AlteredEgo
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ArkNebradia, I'm going to avoid quoting if I can only becaus I'm in bed, posting from a mobile phone, and it is very difficult to delete the parts that are superfluous to my intention. If I respond to something, and you need me to quote it in order to understand me, let me know and I will do my best.
I feel I have explained very explicitly why I perceive bigotry in your posts in this thread, but I will try to be clearer. I believe your dissociation from my accusaton is natural, and understandable. Most people believe themselves to be good people, and believe bigots to be bad people. I believe most people have prejudices and that those come in varying degrees. You have demonstrated bias against women by blindly tarnishing all women as a group with what you perceive to be bad behavior from a few, and by assuming that what bad behavior you've observed is unjust and needs your correction. You compound this attitude by continuously posting in a manner which is both condescending and paternalistic to women who are not your daughters, nor your employees, nor under any other form of your authority. I'm not saying you hate all womankind. I'm just saying you've been a bigot whose form of bigotry is misogyny. I appreciate that you are learning from this experience, and changing your language, and will try to be more considerate in the future. From one individual to another, that is all which can be asked. I still find it dubious that sweeping overgeneralising wasn't your intent because of the words you consistently chose, and the points you decided to make, but at this point, it's almost semantics, and not worth arguing about. I know your assertion, you know mine, and we'll have to agree to disagree. Before I let it go on my end though, I want to point out that not once did I use the location of your post to make any points, merely the specific words you chose, and the glaring fact that you haven't asked the same question of the men who engage in questionable behavior on the site.
Oh. And I'll PM you later with some easy-to-find references from men here calling out what they perceive as misandry. That you claim to have never seen this is surprising to me.
I'm a grown woman. You aren't my parent. I resent that you're sitting here telling me (as part of a group) what to do. It doesn't matter how nicely you try to put it. You feel there is only one way to post. "Helpfully". Others disagree. Your presentation of your opinion is condescending and paternalistic. Is that helpful? Aren't you just asking others to do something you're unwilling to do? (i.e., Be helpful and ignore posts you don't like.) Kinda like when my unmarried parents suggested I save my virginity for marriage, and my morbidly obese relatives complained about how much I ate during growth spurts.
Alright. You think people should only say topical, helpful things, and that those who live outside your view are bitches. Some people agree with you. Some people don't. I don't. I think people are people, and that if you have a problem with some individuals, they should be addressed personally, and that making a thread about it is just trolling. But do you.
I feel I have explained very explicitly why I perceive bigotry in your posts in this thread, but I will try to be clearer. I believe your dissociation from my accusaton is natural, and understandable. Most people believe themselves to be good people, and believe bigots to be bad people. I believe most people have prejudices and that those come in varying degrees. You have demonstrated bias against women by blindly tarnishing all women as a group with what you perceive to be bad behavior from a few, and by assuming that what bad behavior you've observed is unjust and needs your correction. You compound this attitude by continuously posting in a manner which is both condescending and paternalistic to women who are not your daughters, nor your employees, nor under any other form of your authority. I'm not saying you hate all womankind. I'm just saying you've been a bigot whose form of bigotry is misogyny. I appreciate that you are learning from this experience, and changing your language, and will try to be more considerate in the future. From one individual to another, that is all which can be asked. I still find it dubious that sweeping overgeneralising wasn't your intent because of the words you consistently chose, and the points you decided to make, but at this point, it's almost semantics, and not worth arguing about. I know your assertion, you know mine, and we'll have to agree to disagree. Before I let it go on my end though, I want to point out that not once did I use the location of your post to make any points, merely the specific words you chose, and the glaring fact that you haven't asked the same question of the men who engage in questionable behavior on the site.
Oh. And I'll PM you later with some easy-to-find references from men here calling out what they perceive as misandry. That you claim to have never seen this is surprising to me.
I'm a grown woman. You aren't my parent. I resent that you're sitting here telling me (as part of a group) what to do. It doesn't matter how nicely you try to put it. You feel there is only one way to post. "Helpfully". Others disagree. Your presentation of your opinion is condescending and paternalistic. Is that helpful? Aren't you just asking others to do something you're unwilling to do? (i.e., Be helpful and ignore posts you don't like.) Kinda like when my unmarried parents suggested I save my virginity for marriage, and my morbidly obese relatives complained about how much I ate during growth spurts.
Alright. You think people should only say topical, helpful things, and that those who live outside your view are bitches. Some people agree with you. Some people don't. I don't. I think people are people, and that if you have a problem with some individuals, they should be addressed personally, and that making a thread about it is just trolling. But do you.