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sometimes i jsut wonder why less handsome and intelegent guys are more lucky on relathionships and with the opposite sex...

Don`t get it...who objectively judges the handsomeness and intelligence in other men? You? According to what chart? Judging by what standards?

All your thoughts are totally subjective therefore your question should be sounding more towards "how come that girls I find attractive/funny/sweet and would like their attention/relationship with are with men who IN MY OPINION are less handsome and less intelligent than me..."

So in general...you can simply ask..."how come other people have more luck in their relationships than me"...cos your subjective view of their looks or mind are totally irrelevant...
 

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I only date dudes who use spell check. True story. Also, whenever I have dated guys with lots of visible muscle definition I chose them thinking they would be good influences on me. I figured they were into health and fitness, and would not derail my own goals. I chose them because I wanted the female version of their bodies. Each one I dated, however, always wanted to keep me fat. They would feed me. They all had to go! Ever since the last time, I am generally suspicious of extremely fit-looking guys who express any sexual interest in me. Lastly, I always think the guy on my arm is the best-looking, most charming, funniest, and brightest in the room. Maybe other guys look at him and disagree, but it doesn't matter since I'm the one taking him home.
 

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its due to the many insecurities of women.

a female rather have an average or below average dude because they believe that dude won't cheat due to not having pussy thrown at him. same goes for someone who isn't very intelligent. intelligence is somewhat tied to money. the smarter you are, the better job you have, the more money you get. when you're rich...women throw pussy at you. i have a few friends who aren't so handsome or intelligent and they are either dating or married to some really cute or hot smart chicks.

i see a lot of hot females with below average dudes these days and i always say to myself "damn........she can do better".

I'm no adonis but i take great care of my body, have been told multiple times that i'm a pretty handsome dude, and am a college educated and working professional and I feel i'm more so seen as a sex experimentation, one night stand, or fuck buddy. women seem to not trust me when it comes to relationships or being serious. people only see the exterior and believe everything else is empty and theres no personality, theres no knowledge of the world, and the only thing you care about is yourself. but oh well, i'm 24 and don't mind being a casanova for a while.

You don't mention attitude in your post...

Have you maybe stopped to consider that your less attractive, less intelligent friends are getting more attractive, more intelligent women who stick around than you do because they simply have better attitudes than you do?

Evidence:

They're married/in a relationship
They aren't here posting about women throwing pussy around
They aren't here posting that women are only out for the safe option
They aren't here posting that we're intimidated by money, good looks or intelligence.
They aren't here posting about how much better they are in the looks/intelligence department than all their friends

Nah, silly me, couldn't be that could it.

Side note: When posting about your college education, and your professional working life in an attempt to elevate yourself textually above those you're describing, it is best to use correct capitalization, else it only adds to my reading of your post, that the reason you don't get what your friends have is because you're unjustly arrogant and this oozes out of every pore of your being.
 

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a cheesy stereotype of a poser with a shitty attitude to women will never be as attractive as his funny, kind hearted friend.
 

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I see two guys: one acts as if he's looking in a mirror all of the time, making sure his hair is perfect, shirt is smooth, teeth are shining. The other guy is making everyone at the table laugh. Guess which one I want to hang with?

Seriously, we know guys are going for the looks, but that doesn't mean we are. And your face is not going to do it for me. I like the complete package, but personality comes absolutely first. I may look at your bum and immediately look for an attraction. But if it's nothing more than bum then it's just not going to work out. OK?

Perfect hair. Wow. More perfect than mine. That equals high maintenance, and Darling, I just don't have time for you to be in the shop.

I don't want to generalize and tell you all women think like me because I know there are some who like the pretty boys.
 

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You said you were handsome and intelligent; that is one opinion. It may not be the consensus.
 

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being physically attractive is less important when it comes to attracting women, women aren't nearly as visual than men are .. what attracts women is depended more heavily on the guys personality and the way he acts and how confident he is etc.

I agree with this totally. I only deal with men who are affectionate and act like gentlemen that knows how to treat me like a lady. In the past, I have been insanely attracted to men who were not so good looking but because they treated me well they turned me on more than very good looking men who did not have those qualities. I lucked out with my current boyfriend, he has an A+ face, body, dick and he treats me like a queen! His parents are still together and his father treats his mother well so I credit his parents for putting out such a good man into the world!
 

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sometimes i jsut wonder why less handsome and intelegent guys are more lucky on relathionships and with the opposite sex...


Based upon analysis of personal ads and online dating sites, Folks generally have a pretty accurate idea of their own attractiveness, and generally do not seek mating opportunities with people they consider out of their league.

Men, for example, generally assume that super attractive females ( or, if gay, males ) already are taken, or that they will have an attitude and shoot them down for not being attractive enough.

There are far more average looking people than super attractive people, the majority of whom will likely have this bias.

As a result... highly attractive people get less offers than average looking people... although the offers they do get will tend to be from people who are more attractive, or who have higher self confidence than the average.


Finally... people do assess what they have to offer and what they can reasonably expect to demand in a mate... people who are highly attractive will tend to decline offers from people who they think do not bring enough of what they want to the table...

Ergo, the most successful strategy is to approach those people who seem to be on a par with your own level of attractiveness, regardless of that level.

Average people who try for other average people will succeed more often than average people who try for the super attractive.



As to intelligence...
Intelligence is a tricky thing. It is not necessarily correlated with success in life. The entire idea of nerds and geeks being called that is that their intelligence gets in the way of normal social interaction...

However, it also factors in... Most people are average in smarts. A guy whose idea of fun is discussing recent developments in physics is not going to be all that attractive to a girl whose idea of fun is jello shots.

Because even geeks, as men, are visually driven... they might find the girl attractive... even tho she has little to offer intellectually.

By the same token, a woman with brains might find a muscly jock sexy... but does she want to wake up with him in the morning to find there is nothing in there to which she can relate ?


As with other areas... the greatest success will be when intelligent people look for similarly smart people.



Where disparities accrue is in odd matches... like a very successful, but ugly guy, getting a very beautiful... but stupid woman.

But in these cases, its just a matter of each understanding that they have a particular strength which can buy them something they want in a mate.
The woman wants security... the man want desirability. And neither really cares if they can relate on a deeper level.


So the answer is that love is still an economy. And the marketplace of desire is just as brutal and competitive as any other kind of marketplace.