sometimes i jsut wonder why less handsome and intelegent guys are more lucky on relathionships and with the opposite sex...
Based upon analysis of personal ads and online dating sites, Folks generally have a pretty accurate idea of their own attractiveness, and generally do not seek mating opportunities with people they consider out of their league.
Men, for example, generally assume that super attractive females ( or, if gay, males ) already are taken, or that they will have an attitude and shoot them down for not being attractive enough.
There are far more average looking people than super attractive people, the majority of whom will likely have this bias.
As a result... highly attractive people get less offers than average looking people... although the offers they do get will tend to be from people who are more attractive, or who have higher self confidence than the average.
Finally... people do assess what they have to offer and what they can reasonably expect to demand in a mate... people who are highly attractive will tend to decline offers from people who they think do not bring enough of what they want to the table...
Ergo, the most successful strategy is to approach those people who seem to be on a par with your own level of attractiveness, regardless of that level.
Average people who try for other average people will succeed more often than average people who try for the super attractive.
As to intelligence...
Intelligence is a tricky thing. It is not necessarily correlated with success in life. The entire idea of nerds and geeks being called that is that their intelligence gets in the way of normal social interaction...
However, it also factors in... Most people are average in smarts. A guy whose idea of fun is discussing recent developments in physics is not going to be all that attractive to a girl whose idea of fun is jello shots.
Because even geeks, as men, are visually driven... they might find the girl attractive... even tho she has little to offer intellectually.
By the same token, a woman with brains might find a muscly jock sexy... but does she want to wake up with him in the morning to find there is nothing in there to which she can relate ?
As with other areas... the greatest success will be when intelligent people look for similarly smart people.
Where disparities accrue is in odd matches... like a very successful, but ugly guy, getting a very beautiful... but stupid woman.
But in these cases, its just a matter of each understanding that they have a particular strength which can buy them something they want in a mate.
The woman wants security... the man want desirability. And neither really cares if they can relate on a deeper level.
So the answer is that love is still an economy. And the marketplace of desire is just as brutal and competitive as any other kind of marketplace.