why would guys be ok with finding their girl in bed with another girl?

[the_1homie]

im a guy and this is something i dont understand, why guys are ok with the idea of their girl cheating as long as its with a girl? is anyone forgetting infidelity is infedelity and that it would be the same if it was a guy maybe its the fantasy of the lesbian gf or the threesome but it doesnt do it for me or maybe its just me any thoughts?

 

[Principessa]

im a guy and this is something i dont understand, why guys are ok with the idea of their girl cheating as long as its with a girl? is anyone forgetting infidelity is infidelity and that it would be the same if it was a guy maybe its the fantasy of the lesbian gf or the threesome but it doesnt do it for me or maybe its just me any thoughts?

It's the fantasy of the lesbian girlfriend and the possibility of a 3some.

FWIW: Women do not have the same fantasy about their boyfriends. We may fantasize about a MFM 3way; but if we come home and he's in bed with a guy most of us are not thinking, "Oh goody! This is my dream come true!"

 

[B_henry miller]

It has to do with a sexist double standard. Women do not have as much societal status as men, so fucking around with another woman isn't a slight to the man's reputation as a man. But fucking around with another man may be interpreted as saying that the boyfriend isn't man enough.

 

[Principessa]

It has to do with a sexist double standard. Women do not have as much societal status as men, so fucking around with another woman isn't a slight to the man's reputation as a man. :biggrin1: But fucking around with another man may be interpreted as saying that the boyfriend isn't man enough.

That's an interesting theory; but I totally disagree.

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

Men can see another man as a direct challenge to their masculinity, as women don't have masculinity this sort of 'territorial' challenge isn't present when they're with a woman.

 

[No_Strings]

I personally wouldn't be okay with it at all. Cheating is cheating, be it man, woman or animal.
I'm surprised that catching a partner with another women wouldn't be wrose, because it may then raise questions of her sexuality and her interest, or lack thereof, in you the man.

 

[camper joe]

I doubt many men would be ok with it in real life.

 

[B_DEATHbyCARROT]

The whole "cheating is cheating" idea ignores the fact that cheating has different meanings for different individuals. If the rules allow for sex with others then you can't be breaking the rules by having sex with others.

I have heard some women say they think looking at porn or getting a lapdance is cheating, but others will bring a woman home and watch their men have sex with someone else.

And my gf sleeping with a girl is totally different from her sleeping wth a man. Another man is a replacement for me whereas a woman is not.

 

[Principessa]

The whole "cheating is cheating" idea ignores the fact that cheating has different meanings for different individuals. If the rules allow for sex with others then you can't be breaking the rules by having sex with others. WTF?!?

I have heard some women say they think looking at porn or getting a lapdance is cheating, but others will bring a woman home and watch their men have sex with someone else. I think these people are few and far between. And my gf sleeping with a girl is totally different from her sleeping wth a man. Another man is a replacement for me whereas a woman is not.

That's what you think. There are plenty of men, some on this board, who have lost their straight girl friend to another woman. The man was in effect replaced by someone better. :biggrin1:

I doubt many men would be ok with it in real life.

I would hope not; but you never know these days.

 

[sortofbigthen]

They wouldn't ne "ok" with it - they just like the fantasy, the same as some men like the fantasy of a guy screwing their wife.

Like the hoardes of photoshopped penises or guys synthesising a female voice here, it's a fantasy expressed on the internet and has very little bearing on reality.

 

[dreamer20]

why would guys be ok with finding their girl in bed with another girl?

I'm a guy and this is something I don't understand...

This is about your mother, isn't it?:wink:

http://www.lpsg.org/1076547-post18.html


:biggrin1:

 

[Principessa]

This is about your mother, isn't it?:wink:

http://www.lpsg.org/1076547-post18.html


:biggrin1:

I noticed that and thought the same as well.

 

[RandyL]

If I found my girlfriend in bed with another man I'd be seriously pissed, but if she was with another woman, I'd be thinking "do I get to fuck your friend also?".

Maybe that's just me.

 

[TheRob]

it's hard to explain
I say I would be ok with it but I say that as a single guy
if I had a gf I loved then the fact that she was in bed with another woman would probubly hurt me emotionally
but since she's with another woman it wouldn't hurt as bad as her wnating another man
cus it's just, different
besides if she's getting another woman she can't bitch if I want a little to !
or to watch ;o)

 

[TheRob]

Men can see another man as a direct challenge to their masculinity, as women don't have masculinity this sort of 'territorial' challenge isn't present when they're with a woman.

in a way that's similar to what I was saying
still some emotional problems there, but it's not like the guy has any failing there
even tho when someone cheats that is THIER failing not the partners problem, it never feels quite like that at first

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

im a guy and this is something i dont understand, why guys are ok with the idea of their girl cheating as long as its with a girl?

I'm definitely not okay with this, unless it's okay for me to be with other girls, too. But then it's not cheating.

 

[B_DEATHbyCARROT]

If the rules allow for sex with others then you can't be breaking the rules by having sex with others. WTF?!?

...but others will bring a woman home and watch their men have sex with someone else. I think these people are few and far between.

That's what you think. There are plenty of men, some on this board, who have lost their straight girl friend to another woman. The man was in effect replaced by someone better. :biggrin1:

I'll explain the rules idea: There are rules that a couple agrees to when in a relationship. Most couples accept the standard set of rules as laid down by their society. But if a couple decides their own rules that they are more comfortable with, then the definition of cheating changes along with the rules they have. Cheating isnt cheating unless it's a betrayal and sleeping with someone else isnt a betrayal if it is allowed (or even encouraged).

The idea that people are who will bring in a third partner are rare is undeniable, but does not mean my point is any less true and still illustrates what I said above. Using my own relationship as an example, my gf is open to bringing another girl in. And I have been fair and brought another man in for her.

You are correct in that a woman can absolutely replace a man as a partner in a relationship. I was referring to the way I feel about women sexually. I am not threatened by them in the least.

 

[D_Marvin Meatthistle]

I doubt many men would be ok with it in real life.

Nail. Head. Some man may have fantasies about a 3-some, but the reality of it it most would not be happy at all finding the girlfriend in bed with another woman. The key thing in my opinion is that they are in bed together, just the two of them and the chances are they weren't going to be waiting for you to get the party started! I think a lot of men would very extremely emasculated, possibly more so than if they had caught their girlfriend with another man.

 

[B_frank969]

I'm ok with it either way, I would love to find my gal in bed blowing another guy, or getting fucked by a girl with a strap-on