Why women's opinion on penis size is skewed and what can we do to improve this

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I can't be arsed with this, it's tedious. Your speculation doesn't trump my first hand knowledge.

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How do you explain the fetish for large cock in the gay community? I see you limiting things to women around here.

Also, I can't tell you how many men have posed the question of how to get their women to 1) tell them they are useless because their cock isn't big enough 2) get their woman to sleep with a bigger cocked guy even though she doesn't want to 3) have a large penis already that can't fully penetrate a woman and yet they still want to add inches to their dick. It makes no difference to them whether they have a practical dick that can please a woman. All they care about is if they can finally get to 12 inches on a ruler. I also can't tell you how many men post around here about how big their flaccid size is. Do you think women care about flaccid cock size? Well, we don't. A limp dick is not useful to us. But it's useful to impress other men. Especially in the gym locker room.

Go around a gym and see how many chicks are checking out the dudes packages and then go in the men's locker room and see who is strutting their stuff to look like the biggest stud in the room. Men fear being considered small by other men than they do women. Also note that women aren't as concerned about ball size, how big a cum shot is, how far it goes as men are.

For every example of a woman showing a preference of large size, I can show you 100 men who worry more about it (they cross all orientations). A gay man has bigger shoes to fill than a straight man does. There are more male size queens than female. And they often can fit more inside of them to warrant being so.

When I see penis enlargement apparatuses and pills that are supposed to enhance size, I just laugh and I can't believe so many men are so gullible.

Men start comparing sizes from childhood on up. Hell, look at how penis size became the topic in the Republican presidential debates between 2 childish men.

Men are the ones sizing each other up. Most of us women are just looking for a gentleman. If he has a big cock then that's a cherry on top.
 

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I don't really want to upset you again today, so I'm just pointing out in a clear, concise and direct way, that stereotyping of this sort is, well, stereotyping.
Good thing I said generally. Definitely good thing I didn't say all.
Also, grow up. Your behavior is both immature and creepy.
It's quite evident now. As this thread is unrelated to whatever thread set you off, originally. Clearly you hold things against others.
I've disagreed with others in the past(still do), I've had misunderstandings with others...but we all move on.
Though evidently not you. Since I was mistaken once about your level of maturity/lack there of. I will err on the side of caution and simply nip it in the bud.
I'm blocking you. Have fun :)
 

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All these studies, researches, resources wasted about finding the average penis size, all this information. DO we have so many studies on boobs size? No, because they are not that important, that's simply the truth. How can you even say it's not important and it doesn't matter with all these facts present.....Guys are obsessing about it for a reason....

Guys obsess about it because it's important, but it's not important for the reasons you think.

Penis size is important for sex, but like the women here are telling you, it's not everything. Now, that's mostly due to the anti-size conspiracy, but still it's not all that matters sexually. Penis size is important for its non-sexual uses, like as a source of moral authority or intimidation.
 

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Most of us women are just looking for a gentleman. If he has a big cock then that's a cherry on top.

Thank you for the entire reply, the first non hateful constructive comment in the topic, which helps in the discussion, thank you for this.
So, see :D lol, why having a big cock is a cherry on the top and average cock is not a cherry? Tell me please? I'm all ears haha :) Coz of these expressions men want to be bigger. Everyone wants to be the cherry on top with a big penis, you just said it yourself.
 

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We keep telling you, you're great. We like you the way you are. Couldn't give a shit about numbers. I've never even thought about penis size except when it hurt when it was too big and one time with a micro penis. Never measured.

I don't expect you to answer, because this isn't your issue but holy crap - some men really want women to take responsibility for making them feel better about their dicks. Well sorry, but not going to happen. I don't expect men to make me feel good about my vagina, tits, ass, hair, face or any other body part. If you don't like it, don't fuck it. And I especially don't need validation from strangers.

So the OP trying to get women to standardize some kind of response to size is ridiculous. It reveals some kind of deep seated insecurity about his body. Now whether his mommy made him feel bad, or he had a bad girlfriend or he watches too much porn is between him and his therapist. Regardless, it isn't up to the rest of the women of the Internet world to "reveal the truth" about size. Because it doesn't matter.
I think the only way to really help it is a few things.


We (people in general) Change the way we speak.
Be more open about what we like, not just on the internet but in real life.
Better education, not for just sex organs but actually for sex itself.
Healthier views on sex. Less like pokemon (be the best there ever was) and more why you played pokemon (because it is fun) Obviously other things but that is a big driver.
Basically want to foster a positive environment for sexual beings rather than a stifling one. For all genders.

It won't eradicate the insecurity but I think it would definitely cut it right at the knees.
 

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Thank you for the entire reply, the first non hateful constructive comment in the topic, which helps in the discussion, thank you for this.
So, see :D lol, why having a big cock is a cherry on the top and average cock is not a cherry? Tell me please? I'm all ears haha :) Coz of these expressions men want to be bigger. Everyone wants to be the cherry on top with a big penis, you just said it yourself.

For guys who like long hair, having a great partner who happens to have long hair is the bonus. Does this mean he wouldn't accept her any other way? Some guys would reject her immediately if she had short hair. But there are plenty of guys who wouldn't see it as a hindrance. He can still run his fingers through her medium length hair and not feel sad that her hair isn't to her butt. Same goes for women, she might like a bigger dick but when she sees the guy who meets all of her other criteria she can be quite happy. This doesn't mean every time she has sex with him she is dreaming of big dick or thinking less of you.

Sure, everyone wants to be the cherry on top. But to someone you are the cherry on top for them. It might not be in the penis department, but maybe you are great to talk to and are a good listener. That's more important than dick size and it's something you can learn to do.
 

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For guys who like long hair, having a great partner who happens to have long hair is the bonus. Does this mean he wouldn't accept her any other way? Some guys would reject her immediately if she had short hair. But there are plenty of guys who wouldn't see it as a hindrance. He can still run his fingers through her medium length hair and not feel sad that her hair isn't to her butt. Same goes for women, she might like a bigger dick but when she sees the guy who meets all of her other criteria she can be quite happy. This doesn't mean every time she has sex with him she is dreaming of big dick or thinking less of you.

Sure, everyone wants to be the cherry on top. But to someone you are the cherry on top for them. It might not be in the penis department, but maybe you are great to talk to and are a good listener. That's more important than dick size and it's something you can learn to do.
Don't forget the best part.
They may begin to appreciate things about B despite preferring B.. OR EVEN come to find they like B over A entirely, when before they thought they preferred A.

I agree with everything you said. I also liked how you put it.
 

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Any thoughts on this...

You know how there's hunters who put out candy bars and then sit back and wait for the bears to come get it and shoot them?

That's my thoughts on this thread, except instead of bears, it's misogynists and the pathologically insecure. I can already see the usual idiots lumbering out of the woods to add their 2 cents. And they don't even know they've been shot! So much carnage!
 

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A big cock is NOT the cherry on top for me. Too ouchie. I'll accommodate for the guy I like, though.

As to penis enlargement stuff? That's to make men feel better. At least that's what I always assumed. It sure doesn't seem to be for women. Some of that stuff takes a perfectly nice penis and deforms it.

And yes, sometimes women say stupid things to men. Men say stupid things to women. "You have a small dick" "I slept with your hot cousin" "I set your underwear on fire in the front yard". Yada yada. Breaking up is hard to do.
 

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You know how there's hunters who put out candy bars and then sit back and wait for the bears to come get it and shoot them?

That's my thoughts on this thread, except instead of bears, it's misogynists and the pathologically insecure. I can already see the usual idiots lumbering out of the woods to add their 2 cents. And they don't even know they've been shot! So much carnage!
Have I been shot? :eek: Or am I a candy bar?
 

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The only one obsessed about penis size in a relationship, or here or in chat are.........guys.
If Men could pick the size their penis would be for the rest of their Lifes, they'd probably pick something like 15 inches, or even 20.
Even if that meant they could never have successful penetrative sex with a woman again, they'd be happy as long as they were the biggest this woman has ever had (or tried).
 

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And don't tell me, coz it matters only for men not for women....

Yes, that is largely the case, and @Tattooed Goddess did an excellent job of explaining how. For every time I've heard one women mentioning penis size, I've hear a thousand men mention it. And that probably doesn't even cut it. Your misunderstanding of things is completely out of proportions if you think men are using several hours each day pulling on their dicks in the hope that it'll make it halt an inch longer because this is something women actually want. They may think it's something that women want, and there may be some women that want it, but come on man... I wonder how many potential bonds between people have never been made because the dude that could have made that connection was sitting at home worrying about penis size. How many meaningful connections never saw the light of day because some dude had made a meaningless connection with a ruler at home. How much great sex was never had because so many dudes were popping placebos and tugging on their wiener in the hope that one day they could have great sex.

This forum can be so ridiculous.
 

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The only one obsessed about penis size in a relationship, or here or in chat are.........guys.
If Men could pick the size their penis would be for the rest of their Lifes, they'd probably pick something like 15 inches, or even 20.
Even if that meant they could never have successful penetrative sex with a woman again, they'd be happy as long as they were the biggest this woman has ever had (or tried).

Damn straight. I would love to have a 20" dick. That would be amazing. I don't care if I could never use it for intercourse or even if getting it hard was life threatening, it would be worth it just to feel the power.
 

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And for every 5 inch dude who feels inadequate there is a 4 inch dude having the sex of his life. I belong to a sex dungeon and I have yet to see a very big cock in there and trust me there is no shortage of people waiting in line to give a balding, older fella with 4 inch penis a suck and fuck. I am not bashing guys who look that way, I'm simply making the point that you don't have to look like a model with a big dick to get some action. Women are drawn to confidence just as men are drawn to a woman with confidence about her body. Every smaller guy I've been with let me pull down his pants without making any apologies. That's the way it should be.
 

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Different folks, different strokes. Penis size isn't even close to the most important aspect of sex - for women. For men, it matters - for women, not so much.

The only way you will learn is by getting laid by many different women, which is unlikely to happen given their reaction to you.

Oh, you can go above/below the cervix if you are long enough and she is comfortable enough:rolleyes: so that would be an 11 on your scale.

Sex is not about numbers for women, except how attractive you are to her(1-10). And of course, how much money you have $$$ lol. This subject seems sort of like a joke to me but maybe it is because I am extremely hung.

Small penis guys worried about having a small penis probably have bigger things to worry about but are avoiding thinking about those bigger things by thinking about their penis. They marginalize their own inadequacy by blaming their penis. Let them have their funo_O

A big penis is a novelty to most women, not part of their sexual lifestyle.

Do the numbers yourself, it is all made up anyway. Leave the numbers to the men doing real things.
 
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How do you explain the fetish for large cock in the gay community? I see you limiting things to women around here.

Also, I can't tell you how many men have posed the question of how to get their women to 1) tell them they are useless because their cock isn't big enough 2) get their woman to sleep with a bigger cocked guy even though she doesn't want to 3) have a large penis already that can't fully penetrate a woman and yet they still want to add inches to their dick. It makes no difference to them whether they have a practical dick that can please a woman. All they care about is if they can finally get to 12 inches on a ruler. I also can't tell you how many men post around here about how big their flaccid size is. Do you think women care about flaccid cock size? Well, we don't. A limp dick is not useful to us. But it's useful to impress other men. Especially in the gym locker room.

Go around a gym and see how many chicks are checking out the dudes packages and then go in the men's locker room and see who is strutting their stuff to look like the biggest stud in the room. Men fear being considered small by other men than they do women. Also note that women aren't as concerned about ball size, how big a cum shot is, how far it goes as men are.

For every example of a woman showing a preference of large size, I can show you 100 men who worry more about it (they cross all orientations). A gay man has bigger shoes to fill than a straight man does. There are more male size queens than female. And they often can fit more inside of them to warrant being so.

When I see penis enlargement apparatuses and pills that are supposed to enhance size, I just laugh and I can't believe so many men are so gullible.

Men start comparing sizes from childhood on up. Hell, look at how penis size became the topic in the Republican presidential debates between 2 childish men.

Men are the ones sizing each other up. Most of us women are just looking for a gentleman. If he has a big cock then that's a cherry on top.
Best answer I've heard here in years!