Thanks all! I really appreciate your responses
A couple of you said that you have to respect her.... what are some things that would establish respect? For me, I think that if I jump into bed straight away with a guy (if I’m trying to pursue more) that I’m not really respecting myself and he won’t respect me either. But maybe that’s not the case? I used to not care and would sleep with a guy whenever but it never really had a good outcome...
Hi,
This might be very individual.
For example:
Apart from other things, a woman earns my respect if she is independent, capable, not relying on others, if she is trying to move forward with her life, learning new skills, etc.....
I totally disrespect anyone (men or women) who is happy with their miserable lives, living from one day to another without any desire to be better.
Regarding your question about jumping to bed straight away and you perceiving it as "not respecting yourself".
I just disagree. Sex makes us feel good.
If you make yourself feeling good it's not a sign that you don't respect yourself.
It is a sign that you are a healthy human being.
You asked what is a wife material.
I can tell what a wife material is not (to me):
Woman sexualy inhibited by "third parties". With that I mean anyone but herself.
I perceive such women as slaves of other people's opinions. Not attractive.
It shows mental weakness. I personally do not want to have a child with a woman who is mentally weak.
Therefore, if a woman wants to have sex and she does it because it makes her feel good, then that is a woman for me. Mentally independent and free. Hot.
I have kind of lost respect to a female friend of mine who is unhappy and sexually unsatisfied in her marriage and instead of doing something about it, she just prefers remaining unhappy.
She doesn't cheat on her husband although she can. She said that on her holiday she is going to do it so I brought her some condoms - but eventually she didnt do anything.
She has a mental block that prevents her from feeling happy and satisfied. How low is that.
I cannot stop myself from perceiving that as a subhuman way of thinking and living.
So, apart from other things that I have described in my previous post, my wife will also have to be sexualy uninhibited. Common terms used for such women are: slut, easy, whore, etc.
Examples of true feminine independence.
That is a wife material for me.