helgaleena
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It might be best to read the book by Bettina Arndt because this isn't the case at all. I'm actually involved in a related project which is measuring the testosterone levels of women of many racial backgrounds to provide a clue as to why low female sex drive is common in some cultures and not others. There's a clue.
Bettina Arndt is a good researcher with good sex therapy backgrounds, and if it was as simple as a man helping out around the home, doing more babysitting or whatever, she would have found it. Unfortunately, it isn't. A few examples were mothers who had ample time for the gym, going out for lunch with their girlfriends, spending hours at their spa, but were unable to manage the effort of half an hours sex with their husbands! And this was in spite of what their husbands did or didn't do around the house (it made little difference to marital sex frequency).
I didn't mean to imply doing the housework was the 'ways'; I was thinking more of bedroom techniques and nutritional supplements. The example you give, cbrmale, is of women who didn't want the sex and therefore didn't encourage more of it just because they had the opportunity.
Sex is a two way street and a woman who doesn't want to go halfway is not going to meet her partner in the middle, no matter what. Shame on so many men And women who think that their own sexual frequency is somehow the 'correct' one, and that their partner is wrong to have differing levels.