Wife Admited she wanted to Cheat!!

[galaxus]

You should try to work it out. I don't think she's cheated on you. She was honest about what she's feeling. You should appreciate that.

Do you really love her?
Do you want to make her happy?
Do you want to hurt hurt?
Does she want to do these things to you?

If your relationship is strong, then a cheap fuck won't put a dent in your relationship. And dude, you already cheated. What goes around comes around. Take karma's kick in the balls like a man.

 

[dolfette]

the whole ''divorce her and take the kids'' option is not only unrealistic but also nasty. it makes it sound like you'd take the kids as revenge.

i think you need to take a long, hard look at the kind of man you are.

 

[Incocknito]

Do we know how the husband found out? The OP says "got out of her" which suggests that she wasn't forthcoming.

If she told him then I suppose you might have a small argument...micro-argument for saying they should stay together.

But if the husband found out himself either by "snooping" or otherwise not directly from his wife then that shows that she is being deceptive.

From what has been said it sounds like the relationship is broken. The foundations are:

[marriage] [kids] [husband cheated on wife] [wife wants to cheat on husband]

Not the best foundations for a marriage/relationship. Now I suppose it's possible that the wife may "get over" the husband's infidelity. But I doubt it.

So now any time a man shows her attention or she has the opportunity to cheat, she also has the motivation (husband cheated) to cheat herself.

Her answer of "I don't know" when asked about whether she would still talk to other men/offer them sex shows that she is not 100% in the marriage.

You are not 100% in the marriage since you cheated and I guess if your wife is saying she's unhappy there are other areas where the two of you are failing to fulfil each other.

The problem is every day the husband is going to be thinking:

"Is she talking to other men/is she going to cheat on me/has she cheated on me"

And the wife is going to be thinking:

"He cheated on me! Maybe I should get him back...ooh look who just came online on MSN"

So you don't trust each other, you aren't happy and at least one of you is "talking" sexually to other people.

I think the husband can make up his own mind.

 

[D_SadWrens18]

Well she decided to stay were she belongs, Butsays its hard because she wanted to se what it was like to be with another man. But she sad she made her self sick when she thought the guy was gonna come over and she was possibly gonna have sex with him. I guess this guy is really violent and doesnt want kids, I said sounds like a bad person to try and leave with. I think it was in her head she was unhappy.

 

[dolfette]

you've told us what she decided to do, but what are you doing anything to try to fix things? her staying is great...for now. but how long will it last if her lot in life doesn't improve?

 

[HiddenLacey]

you've told us what she decided to do, but what are you doing anything to try to fix things? her staying is great...for now. but how long will it last if her lot in life doesn't improve?

IMO She's going to do the same thing again, if the relantionship isn't worked on by both parties.

 

[dreamer20]

I have cheated on my Wife 1 time, and I told her everything, And we worked past it for our two kids.
Shes been telling this guy she wants to have sex and give him head and thats about as muchas she would tell me. I asked she says shes unhappy, and I asked her why she said to get back at me from 2 and a half years ago. I asked her to stop talking to him since were still married and the kkids are almost 2 and 4 years old.
What should I do?...She just says shes un happy

Be fair Ladies and Gentlemen, he had one indiscretion and came clean.
The new guy lost his wife to another guy and now wants to come between this couple and their family. Why not point some venom at him?

Yet SAndrews hasn't come clean with wifey Drifterwood, and should not be casting any venom himself. Other than the indiscretion, in a post of June 29, 2009, SAndrews claimed his wife doesn't know he showed his dick to some girl in a parking lot, offered to show a soon- to - be divorcee his dick, she invited him to her home where he hopefully would take erotic pictures of her, show his dick and be sucked off by her, and he also wants to visit and get head from a former childhood chum. Bearing these "facts" in mind, he should never have posted this thread, but instead told wifey to go with the man, as what is good for the gander is also good for the goose IMO.

I have cheated on mt wife once.
...There is a Girl I used to work with who I offered to show my cock to before she got married, Now she is getting a divorce and has invited me Over....By the way she wants me to take pics of her I was thinking of trying get her to take some tight top and pants pics or some underwear pics...I wouldn't mind showing my cock to her maybe getting some head. Sounds like a good or bad Idea??

...My wife doesnt know ....that I showed the girl in the Parking Lot my dick, or offered to show another girl my dick. Or showed a girl sex positions!!!!) ( http://www.lpsg.org/123487-someone-cum-on-these-pics.html ) Girl that Got me Fired Pic

There is another Girl I know shes kinda of a friend, I showed her clothed sex positions when she was younger...she lives not to far from my parents house I thought about going over to ...try and get some head. Sound like a good or bad Idea??

 

[petite]

I was going to give my advice, but the Dolfette and L_egit already said everything I was going to say!

They've been the most insightful so far and are most likely on the mark. Letting him know about what's going on was a cry for help and it means that she wants to work it out instead of ending their relationship, and her husband is obviously oblivious with his declarations that she seems happy because she laughs and sucks his cock, even though she told him she wasn't, and that he's thinking of trying to take the kids away from her because she's thought about cheating. Thinking about cheating isn't tantamount to cheating. She hasn't actually done it.

I'd respond by trying to find out how to make both of you happier. She needs changes in her life, people to socialize with, friends, people she can trust and confide in. It sounds like the both of you need couples therapy.

Edit: Whoa! I just read what Dreamer20 posted! Wow! What a hypocrite! Okay, maybe his wife is just too good for him. Far too good for him!

 

[Drifterwood]

Yet SAndrews hasn't come clean with wifey Drifterwood, and should not be casting any venom himself. Other than the indiscretion, in a post of June 29, 2009, SAndrews claimed his wife doesn't know he showed his dick to some girl in a parking lot, offered to show a soon- to - be divorcee his dick, she invited him to her home where he hopefully would take erotic pictures of her, show his dick and be sucked off by her, and he also wants to visit and get head from a former childhood chum. Bearing these "facts" in mind, he should never have posted this thread, but instead told wifey to go with the man, as what is good for the gander is also good for the goose IMO.

Points taken :wink:

 

[hungthickone]

the whole ''divorce her and take the kids'' option is not only unrealistic but also nasty. it makes it sound like you'd take the kids as revenge.

i think you need to take a long, hard look at the kind of man you are.

Dolfette is right , it sounds like ur trying to hold her fidelity by ransoming the kids. Truth is you dodnt have any more rights to kids that her even if she cheated 100times

 

[B_crackoff]

It sounds like your marriage is F*cked.

Everyone who says what goes around comes around should remember that her cheating would let him be able to whine, bitch & moan at her for 2.5 years, before cheating on her again, & completing the circle.

Boredom, unrealised dreams & the need for excitement, destroy most relationships.

She'll always be able to throw that excuse on you. The counselling you went on was clearly a waste of time because at the end of it, she would not be allowed to bring up that past. She'll use that one as an excuse anytime she feels like it now. Lol.

I've dated married women in the past, & they'd throw up all kinds of bizarre reasons to justify their adultery; but they all seemed to be in a very happy state with me, & certainly weren't contemplating past spousal indiscretions, or failings at all!

You've both got trust issues now.

It's a modern phenomenom for couples to put their kids first above their relationship. IMO a big bloody mistake. Your best chance for this to work out in the long run is to both put time into re-getting to know each other, & having fun & excitement with each other, & putting your marriage first.

Otherwise is just a few more years of quiet desperation before the inevitable end.

 

[dolfette]

having read the links,
i hope she leaves you and never looks back.

 

[alx]

I would take this as a golden opportunity to sort things out properly, as obviously you never did actually sort things out like you believe.

Firstly, You cheated on your Wife. So if she did leave you and take the kid I don't blame her.

However you have two kids 2&4yrs. You've got to think about them above everything else.
Even if both of you, or even your wife felt unhappy about your relationship. Atleast try and keep it going, unless theres just constant abuse in all directions.

If I were you I would have a MAJOR rethink of your whole way of life. Its obviously not working for the both of you.
She has no friend and feels alone, Why not both start an new hobby together. Or both find something that interests you both.

Go out, do something different, go on holiday. Dont just sit on your arse and ride the rollacoster out because you'll end up with her leaving you.

In a way this is your chance to change things for the better.

This is the future of your kids.

My dad cheated on my Mum and left home when I was 6yrs, my Mum remarried then she cheated on my Step-Dad and divorced when I was 16yrs. Now my Mum is remarrying next month.

Whilst I have learnt ALOT from being stuck in the middle of all this, I wouldn't change anything as it's pretty much made me into who I am today.
All I can say is that it would be a lot better for kids to be able to just live in a normal family so make sure you work this one out.

 

[cannycrumpet]

good sex in the future if u want my opinion say hell yeh can i join in

your wife wants tied up and fucked all over we all do ?????


tell her yeh just do it belive me she will enjoy it so will u :biggrin1:

 

[cannycrumpet]

she just wants a good shag give her it and get it over with ? are men stupid derrrrrrr

women are born to breed i love it ????????????/

 

[dolfette]

she just wants a good shag give her it and get it over with ? are men stupid derrrrrrr

women are born to breed i love it ????????????/

she has no friends, a cheat of a husband, domineering parents, two young children and you think the cure for all her problems is a hump.

i feel very sorry for you.

again.

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

she has no friends, a cheat of a husband, domineering parents, two young children and you think the cure for all her problems is a hump.

i feel very sorry for you.

again.

I'm inclined to agree re: the OP's wife.

Though CC did bang her own cousin so any advice from her is always going to be stupid IMO

 

[HorsemanUK]

Sounds like she wants to talk to a guy and wants to cheat to get you back for what you did. As you said she dont have many freinds well I dont know why but why choose to deliberatly befreind a guy. I think its clear she has plans to cheat to get you back. Id suggest that you tell her to make freinds with women and not guys and if she is planning on a revenge cheat you may aswell divorce as she obviously cant forgive truly what you did without getting you back once.

 

[D_SadWrens18]

Well she decided to stay were she belongs, Butsays its hard because she wanted to se what it was like to be with another man. But she sad she made her self sick when she thought the guy was gonna come over and she was possibly gonna have sex with him. I guess this guy is really violent and doesnt want kids, I said sounds like a bad person to try and leave with. I think it was in her head she was unhappy.

Well see I guess this guy got her all worked up and she had him coming over with our kids in the house, and I guess he was only coming for sex. she thought he was still the same guy from highschool. That and after she said she told me he stopped and got really angry. That and she made herself sick becuasse she thought the guy was gonna come over and she was worried she might have sex with him.

Anyways she told me it was basically revenge, and she wanted to see what another guy felt like. Since I was with another woman. (3 and half years ago). But I Never had sex in our house, and she was going to with my kids in the house.

But she says shes curious what another guy feels like, She's looking at pornstar dildos. She said she still feels tempted to want sex with that guy.I ws just joking about have another guy come over while I was home and screw her, and she really didnt say anyhting. That scared me becasuse we dont have a open marriage and we little kids. And Im sure other people think its a bad I dea too??
That and Im not into all that. It was just wierd becasuse she said i probably wouldn't and stuff not if I didnt know them, Thats whats scared me. Shes not normally like that at all she usually real quite ,makes wierd jokes, and act sheltered allot. I mean were in a marriage with tons of parental interference from her parents they tell her somthing she listens to them but not me.

 

[luka82]

OMG! I was gonna say make a poll!
But the OP beat me to it!