Wife prefers a smaller penis, or slower sex.

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With all sympathy for him and the issues you dealt with, that part was kinda funny. Reminds me of the table I set up for my cat so she can stare at the bird feeder. :biggrin1:

Crunch

Did I make it sound like a country drive to admire the landscape? :chairfall:

It is a very nice view. :biggrin1:
 

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Ummmmm...noticed ya didn't mention ML and Petite's hormones may be off suggestion.

yeah.. ignore any feedback that requires a change in his behavior.

That doesn't make any sense. Wanting sex to be enjoyable isn't prudish.

new porn standard. no matter what is done to the vagina the only acceptable response from a sexually liberate woman is squirting orgasm. like, 8 or more squirting orgasms. without messing up her eye makeup.
:rolleyes:

anything less.. like, say, limits. preferences. self preservation. distaste. dignity. = total prude. practically frigid.

Sounds like it could be a hormone issue if she is experiencing more difficulties now than she used to.

could also be an infection... another reason to check into with a medical professional :yup:
 

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^Well, I'm not making it up, its definitely not 12 inches tho, that's ridiculous, haha

Thanks for the posts guys. I think different sex positions might help and I should probably work on lengthening foreplay as well. Lube might also come in handy. What's a good lube? haven't really used any before.

7.5-8 on a good day according to you.
I have a 7.5 to 8 inch penis on a good day
 

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yeah.. ignore any feedback that requires a change in his behavior.

I'm realizing now that he seems to be asking how to make his wife to like it hard and fast so he can give it to her hard and fast. The final answer may be, "take it slow." I told TheBF about this thread and he said, "It's not hard to figure out. Slow down! Unless you want your wife to stop having sex with you."

new porn standard. no matter what is done to the vagina the only acceptable response from a sexually liberate woman is squirting orgasm. like, 8 or more squirting orgasms. without messing up her eye makeup.
:rolleyes:

anything less.. like, say, limits. preferences. self preservation. distaste. dignity. = total prude. practically frigid.

:confused:

See, all that... I would consider that behavior the hallmark of an unenlightened and unliberated woman. "Lie there and take it" sounds like what women used to be expected to do before the women's liberation movement, that we're just supposed to be these passive receptacles and our pleasure during sex doesn't matter, just his.

I feel disturbed now. Surely there will be a backlash when women get tired of the expectations?

could also be an infection... another reason to check into with a medical professional :yup:

It's possible.
 

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Well the pics sure look a lot bigger than that! (imo)

I dont add 2 inches to my dick like half the people on the site. That's what an eight incher looks like, might surprise you after seeing a bunch of guys with 6 inches claiming to be eight. This site is hilariously warped.
 

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So dude... I would suggest that you managed to put your wife off sex by
1) Although you say you want her to enjoy it, you never really took time to understand what it takes to really make her enjoy it
2) Thinking that what you see in porn has anything to do with what MOST women need in the way of fucking
3) (sorry to say it) being circumcised and being with a woman who cannot bare to be pounded.

1 - TALK to her and find out what feels good and what doesn't. I mean before, after and during your sex. Experiment with foreplay. Before you fuck lick her to an orgasm or two. Open her with your fingers (GENTLY at first) get her really hot, and open, and wet. During foreplay and fucking, find out what really makes her feel good. You don't have to go way deep at first. Make shorter, shallower strokes and see if she likes that.

2- Porn is not a model for you. Most women hurt when they are pounded. Most women want much more foreplay than you see in porn. Most women need much more prep for a big cock. Forget the porn. Get to know your wife. Make sure she knows that you are really trying now, BUT don't make her think she is being judged on her performance. Part of the reason why your sex is less frequent may be because she doesn't want to hurt your or her feelings. Go into it with a sense of play and experiment. "Let's both see what gives us the best time."

3- I'm not kidding here. Many (though not all) guys who are cut need more of a pounding kind of fucking, with really long strokes, in order to get stimulated. You may be one of them. Many women need shorter strokes with more of a grind at the end in order to be stimulated. This does not mean that you have to restore your foreskin or get a guy like me to fuck your wife. It does mean that you may have to make different strokes than you have been doing, and that you normally might want to do, in order to satisfy your wife.

After your longer foreplay, and her starter orgasms, enter her slowly in short strokes going just a little deeper each time. Try a different stroke than you normally do, shorter. Can she take you deep? If she can, try grinding on her a bit on your deep, shorter strokes. Also try positions where her legs are together. Very important, try positions where she can control the stroke, cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. Let her show you the best strokes for her.
If you use enough lube and her orgasm opens her up, after she cums you may be able to use your longer strokes to cum yourself.

Fuck generously. It is always the best way.
 
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Yeah, I think everything has gotten a little messed up in the past year. We need to start at stage one and talk about everything again. Foreplay is an absolute must from now on. Such a rookie mistake on my part. Thanks for the comment uncutpete.
 

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I've been where you are with a few partners, and yes, I know how hard it is to cum when you can't go fast nor deep. I'd tell you to go out and buy a set of "Seymore Butts' Not Too Deep Donuts" ( Seymore Butts' Not Too Deep Donut Set - Rings For Couples - Toys For Two - Racy.com ), but they stopped making them. They work to help you stop causing pain from too much penetration, so you can again fuck with abandon, but honestly they are built a bit too tight if you have a dick approaching 6" around.

But what I did before I got a hold of those, was to do plenty of foreplay (both of us) before intercourse and then after my partner was satisfied, she'd get me off with her mouth and hands. No, it's not the same as cumming while fucking, but not such a bad alternative, all things considdered.