidence" that we are lying.

Or some dude comes here saying he wants us to help him coerce his girlfriend into anal sex that she has already told him scares her. Instead of listening to the reasonable suggestion that perhaps he listen to her expressed desires that she doesn't wasn't to do it. He starts haranguing us and calling us names.

The defensiveness in this forum comes from guys who blow past the established rules and act like entitled assholes. But if you look, real questions are answered with respect and helpful comments. The ladies here, as a group, tend to have their bullshit meters highly tuned.
 

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Because we're all misandrists.


Honestly though, like I tell the students I teach, my REactions are based on their actions. What I do is the effect of something they caused. And that's how it is on here. 9 times out of 10, the snark and sass is deserved. You ask why? Check the post history of the OPs that receive the most snark and sarcasm. Or do a search to find how many times the question's been asked. You'll see why.
 
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I was really nice when I first joined (5 years ago) but gradually have turned into a bitch based on repetition, poor attitudes, and misogyny. Clearly not every guy is like that but it's probably why I stopped trying to be patient and answer every question thoughtfully.
 
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I hear you, I personally do not ever argue with anybody, and avoid conflict at all costs. But that's just me. I'll be interested in reading the responses on this thread and I always feel a bit of concern whenever a guy makes a thread-there's almost always someone who misconstrues one tiny thing and turns it into a perceived slight or insult, and goes for the jugular

I remember....once (and only once) I did try to intervene..... very politely and adroitly and found myself on the same side as the guy on the firing line, so now I just shut the fuck up and empathize with you fellows
 
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First of all, thank you all for the honest, non-abrasive responses (I was honestly bracing myself for half the women here to get all defensive and get offended, just for pointing this out)

But for most women, universally, it just isn't a deciding factor. But we are constantly being told that we are lying. That women lie about penis size preference. The fact that we are on a forum like this is used as "evidence" that we are lying.
Why not just answer, and if you get told youre lying, simply state that youre not lying? Or ignore the person altogether? Clearly, the men who say youre lying WANT you tell them "a big penis is all I want out of a man" and those kind of men dont really warrant a response anyway. Responding to them sarcastically is like--for lack of a better word--feeding the trolls, no? I doesnt really help the situation, and is a bit off-putting for innocent readers like myself, who want to read answers to the same questions

9 times out of 10, the snark and sass is deserved. You ask why? Check the post history of the OPs that receive the most snark and sarcasm. Or do a search to find how many times the question's been asked. You'll see why.
I dont know the history of a lot of the posters here, so I cant speak on that. But again, if someone is REALLY that bad, why not just ignore their thread altogether, instead of posting an unhelpful, sarcastic reply? That way, their post will be dropped off the front page sooner, and only posts that warrant a genuine response will remain.

And actually, on that note, Ive even seen times where someone asked a certain generic question... something as simple as "Does penis size matter?" and they get shot down completely on that first post. Sometimes the nicest response is along the lines of "OMG we've been asked that question so much! Use the f*cking search function!" Its like, ok, I understand that he couldve searched it. But wouldnt it be much easier to just answer the question again with a simple "Yes, size matters to me." or "No, size doesnt matter to me" than to berate the person for not using the search function?


I guess, ultimately, the vibe that I get is that women are tired of men obsessing over their penises sometimes. And if thats what it is, then so be it. But I still dont understand the hostility about it. If all of a sudden, every woman I came across started taking off their bra and asking me "What do you think about my boobs?" Id be happy to share my opinion about them. And thats not just because Im a guy and I like to look at boobs lol. I just dont see the point in getting angry at them about it haha

You know... come to think of it... that would be an awesome experiment to conduct around here. You ladies should all rally together and spam the "Ask a straight man" section their opinions about your boobs and see if they EVER get tired of it :p
 
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You have to admit that some of these questions are just absolutely ridiculous. How long should a man last? Really? What do you think of my penis? Well, it's not my husband's so I really don't have an opinion.

My husband is a member here with all of the qualifications for membership. Do you know how many women have asked how big he is? Zero. Do you know how many men have asked? Too many to keep track of.

I do not know your girlfriend/wife/neighbor, so I can't tell you how to get her to do anal/ 3-way/ another guy and or girl.

Ask better questions. One that makes us think. At least one that doesn't make us sigh.

Some of these questions should never be asked out loud. They should be researched empirically. In other words, live life to learn the answer.
 
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Actually, I disagree EllieP.

My girlfriend and I watch porn together sometimes, just for fun. And shes flat out told me "Oh, he had a nice looking cock." or "Ew, that dick just looks ugly. I wouldnt f*ck that thing regardless of size"

So I know women are CAPABLE of judging penises that belong to men other than their husband/boyfriend/whatever.

Whether or not you want to is obviously your prerogative, but dont you think that if you dont want to judge, then its better not to post altogether? Its disheartening for me to see threads along those lines and see more responses that say "I dont want to judge your penis because its not my husbands" when the guy is only asking for an opinion.

On a forum such as this, those are exactly the kinds of questions Id expect to be asked here. This is a penis support group, after all. Not a "learn life's lessons on your own" group.
 

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Yes, this is a penis support group (stifles laugh), but this is Ask a Woman forum. Since I'm a woman you're asking for my opinion. I really, really, really don't want to look at your penis. Good for your girlfriend that she can give an honest opinion about other men's weenies. I don't watch porn so it seems as if we're two different people. Have her join here so she can post non-snarky comments. But don't blame me if when attempting to answer the same question for the thirty-second time that she just snaps.
 
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Yes, this is a penis support group (stifles laugh), but this is Ask a Woman forum. Since I'm a woman you're asking for my opinion. I really, really, really don't want to look at your penis. Good for your girlfriend that she can give an honest opinion about other men's weenies. I don't watch porn so it seems as if we're two different people. Have her join here so she can post non-snarky comments. But don't blame me if when attempting to answer the same question for the thirty-second time that she just snaps.

She would probably just ignore the posts she doesnt want to respond to. So... back to the original point. If you dont want to give your opinion, why take the time and energy to respond at all? Doesnt that seem a little... unproductive?
 
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Guys may ask for an honest opinion of their dick but what if I think its small/ugly??? Do they REALLY want to know that?

If they asked for your opinion. You have every right to give it to them. :)

Now, if youre afraid your opinion would hurt their feelings, and you dont want that, then probably best not to respond.

We're all adults here though. I know that if I ask for someones honest opinion, i better be prepared for their honest opinion. If I dont think I can handle the answer, I dont ask the question :) Although, some people might not have that common sense :(
 
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Why not just answer, and if you get told youre lying, simply state that youre not lying? Or ignore the person altogether? Clearly, the men who say youre lying WANT you tell them "a big penis is all I want out of a man" and those kind of men dont really warrant a response anyway. Responding to them sarcastically is like--for lack of a better word--feeding the trolls, no? I doesnt really help the situation, and is a bit off-putting for innocent readers like myself, who want to read answers to the same questions

I like being sarcastic and snarky. That's why. It's my prerogative. They wanna be dumb and post stupid questions, then I get to post snarky sarcastic replies. Why should I have to ignore it? They're opening themselves up for it.

Seriously, your post should be "Why the dumb, repetitive, trolling questions and negative responses to thoughtful insight?" or "Why ask women a question when you really only want to hear your view point validated, and will attack anyone who disagrees, while praising the few women (questionable women sometimes) who agree with me?"
 
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Actually, I disagree EllieP.

My girlfriend and I watch porn together sometimes, just for fun. And shes flat out told me "Oh, he had a nice looking cock." or "Ew, that dick just looks ugly. I wouldnt f*ck that thing regardless of size"

So I know women are CAPABLE of judging penises that belong to men other than their husband/boyfriend/whatever.

Whether or not you want to is obviously your prerogative, but dont you think that if you dont want to judge, then its better not to post altogether? Its disheartening for me to see threads along those lines and see more responses that say "I dont want to judge your penis because its not my husbands" when the guy is only asking for an opinion.

On a forum such as this, those are exactly the kinds of questions Id expect to be asked here. This is a penis support group, after all. Not a "learn life's lessons on your own" group.

What I may say to my b/f is entirely different than what I may say in a public forum. Although if my b/f was pestering my to evaluate every dick he dug up on every porn site, or constantly need my reassurance on his size, we wouldn't be together very long.

And no, I don't think it's better not to post. The men here need to be reminded that real women exist. Even on an adult site, real women exist. Feisty, opinionated women who couldn't give a shit about your dick.

Oh? We're on a support site for big penises? Ok, you do know that's a joke, right? The entire history of this site is based on a joke? This is a sexual site, and we all can play. We women are sexual beings and can talk about those issues, too. But there are a dozen questions or so that just send many of us over the edge.

If your question involves my opinion of your junk, math in sex, coercing your significant other etc. then I am going to spend ten minutes crafting a sassy response rather than than waste one minute of thoughtfulness.
 
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Oh? We're on a support site for big penises? Ok, you do know that's a joke, right? The entire history of this site is based on a joke? .

As soon as you put it that way, you're kind of acknowledging that questions of any nature are fair game then. It can either be something serious and helpful, where the community tries to put in helpful replies, or it can be a joke, where anything goes, and there is no moderation.

Im fine with either, as long as no one is twisting it so that its convenient just for them.

The men here need to be reminded that real women exist. Even on an adult site, real women exist. Feisty, opinionated women who couldn't give a shit about your dick.

That part sounds awfully angry at men in general. Is that how you meant it to sound? I just dont see the logic in being angry, and therefore wasting your time making the person who asked the question angry (not to mention making it off-putting for innocent posters who just want to read honest answers to the question, instead of angry replies that take the discussion nowhere)
 

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As you can see from my join date I'm a newbie. That said, I think a lot of the sarcasm stems from the fact that the men who ask questions of us seem lazy. I mean, take the friend zone question. The last friend zone thread hadn't even dropped off the page before another guy started a new friend zone thread. I think if the men who wanted serious answers to their questions took the time and five seconds of energy to do a search of the site before posting a thread they would save themselves the snarky answers. :shrug:

I actually find the snarky answers hilarious. They motivate me to give a serious answer.

Question: Why do we have to give you nice thoughtful answers? Why can't we be snarky, sarcastic, genuine, thoughtful, or whatever comes into our minds to be when we answer? Especially if the question has been asked and answered repeatedly since the dawn of this site?
 

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Actually, I disagree EllieP.

My girlfriend and I watch porn together sometimes, just for fun. And shes flat out told me "Oh, he had a nice looking cock." or "Ew, that dick just looks ugly. I wouldnt f*ck that thing regardless of size"

So I know women are CAPABLE of judging penises that belong to men other than their husband/boyfriend/whatever.

Whether or not you want to is obviously your prerogative, but dont you think that if you dont want to judge, then its better not to post altogether? Its disheartening for me to see threads along those lines and see more responses that say "I dont want to judge your penis because its not my husbands" when the guy is only asking for an opinion.

On a forum such as this, those are exactly the kinds of questions Id expect to be asked here. This is a penis support group, after all. Not a "learn life's lessons on your own" group.

It's a valid question. Just not in the AAW forum. The Show Off forum is the place for that. I do look and comment there. I don't at the AAW forum because it's clearly and explicitly against the rules and pisses people off.

Timing and location, my good man. Timing and location.
 
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Question: Why do we have to give you nice thoughtful answers? Why can't we be snarky, sarcastic, genuine, thoughtful, or whatever comes into our minds to be when we answer? Especially if the question has been asked and answered repeatedly since the dawn of this site?

It doesnt necessarily have to be NICE or THOUGHTFUL. Just... helpful. Or at least on point.

If someone asks you if their dick is good looking or big, and you think its ugly, and small, you have the right to say it. It might not be nice, but its true (at least for you), and it answers the question. Saying "Its not my boyfriend's, and therefore I will not judge it" doesnt even answer the question in the first place.

I understand entertainment and having fun, and wanting to respond with a joke every now and then, and thats fine. But Im just saying, the general mood in this forum... specifically the "Ask a woman" forum strikes me as angry, with undertones of "OMG how dare you ask me that question! Now I'll show you!" undertones. On most of the other sections, the mood is generally light-hearted and good-natured.

Lets put it this way... its easy for me to imagine a guy who wants to ask you ladies a question, so he looks around in here, and the first thing he'll think is "Wow... all the women in here are angry bitches" and decide not to post. Ive frequented many forums (not all adult-related) and come across plenty of groups that seem that way. Its just demoralizing when it comes to that. As a person who mostly lurks around here, and rarely posts, I sometimes feel exhausted, and like I wasted my time reading some of the threads in the Ask a Woman forum, mostly because of those types of responses.
 

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ArkNebradia, by your answer then a guy has the same right. Just ignore the snarky comments and keep it moving. Or just get a sense of humor about it and realize sometimes you are gonna get helpful answers, sometimes humorous, sometimes something you're not going to like. It is a hodge podge of answers here just like anywhere else on this site or on the net really. Seems like some of you guys are just way too sensitive.
 

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size matters!

edit: you forgot to tell us how big ur penis is

edit2: it's a joke! don't be so sensitive
 
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