Hmmm. I'm wondering if there is a double-standard somehow in the posts on this thread. On the one hand it's: size doesn't matter, be happy with what you have, God loves variety, you'll probably find somebody eventually, all dicks that work are equally desirable, etc.
But I'm guessing that the same people who are expressing those views are really glad they lucked out. Clearly society, rightly or wrongly, reinforces the idea that bigger is better. There's not a single well-hung guy in LPSG who wishes he had a below-average dick and wants trade down in size. In all the zillions of posts about "problems" here of finding partners who can "take" you, or of being the topic of envy, or of finding condoms or clothes, etc., there's also a constant subtext of delight in your fantastic good luck in being large.
I'm not denigrating that at all -- it's perfectly natural and totally understandable.
The fact is, life's not fair. (Or, if you're a believer, God's not fair.) It's hard on anyone to be at the low end of the scale in anything that is central to self-esteem, such as physical attractiveness or perceived prowess.
Maybe it's OK, more respectful, to acknowledge that the other person's pain has a real basis rather than blaming him/her for feeling bad. But then again, since we can't change our genetic makeup and we can't change society's evaluations, maybe it's more respectful to lie, and keep affirming other qualities in totally unrelated areas that he can pretend make up for what pains him ["ok, so you're always the smallest guy in the locker room, but hey, you're good in Spanish."].
Just thinking out loud. The original question shouldn't be dismissed as self-pity. But I certainly don't know the answer.
But I'm guessing that the same people who are expressing those views are really glad they lucked out. Clearly society, rightly or wrongly, reinforces the idea that bigger is better. There's not a single well-hung guy in LPSG who wishes he had a below-average dick and wants trade down in size. In all the zillions of posts about "problems" here of finding partners who can "take" you, or of being the topic of envy, or of finding condoms or clothes, etc., there's also a constant subtext of delight in your fantastic good luck in being large.
I'm not denigrating that at all -- it's perfectly natural and totally understandable.
The fact is, life's not fair. (Or, if you're a believer, God's not fair.) It's hard on anyone to be at the low end of the scale in anything that is central to self-esteem, such as physical attractiveness or perceived prowess.
Maybe it's OK, more respectful, to acknowledge that the other person's pain has a real basis rather than blaming him/her for feeling bad. But then again, since we can't change our genetic makeup and we can't change society's evaluations, maybe it's more respectful to lie, and keep affirming other qualities in totally unrelated areas that he can pretend make up for what pains him ["ok, so you're always the smallest guy in the locker room, but hey, you're good in Spanish."].
Just thinking out loud. The original question shouldn't be dismissed as self-pity. But I certainly don't know the answer.